Since God hates divorce, why is the divorce rate so high ?

Question

"I hate divorce," says the LORD God of Israel, "and I hate a man's covering himself with violence as well as with his garment," says the LORD Almighty. So guard yourself in your spirit, and do not break faith."---Malachi 2:16
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Answer 1

The divorce rate is so high because humans seek their own humanness - and do not seek to live their lives for Christ.

We let our sin rule our lives.

When God is out of the equasion - division occurs.
Peace.

Answer 2

To many people have read Cinderella and Prince Charming.
They believe that marriage is happy forever after and that Prince charming doesn't lay on the couch after work and drink a beer and watch football games.
Paying the house payment is not his top priority and his favorite present is a ticket to watch a sports event.
Not a romantic dinner for two with you as his prime objective.
For some reason they swallow more air than women and don't mind releaseing it in big burbs and farts.
They must itch a lot because they love to scratch their crotch or maybe they are just checking to see if everything is still there. They can roof a house and put in a new bathroom.
But when it comes to changing a roll of tiolet paper when it runs out is beyond their scope of expertese.
He helped me design a beautiful master bedroom with a large dresser. But he is unable to find his socks in the top drawer. He also forgets a dinner party you planned a month in advance. But remembers the guys are coming here next year for superbowl sunday. It takes a special person to live with a man for the rest of your life.
Just know ahead of time it takes work and planning.
But when he looks up at me with those big cow eyes and says "Honey, I love you so much your the best thing that ever happen to me, and I know it."
that makes everything else seem small.
He is definitely a red neck country boy, can't help but love him, and yes he gets to stay for the rest of his life.
I told him divorce is not an option. Maybe I shouldn't have said that???

Answer 3

http://www.religioustolerance.org/chr_dira.htm

George Barna, president and founder of Barna Research Group, commented:

"While it may be alarming to discover that born again Christians are more likely than others to experience a divorce, that pattern has been in place for quite some time. Even more disturbing, perhaps, is that when those individuals experience a divorce many of them feel their community of faith provides rejection rather than support and healing. But the research also raises questions regarding the effectiveness of how churches minister to families. The ultimate responsibility for a marriage belongs to the husband and wife, but the high incidence of divorce within the Christian community challenges the idea that churches provide truly practical and life-changing support for marriages."


"Barna's results verified findings of earlier polls: that conservative Protestant Christians, on average, have the highest divorce rate, while mainline Christians have a much lower rate. They found some new information as well: that atheists and agnostics have the lowest divorce rate of all. George Barna commented that the results raise 'questions regarding the effectiveness of how churches minister to families.' The data challenge 'the idea that churches provide truly practical and life-changing support for marriage.' "


"Variation in divorce rates by religion:

Religion - % have been divorced
Jews - 30%
Born-again Christians - 27%
Other Christians - 24%
Atheists, Agnostics - 21%


"The data showed that the highest divorce rates were found in the Bible Belt. "Tennessee, Arkansas, Alabama and Oklahoma round out the Top Five in frequency of divorce...the divorce rates in these conservative states are roughly 50 percent above the national average" of 4.2/1000 people."


http://www.barna.org/FlexPage.aspx?Page=BarnaUpdate&BarnaUpdateID=170

"Born Again Christians Just As Likely to Divorce As Are Non-Christians"

"Among married born again Christians, 35% have experienced a divorce. That figure is identical to the outcome among married adults who are not born again: 35%"

Answer 4

Well one reason is because many times people will rush into marriage. The person that they thought they loved was not the person they thought, Also in our culture it is easier for one to get divorce than to work it out. Adultery is another major factor. Then there is also Hollywood where one day a celebrity is married and the next day they realize after the alcohol wears off what they done. As with everything else our society makes it to easy.

Answer 5

Someone mentioned the lower divorce rates among atheists. This is true. Studies consistently show that people with higher education levels tend to stay married longer. More atheist are highly educated. Studies also show that persons who marry later in life tend to have more successful marriages. Many Christians tend to marry at an early age in order to avoid the temptation of fornication. They believe they are following the Bibles counsel at 1Corinthians 7:9 "...it is better to marry than to be inflamed with passion." However they disregard the counsel to wait until their virginity is "past the bloom of youth" (1Corinthians 8:7) when their hormones have settled somewhat and they are better able to make a wise choice.
Another reason Christian marriages fail is because of the idealism that sometimes accompanies it. Neither mate is able to live up to the others ideal of what a Christian husband or wife should be. (Proverbs 13:12)

Answer 6

Hate meant a completely different thing in those days.

Harmony is harmony; disharmony is the only sin against God. (all sins mentioned in the Bible seem to relate to disharmony; in one way another.)

That was the unvarnished message from Jesus. (Divorce was mentioned because it was associated with disharmony.)

edit: When it comes to disharmony, we Christians cause it just as much as non-Christians. We simply have an inner peace that things will be better in Heaven. The divorce rate has climbed since the 1950's because society in general does not usually discriminate against divorced people, like it did in the past. - Now if a person feels miserable being married to their mate, they have more options and less discrimination by society in general.

Answer 7

Well He sets a pretty high standard for us all . Sometimes getting a divorce is the best thing for everybody especially the kids involved.
People get into marriages with the best intentions but sometimes it just doesn't work out. If you get punished at the end of your days for trying to be honest and trying to be happy then I guess it will be one of the millions of things we do wrong in the life .

Answer 8

because people think that they are in love and cant live without the other person. but when they finally learn of the others habits they somtimes realize that they can not or do not want to change for the other. they want the companionship but thery don't want tohave the give and take it needs to survive. some people just get married for money, some cause they get pregnant, and some because they are told not to. all these usually result in devorce. there are two true reasons for devorce that i can see 1 is adultery 2 abuse

Answer 9

Ask the government and lawyers who grant frivolous divorces. God does not condone divorce except in cases such as abuse or adultery. Anyone who divorces without the 2 stipulations above are committing a sin. And if they remarry, they are committing another sin, because in God's eyes they are still married to their first spouse. No fault divorce is not acceptable in God's eyes

Answer 10

The Church has done a lousy job of stressing the Sacramental nature of Holy Matrimony (two becoming one flesh) and the Protestants have all but ignored it....bad catechesis.