Take a breaking from dating ? Almost 31 and feel SO OLD !?

Question

Im nearly 31 and although I have taken good care of myself, live healthy and have good genes, I feel older now.
People say I look super young and bright eyed but I keep thinking baout marriage/kids all the time now.
My friends/cousins have all gotten married/engaged and I feel lame to be totally single.
I just wasted the last 6 months on a guy who was sweet, smart, funny, handsome, great job, wants marriage /kids.
But I had to break up with him today. His red flags were drinking, bad with money, vain /shallow and he still misses his exfiancee who left him a year ago.
So Im sad and alone.
I have two paths to choose right now. I was just offered an intensive work assignment that is once in life time chance to work on software development and make around 200k between now and January 08.
Or I could be happy that I have 175k already in my bank account (but I only rent/dont own) and spend the summer/fall looking for love.
This temp job offer's so TIME CONSUMING i wont have time

I wont have time for dating or barely have time for friends if i take this temp job.
Which would you choose ? 200-250k in just 6-7 months but no social life.
Or keep looking for love and not focus on money ?
I have lots going for me other than my bank account. This is SO hard.

Answer 1

Hi;
There are things we can do to keep ourselves looking and feeling younger. The remark about renting and not owning makes me think you're interested in buying a home. That 200K would come in very handy for that. You might take some of the free time you'll have during the temp job assisnment (they'll be a few minutes, I'm sure) and look into some of the things you can do to keep yourself looking and feeling young. For instance, a great deal of wear-and-tear on the body comes from the build up of toxins in our bodies. The colon is one of the primary organs for helping remove those toxins. There are OTC colon cleansers, colonics, hydrotherapy... all with the intent of helping remove trapped, imbedded, or otherwise retained toxins (which become even more toxic the longer they're resident). Yoga or other disciplined physical activity, eating very healthy, adequate hydration... sunlight... ocean air and activity if you're near... these things are all just as important as finding someone to share intimacies and connect with.
My rationale here is that you won't be 'wasting' anything. You get the additional home purchasing funds, come out looking as good or better, and - with the newfound knowledge gained from doing a little 'healthy research' - you'll not have lost 6-7 months but perhaps have added years.

I hope there's something here for you.

gl


wayne

Answer 2

first of all, 31 is not old and as long you keep thinking 31 is old, then you will be old. yes, its a shame that some of our dream fall short becoming reality. That is part of life but the hard part for us is how well we handle our short coming.

I would take on the assignment to develop the software since that is once in a life time shot and it would be great for my job experience.

If love is more important to you right now, then turn down the offer and get yourself back out there and find your love. I guess that you want to start your family so you don't feel left out, then do it. Remember this is a choice you must make on your own and not what other thinks you should do.

I feel you will make the best choice for yourself. good luck!

p.s. if love have a sister...send her my way...wink! smile

Answer 3

You are not old, the signs you mention make me think it's your "body clock" that has started ticking. You have nothing to hold you back from your "once in a lifetime dream job" (and it only lasts 6-7 months) -- why not go for it? Who knows, even if you won't have time for dating, you might meet your man of your dreams during your assignment and can date afterward (since it's all done before Feb 14 -- that would be a good time to hit the circuit & it's really not too far away). Best of luck to you & your dreams!

Answer 4

Take the job. When you go looking for love, you wont find it. Find another man in the industry if you want.

By the way, those reasons you broke up with him for? He sounds like a lot of guys, and unless he's an abusive alcoholic, or extremely bad with money so that he spends more than he makes, or very vain, in which case most men are, it doesnt seem hes such a bad catch - other than the fact that he misses his ex fiancee.

Answer 5

First, you aren't old. I met my boyfriend when he was 32. He felt similar to you: wanted to settle down, felt alone, felt like he was never going to meet anyone. Then he met me! And I have a feeling he's going to ask me to marry him soon. So, there is always a chance.

Second, you've pretty much answered your own question. You have a "once in a life time chance." Why wouldn't you take it?

Third, love can happen at any moment. It also tends to happen when you aren't looking for it. But if it's meant to be, you'll make time for it.

So, which is easier? Take the summer giving up a chance of a life time and take no guarantee of love, or take the chance of a life time job and have at least that much?

Do what's good for you! Don't sit around waiting for love to happen!

Answer 6

hon.,...i am 31 almost 32...

you are not old..unless I am too...

go to yahoo personals/match.com/harmony.com and look at the avg age...

guess what...it is OUR AGE!! we're not that old...so don't worry about all that :) just you keep that body rockin ;)

hell marry me...that is some bank acct...sorry to be superficial..it is just that military doesn't allow ANYONE to save 175k...

but i am not judging only by money I know better than that ;) sorry if I was coveting your means..it is just that again,....military members don't make anything ;)

i don't drink. smoke, do drugs, etc..I am great with money and will support any job you might have..and if you feel like dating right now is too hectic..we have all the time in the world

Answer 7

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Answer 8

no one can truly answer this question --- it maybe that when you stop looking someone will find you so why not give the job a go --- its not THAT long and you dont know who you will meet in a new environment --- you are definitely NOT old --- best wishes and have fun

Answer 9

keep looking for mr right he's gotta be out there some where.