My soon to be husband and I are thinking of having a baby. I am 19 and he is 21. This is more his idea than mine, but i really feel like we are ready. We have been together for a long time, and will be getting married in 2 months, we have jobs..good income, a house & a really stable relationship.
I am ready to start trying but, i am hesitant about what his family is going to think since we are just going to be getting married...
my question is, should i really care what they think? i mean we're adults & going to soon be husband and wife....what do you think???
2007-05-31 14:40:17 · 11 answers · asked by amanda2120 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Well I think that you both are consenting adults....Both with good jobs and a house I say it is your choice. You are no longer the responsibility of your parents. You are both getting married...I think maybe your parents are just concerned that it is still the beginning and they don't want you to struggle later. Which is worth considering....There is no rush, right? I say do what you feel is right for you.But it is ultimately your decision...If you have all your ducks in a row then go for it!!
2007-05-31 14:48:47 · answer #1 · answered by spunkygirl77 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I fell pregnant 9 months and 2 days before our wedding was to take place we had depositis down on everything but in the end we made the decision not to have a huge wedding instead we got married at the court house with two friends and you know what it was fantastic as it was just about us and no one else. We then had a BBQ afterwards and surprised everyone and the best bit of all....was it was all done 5 days before I had our gorgeous son Charlie who is now 11 weeks old. Your life changes in a way you cannot imagine. He is our universe, so if you want a honeymoon and a wedding day with no morning sickness wait but if you want a wedding day feeling the love you both have growing inside you go for it only you both can decide.
2007-05-31 21:51:42 · answer #2 · answered by Lucky Mummy to 2!!! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im going to be honest with you. First you are only 19...you not ready. You hubby is 21 and he is not ready. I am 21 and let me tell you i was not ready. I had a great career and i was with my hubby for 7 yrs..we were NOT ready...
You are adults...and you are taking care of yourself. but are you seriously ready to drop everything and put you life on hold to take care of an innocent child. Its not as easy as it looks. Really...i love my daughter..and i wouldnt change past..but yea..i wasnt ready and i do not wish a child upon no young unmarried or soon to be married couple..get your life together...Child can make a marriage life really ROcKY...but of course..its your choice..not mine or anyones
2007-05-31 22:28:05 · answer #3 · answered by Special K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you have to ask you are not ready to have a child. i got pregnant when i was 16 and had another one 5 years later.neither was a planned pregnancy. if i had to do it over again i would have waited until i was in my mid to late twenties. just spend time together first. no matter how long you have been together when you get married your relationship changes in a way. i wish my husband and i could have spent somemore time together just he and i before the kids came along.
2007-05-31 23:45:11 · answer #4 · answered by amanda l 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should have a baby when you are ready and not anyone else. do not rush into having children though, marriage tends to change your relationship a bit, and being newlyweds, you may want lots of time to yourself for at least a year or two before you have babies..after the kids come that means you will not have as much one-on-one time as you would like. you have tons of time to have kids, enjoy each other for a few years first!
2007-05-31 21:47:39 · answer #5 · answered by omorris1978 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a decision that only you can make. Having a baby can show lot's of different moods swings, such as depression but most adult likes the experience of having children. The decision is difficult (trust me, I know) and you shouldn't decide too quick. Take some time for it.
2007-05-31 21:48:31 · answer #6 · answered by Kevin T 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should do what you two want todo it's your choice and who cares what other people think. Most people end up having babies right after they get married. If I was you and you really want a baby I would start trying. Good luck
2007-05-31 22:07:29 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust me you are not ready~I got pregant on purpose when i was 20, and I was married. I realized after the baby was born, that I really should have waited and lived my life. Once u have a child, forget about yourself, cause it is all about the child.
2007-05-31 21:45:42 · answer #8 · answered by BRANDI R 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You'll never regret it! I had my first son at 22 and now have my second little girl at 24. I can't imagine my life without them! They bring my husband and I so much happiness! Sure you have rough times but there's never a second that I wish they never came along. Someday when you're old you'll only regret the ones you didn't have not the ones you did.
2007-05-31 21:50:40 · answer #9 · answered by oneofnine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should live your life and party it up and when you're done being a kid, then try. I'm 23 with baby #3 due anyday. I was 19 when I got pregnant with my first and I love her, but I wish I had waited because I missed out on being young and going out with my friends.
2007-05-31 21:44:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋