How do I tell my mom I'm agnostic?

Question

My mom is a fairly conservative Christian, and I have become agnostic recently. How do I tell her this without upsetting her too much?

Answer 1

She'll be upset by the fact no matter what, and she may begin devoting enormous amounts of time and effort to bring you back into the fold. It may be best to keep her in the dark.

If you absolutely must tell her, sit down with her, keep your voice calm and steady, and look her in the eye when you talk. The more you cower and worry, the more difficult the situation will be on you. If you're confident that you're correct, then you have nothing to fear. Just be sure that you can articulate why you think about the things you do, and emphasize what you *do* believe in, instead of any uncertainties you might have about her or your previous beliefs.

Answer 2

I wouldn't tell her...why do you want to upset her at all.

Live what you believe, and if she notices, she will ask you about the change in you.

You have just become agnostic recently. You could find something else that represents your beliefs even more within a short time, and change your direction again. I recommend that you leave your Mom out of it for the time being.

Answer 3

If you have just come to this conclusion I would wait a bit. Live the life for a while...you may decide different....either back to being a religious person, or you may decide you are atheist.....I started out as agnostic and after about 6 months I decided I was complete atheist...that was about 5 years ago and I just told my parents a few months ago...my dad is just now starting to speak to me a bit.....

Answer 4

Just tell her you need some time to figure things out. You'll get respect from her if you at least show respect for the traditions you are questioning. And really, it might be hard for her at first, but its part of what she signed on for in being a parent. Finally, keep the love alive. All else will be okay.

Answer 5

My mom was raised in a convent, and I'm an atheist. The best way is to plant the idea in her head a little. Do a little bit of foreshadowing. Say something like, "How can you be sure God exists?" Maybe not so blunt, though. Be creative. (Yes, I know that's what people say when they can't think of anything-I'm sorry!) Anyway, when you've planted the idea in her head a little, just tell her. It won't be as bad as you think-promise.

Answer 6

If conceitedness ability trusting your man or woman powers of reasoning rather of only blindly accepting each and everything you're instructed to think of, then it relatively is stable to be arrogant too. i think in God yet i might nevertheless quite stay in a international of skeptical inquirers than a international of dogmatic religionists.

Answer 7

Take the path of least resistance on this one. Sybil is right. You are undecided, and as a free thinking person, you have the right to explore this. Over time, your decisions will show and Mom will become adapted to them.

Answer 8

Send me her email address and I'll tell her for you! Maybe show her to this site and let her see what you have been up to!

Or maybe you could just tell her. It isn't like you are going to tell her you are an agnostic transexual who wants to retain both sexs! Breathe and let it out.

Answer 9

say

"Hey mom, I'm not a cultist. I'm agnostic"

Then, you'll find out if love truly means what it is supposed to mean to some people within certain cults.

Answer 10

Derives from the Greek agnostos, a = without, gnostos = known or knowledge