I am muslim, and wasnt very religious before. i fell in love with a hindu and we are really in love. but now i got kind of religious and islam forbids that i marry a hindu. we had an argument and broke up and during that time we set up a meeting with a family to discuss marriage. however now i am back with my hindu bf and i cant decide where to go. if i got with him, then i will go to hell, but be completely happy forever here on earth. if i got with the muslim family i will have a high status in society and maybe go to jenna. this is a question between love and religion, and i dont know whose heart i will have to break to answer it... help!
2007-05-31 12:55:38 · 20 answers · asked by Rachel F 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
No one has seen hell or heaven! Who knows what happens after death. But we know what life is. There is huge cultural difference between a Hindu and a Mohammaden. Had it been just two of you, I would have advised you to Go Ahead . But it is a matter of two families. What when you have kids and question of their upbringing arises? Are you both broadminded enough to have best of both the cultures and avoid what is not good for Harmony? Though there is only one religion,ie,LOVE but the path of love is strewn with difficulties. If you are morally strong to withstand all the storms, take the plunge. If not, follow the much trodden path and marry someone of your own community.If you are already facing dillema,do what your parents want. Besides, there are no guarantees in marriage. Ultimately, it is a question of mutual compatability.
2007-06-02 03:05:03 · answer #1 · answered by HimJoy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is very simple. Reading other people's answer, I like what some of them have said. Don't marry him. Find someone in your religion. I may not believe in Islam but I respect it, as I respect other religion. It is ok to have friends of other religion but it is a bad idea to marry someone outside of your own religion.
What if you marry him and year from now he gets religious. What if he wants you to change your religion and wants you to go to temple. Let say because you love him so much you convert for him. With all the tension going on between Hindu and Muslim, one of his friend talks bad about Muslim people, would you be able to handle it.
You never said what was the outcome of family meeting. If they are against it, there is noway you should even think about getting married to this guy. Do you have any idea how bad they will feel.
To me there is something bigger than love, and religion. And that my friend is parents. You said you fell in love with this guy. They fell in love with you the day you were born. So don't even think of breaking their heart so you can have your love.
So show respect to them, instead of asking strangers what to do ask them. They love you. They wants whats best for you. We are here because we are bored, and its addictive.
May god be with you.
2007-05-31 23:45:07 · answer #2 · answered by Indy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in the words of MK Ghandi lover of all religions
"God Knows No Religion" as long as you believe in God then everything will be fine. Getting married doesnt mean that you have to change your religion. Be in love, be happy. You'll find that Hindu's are very peaceful and kind people. I think you would be making a wise life choice
2007-06-01 12:55:16 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what ever makes you happy and what ever feels right to you. Sounds like a difficult situation. I'm not religious my self and don't believe that people would be sent to Hell for loving someone of a different religion, it doesn't make sense to me. A lot of religions seem to forbid people to marry other people of different religions. I think it's more important to think about what kinda bloke he is, like if he is a good, kind hearted guy who is gonna love and and take of you. That's just my opinion really and probably not helpful as I'm not religious. I think you should ask your self what feels right to you.
2007-05-31 20:32:57 · answer #4 · answered by xoɟ ʍous 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How, in the eyes of any god, could the happiness of two souls be wrong?
I would consult some people who you trust and think carefully about what is best for you. I could never imagine anyone telling me that I was going to hell because I wanted to love and be loved.
Also, what is you boyfriends thoughts on this? Is he willing to convert religions to be with the woman he loves?
Don't destroy your life on the words of others. Check out every possible answer before making a decision that will either make your soul grow or die.
2007-06-01 04:23:16 · answer #5 · answered by A dad & a teacher 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You seen too young to fully appreciate the meaning of religion. Let me introduce to the phenomena called religion.
From the time immemorial mankind is plagued with two eternal questions.
1) How was the life before birth?
2) How the life would be after death?
In search of answers to above two questions, the prophets of the world evolved various theories. Each theory is termed as a seperate religion. In absence of any organised society or state, religion has played a major role to provide a code of conduct and maintained the society organised for better part of history. But the religion has out lived it's utility. Though there are still some grey areas where the State is falling short in providing codes of collective and individual behavior. Religion is relevent to us to that extent only.
Now regarding the question you posed. In light of above facts it is you who have to decide the priorities and preferences in life. Forget about heaven and hell. They are crapes. But I sincerely do wish you to take in to account the feeling of your parents. It would be sad to hurt them. If they are with you, take the plung. If not, wait till better sense prevailed. Make your educated decision. Best luck.
2007-06-01 04:07:31 · answer #6 · answered by Panchal J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Frankly I think you have to go with your heart on this one. I am in a similar predicament in that I am a Catholic marrying a Protestant. I like to view my God as one that would be happy as long as I am happy and do good things here on Earth. The little I know about the Muslim faith is that prayer and good deeds are of significant importance as well. Besides what is high status if you are miserable?
2007-05-31 21:53:22 · answer #7 · answered by Baby boy arrived March 7th! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This IS a hard problem, because it sounds like religion and your bf are both play huge roles in your life. Really think about it though, and think about the future. How old are you? If you're young, then go with your religion. It may be hard, but think thoroughly about your future marraige. If you're about 20-35, then ask questions like: What will be the consequences of staying with my bf/religion?
I mostly follow what my heart says, and if I were you i'd stick with my bf, if he's really important.
If you can, though, try to find an answer where your religion and bf can be compatible.
2007-05-31 20:02:24 · answer #8 · answered by Michelle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
religion is important and it tells u how to live ur life
but i dont think that islam forbids that u marry a hindu unless it says that specifically, ur probably interpreting it wrong
i'm hindu so i probably dont know much about ur religion
but if u love the guy then u should marry him
u wont go to hell
and who knows about the after life?
live in the present here on earth
2007-05-31 23:57:57 · answer #9 · answered by Srishti =D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I shall advise you to follow the dictates of your heart and marry your boy friend. I think you are following a very narrow and rigid interpretation of religion. Religion enjoins us to love our fellow beings irrespective of religious or other differences. By loving and marrying your Hindu boy friend, you will not only be happy in life but in your after life as well. Islam is quite intolerant to women who marry outside their religion. It is not Allah, but people from Islamic society, especially mullahs, who make life miserable for such women. It is upto you whether you have the courage and conviction to defy these narrow minded people and marry your love.
2007-06-01 15:07:33 · answer #10 · answered by Modest 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋