Is anyone concerned with all the military men that go to strip clubs?

Question

And the wives that let them do it? I knwo its their business, but I can't believe these wives, think their men are not cheating on them, liek when they go to war, the men are not on "My Space" lookign at half dressed women and talkign to them, instead of concentrating on the war. I wouldn't put up with it, I don't know why they do. It alll started when I saw a miltary wife in a car with a sticker (magbet/ribbon)on the back of her car that said "Support a stripper."

Why a mile away from every military installation is either a strip club if not a fremason lodge.

I did serve with military men and civilian men who liked the strippers, a civilian tried to rape me once, thank goodness our military men never did by the way.

Actually I haven't been cheated on, I am a christian. So that might shed some light on the subject. A person is either cheate don, or has been raped, or is a christian.

SO IF THESE WOMEN ARE ONLY INTERESTED IN MONEY< THEN HOW DID THIS WOMEN BECOME A STRIPPER/WIFE, OH MY BAD, NO YOUR BAD< THE GUY MET HER AT THE CLUB AND DID MORE WITH HER THEN JUST GAVE HER MONEY OVIOUSLY!

Answer 1

It is suprising how some women will happily let their hubbys go to strip bars and others will file for divorce over it. Both scenerios are extremely common in the military. There are so many strip clubs on Oahu as well as *massage* parlors where you can get a massage with a happy ending. There are also alot of military bases on this one little island. As someone above said "supply and demand."

A huge percentage of these guys are young, first time away from mommy and have money to burn. They have very little responsibilies and probally are only making a motorcycle payment. I did know of a few military wives who were strippers. One was also a mommy of 2 and used the money to pay for her new car.

My ex husband, a military member, would frequent these places often. I objected since it put a HUGE wegde between us, emotionally and financially, plus it took time away from the kids and I.

Personally I think these clubs and parlors exploit young women. There's back rooms where much more than what goes on on stage happens. Many do *date* the patrons and keep in contact via cell, text messaging and email. I agree that that military members could be using their time in more constructive ways than the exploitation of women.

Answer 2

The first and foremost thing that must be decided in a dwindling relationship is whether or not the relationship can be saved. Depending on how bad the relationship is, it can take a lot of work and both parties need to be in agreement that they want to fix it. Lets face it, if you want to fix it and she doesnt, there really isnt a whole lot that can be done at that point. Sad but true. A lot of times you will see people stay in a relationship from mere convience, as getting a divorce or splitting up would just be too much work and too much trouble. But there is nothing worse than a dead relationship. If the both of you cannot come to an agreement to fix the relationship, then end it, period. After both of you have decided that you want to fix your relationship, then you must pinpoint the problem of the relationship. The hard part about this step is that a lot of times people mistaken the symptons of the problems, and not the problems themselves. This can lead to doing a lot of work, but not seeing any or little results. You must nip the problem in the bud, you must go to the source. Communication is huge in this whole process. You will need to make sure that you are both comfortable with discussing how each other feels without getting upset at the other person. Everything needs to be laid out on the table in order for this to work, which means both of you needs to be able to listen to what the other one has to say. This is a pretty vital step and should not be overlooked or ignored. Lets face it, you two got together for a reason. What it all boils down to is finding that reason and getting it back again. It will be vital that you forget about yourself and think of only the other person and their feelings. If both of you can do this, there is pretty much nothing that can stop you from repairing your relationship, and keeping it strong for years to come. And dont forget that a relationship is a work in progress. It is never fully perfect, is something you should never stop working on. Even after you fix your intial problems, you will still need to stay on top of things and be there for the other person. And for heavens sake dont fall back into your old frame of mind that got you here in the first place.

Answer 3

Support a stripper? Did you stop to consider that maybe she IS a stripper? You make it sound as if you expect military personnel to be holier than priests. Wait a sec, most of them probably are, as they don't preach such garbage to the congregation then molest little boys. The only "innocents" in this world are babies. People start lying at a very young age.

You're basically judging every person who goes to a 'club' based on what you've probably heard from someone else who may have had a grievance with their spouse either real or imagined. There are plenty of women who get mad at their husbands if they even look in the general direction of a pretty woman. Such insecurities are childish in the extreme and are frequently passed down from mother to daughter.

Seriously, I'd suggest you seek psychiatric help.

Answer 4

My husband went to strip clubs on occasion mostly when TDY, but he never came close to spending too much...he's too cheap!

I looked at it this way - where would I rather have my husband when he was on liberty during TDY? At a strip club where the women were only interested in his money? Or at a regular bar where there were women nearly as undressed and looking for a one night stand? When I looked at it with that perspective, suddenly strip clubs weren't so bad after all.

If a man is going to cheat on you, he'll cheat on you whether or not he goes to strip clubs. If you can't trust your man, maybe you shouldn't be with him. The one time my husband crossed a line he shouldn't have crossed while in the military (not far enough over the line for me to divorce him) was in a regular bar, not a strip club. And I wouldn't have known anything about it if he wouldn't have told me.

I never worried about my husband going to a back room with a woman at a strip club. He wouldn't and didn't spend that kind of money.

I have no doubt that military wife driving that car was a stripper.

I've been to quite a few strip clubs myself, both with and without my husband - female strippers who paid absolutely no attention to me, female strippers who obviously went both ways, gay male strippers (without my husband), and male strippers where only female customers were allowed.


***Starsha43, in response to your additional question about how did this woman become a stripper - did it occur to you that maybe she became a stripper after she married him? Some guys get into other men "appreciating" their wife.

Answer 5

O.K. No, I would not be pleased if my husband went to a strip club. Has he gone to them? Yes he has. But I know that he is a good man and he always came home to me. That was years ago when we were in college and now we have been married nearly 26 years. I don't condone the places but I think if a military man wants to go he should be able to.

I really don't think that if a man goes to a strip club it will effect the way they do business on the battle field. One has nothing to do with the other.

Answer 6

Men go to strip clubs, that is what they do. It is not only military men. I used to work in an all male environment and the men talked me into going to a high class club with them. Nothing but ugly women who have a good shape who can kick and squat. There was no cheating going on, but just like Jimmy Carter, I'm sure they lusted in their hearts.

Answer 7

There's not a strip club within a mile from the base we're at. There was one about 4 miles away (LOL) but it burned down.

The military wife you saw may have been a stripper, who knows. I really don't see a problem with strip clubs.

There's a Hooters down the street from us too. Another military wife ask me to go to lunch one day, and when deciding where to go, that's what she suggested. We went to Red Robbin instead, but maybe it was the military wife that was going to the strip club? As long as they don't do anything that's a lie to their spouse or something their spouse is against, who cares?

Answer 8

When not readily available, men will turn to the business end of sex.

You women will get attention and talk for your jollies. Very easy for you to get your rocks off, then be able to complain about how men go about this.

We're visual creatures. If all they're doing is going to the strip club and not completely draining the finances, then it's harmless.

And lets be real here....there are no strip clubs in Iraq, Afghanistan, or Kuwait.

Stress relief comes in a myriad of ways.

Next time you chat up some guy for shits and giggles, be sure to realize you're essentially going to a strip club yourself for all intensive purposes.

Answer 9

The majority of the Armed Forces are Young White / Colored / Hispanic...etc...etc.... Single Men, if they want to go look at naked young things then its there business.

If married men go to strip joints it does not say much for their commitment to their marriage.

But, we could also ask why do girls / women married or single lust after Chippendale type boy strippers??

Whats good for the Goose is also Good for the Gander :-P

Answer 10

I think you've been cheated on at one point or another.

Not all of us are cheaters. I've never cheated on any of my girlfriends or my ex wife. I used to go to strip clubs but mostly to get models for my paintings. You see I'm a multi award winning artist (or at least I used to be).

Don't judge us all by your bad experiences.