she uses all sorts of excuses for this and I try to tell her only to be ignored and then she invites me to go somewhere w/ her the next time and so I accept and try to be as nice as I can but eventually she ends up saying something hurtful to, me anyway and Ive tried to even stay away from her for days at a time w/ no contact what so ever only to go through to same thing a few days after we get together again Ive tried to think its all my fault and try to be better only to be dragged down emtionally but I cant get out anywhere w/o her because of lack of transportation where I live so how can I get through to her thats shes hurting me even when I speak up only to be ignored help???????????????
2007-05-31 15:31:59 · 20 answers · asked by tacsaszar 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You deal with it by staying away from her. She has no respect for you because you are a doormat.
2007-05-31 15:42:01 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that girl should be worthy of your time. It's obvious that she can't keep her word (when she seems to apologize for it but it ends up happening again), is immature (by mocking you) and just flat out rude by making fun of you and calling you names.
Anyway, if I were you I'd break up with her for good. She has hurt you numerous times and has injured you emotionally-which can sometimes be just as bad as getting injured physically. I know you probably care about her and you enjoy her helping you out with transportation but let's be real for a second, do you really want to be around with somebody who has very little respect for you and hurts you emotionally w/o thinking about how it makes you feel? I'm sure you can ride the bus, ride a bike or get a ride with a different person-or get your own car. Before breaking up with her you could talk to her and explain how you feel one more time. If she's genuinely sincere when she apologizes, give her another chance-but if she's just making up excuses and mess, then forget her. I know that's kind of harsh, but nobody should have to put up with a person walking all over them like that. You treat people how to treat you and you're not garbage-so don't let a person treat you that way.
It's your life, so you can decide what you wanna do. If you wanna stay with the girl, then okay. If you don't, then okay too. Do what you feel though!
Good luck!!
2007-05-31 22:45:29 · answer #2 · answered by sweetdollツ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Someone who does that to you cares nothing for you and you don't want to be in a relationship that is one sided. You deserve better than that. Besides if you only need her to get around than you probably are just using her anyway. Find some other way to get around. You can always walk but anything you have to do is going to be better than putting up with that all the time. It's not worth it to your self confidence.
2007-05-31 22:36:55 · answer #3 · answered by blessed mommy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. You need to decide whether it is worth it to spend time with her.
2. Part of the problem is how you react to her. She doesn't really define your value, you know. She's probably as insecure and immature as you are. Consider the source.
3. Start making some other friends that you can enjoy. She's not the only one around, I imagine.
2007-06-01 00:14:53 · answer #4 · answered by The First Dragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seen that you don't love this person you only want to be able to get out when you want to and she has transportation and you don't, this is the only reason that you keep seeing her. The answer is easy if she don't hear you when you tell her that she hurt your feeling then you have to let her go and just find you another way to get around.
2007-05-31 22:40:31 · answer #5 · answered by kool aid 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Whats good for the goose is good for the gander. Start doing it to her. Lil things like get in the car and say your hair looks bad today. Things like that. Or say "your wearing that outfit again today". Then when she says she is hurt by what you said. Say that's how you feel. If she is rude to you in front of friends do it to her.
2007-05-31 22:43:21 · answer #6 · answered by Shirley D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get away, you two need to stay apart, first she is using you to make herself feel better, and you are using her for a ride. This is no relationship and will never amount to anything.
2007-05-31 22:38:40 · answer #7 · answered by Mandy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you actually need to ask how to deal with a moron like that ?? You sound like you are a nice trying person...So tell her to take a hike..
2007-05-31 22:39:26 · answer #8 · answered by prizmblue2002 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she treats you like that, then you have absolutely no business calling her your girlfriend. You really hould leave her alone, and find another girl to be with.
2007-05-31 22:54:53 · answer #9 · answered by Mike M. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LIKE HELLO, dump her. You are just wasting ur time with a person that doesn't love you or wants to be ur g/f. She doesn't want to be ur g/f any more. Find another girl that loves you!!
2007-05-31 22:40:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋