Why can't I stick to one guy only?

Question

I tend to sleep w/ almost every guy I meet. I do use protection and all. I'm 26 y/o and have slept w/ almost 200 men, I was sexually active at the age of 16. Do I sleep w/ men because I have low self-esteem?? I cannot stay faithful to one guy, I cheat all the time.

Answer 1

Your not a whore, because every man tries to do this on a daily basis....however, if it makes you feel bad then go see a counciler, you might have a personality disorder or depression or something alot more serious. Alot of mental illnesses list frequent sex with multiple partners a symptom.

Good luck to ya

Answer 2

Good for you for using protection. If you're asking 'cause you're feeling bad about it, I'll say yeah it's usually about self esteem, and you cheat because you don't really like or respect the guys. Also you probably like the thrill of the chase or being chased 'cause it's a good ego boost. You can be faithful if the guy is right for you, it just probably hasn't happened yet.
You didn't say anything about actually liking sleeping with them so I think it's about self esteem.
If you're looking to cool it down a bit: It's obvious that you're an attractive girl if you're getting so many guys, so why not stop once you give out or get the phone number, rather than by sleeping with them?
Also watch how much you drink when you go out. That will cloud your judgment and make you live in the moment.
Good luck, and ignore all the name calling.

Answer 3

It's probably because your looking for something that you have not found yet.

When you find the right person you will know it and won't want to be with anyone else. Your still young you do not need to be in any hury.

With respect to sleeping with so many men, well that's your business and no one elses but you need to be very careful, not just because of all the deceases out there but also because some people get emotional ties from sleeping with people just once.

If you are with one of those types it could cause you more problems then you can even imagine.

Answer 4

You cheat because you either have a sexual addiction or because you just want attention. You just want someone to show you love, and that is what you feel when you sleep with those guys. In the end you regret it, and just feel worse about yourself. You do have low self-esteem and need to find another way to feel the void. I am going through the same thing, but I haven't slept with as nearly as many guys as you. I've been abstaining for 6 weeks now, to see what I really want, so I don't make the same mistakes in the next guy.

Answer 5

umm i would say that that is a problem.....okay im not trying to mean any harm to you if i say anything that offends you then i am sorryy..but here is the truth....
you crave male attention because maybe something with your father or brother maybe they werent around a lot or something but maybe that isnt it
but you do crave male attention maybe because you like the way you feel when you are with a guy
or it may be because you have a low selfesteem and you want guys to make you feel better but in realityy they are thinkign that you are easy cause you have had sex with so many guyss
to saty with a guy here are some tips
- dont go out and party a lot a boyfriend thinks that girls that party to much are usually a turn off and guys think of you as a hook up
- dont wear slutty or revealing clothes out.....it looks trashyy or like you are a piece of meat
- alwayss be honest with your mann
- tell him about your past he may think of it as a turn off but he will know that you are atleast honeset about it
- if you think that you are going to hook up with someone else then call him or have a pic in your wallet of him and write a note on the back of it "is it worth losing this" and look at it before you cheat
-one last thing stay busy with your man plan cute dates out and stuff like that so that you dont get bored and cheat
i hope that this helped if not than i am sorry.

Answer 6

It sounds like you have low self-esteem and try to find validation in sleeping with these guys. Makes you feel attractive.

Another problem that I believe you suffer from is impulse control. You feel the urge to have sex and, apparently, never refuse the chance.

Seek some counseling. It is only a matter of time before the condom breaks and you get pregnant/STD's!

Stay away from guys until you work on yourself.

Answer 7

First of all make sure that you are getting tested on a regular basis for STD’s because sleeping with so many people puts you at high risk for contracting a sexually transmitted disease and if I were you I would be more worried about my health than my commitment problems. It may be that you are scared to commit to one person, but maybe you haven’t met the person you want to commit to. Maybe you should try taking the time to get to know someone before you jump into bed with them and try to have a more meaningful relationship with someone that you think has potential. There is no rush, you don’t have to jump from one man to the next, try to stick it out for a while and see if things work out. There is more to a relationship than sex.
Good luck

Answer 8

wow you are simply a cheap little hussy......... maybe it is because you have low self esteem but you shouldnt blame you sleeping around on that..... many women oh females have low self esteem but they definately do not go around with such men practically by the sounds of it 24/7. why bother getting into relationships if you cant keep to one man. you only hurt them thats if they care about you anyway and dont just see u as a hussy which i imagine you must have a bit of a reputation........ look go get help. stop being a sleep around. and dont look for excuses. you know what your doing. other wise you would not have posted this question.. my god and just because you say u use condoms........ still go get tested u probably have caught or passed on some form of std!.

Answer 9

your definitely looking for attention and don't want your feelings to get involve in a relationship, so that is why you move on from guys so quickly. Maybe there is something in your life that is bothering u and u don't want to think about it so u focus on something that makes u feel in control which is sleeping with guys. You first need to admit u have a problem and try to find out what that problem is. For now stop what your doing u might hurt someone or even u in the process.

Answer 10

yes u have low self esteem. u use sex to get a man. it makes u feel good. or u think it makes u feel good. cause the more u do it, the more esteem you lose.
forget about all the things u did in the past. what happend to you, the way people treated you.
every day u have infinite capacity to change. know ur worth. ur worth is not based on having a bf. ur worth is not based on how u look or even the tangible. ur worth is based on how u act and what u give to others AND yourself.
give love. love is intangible. love is patient, trusting, kindness.
remember: your body is a TEMPLE. this includes your brain and your emotions.
you may have give your body to many but they did not take your soul and emotions.
find a hobby to keep yourself busy and wait for the right man to share your soul and your body with.
you are WORTH IT!:)

Answer 11

well that's very just remember one thing, you can get STD: AIDS, HERPES and these aren't fun, besides you do need to control yourself. and don't think you can't. And maybe, you just didn't find the right guy yet. also don't forget that there are probably a lot of rumors about you now, and so a guy that you might really like might not pay attention to you because he might think you are low and he might also want a serious relationship. so my suggestion is that you should stop drinking for a while if you do and try as hard as you can to stop