My Husband and I got orders for relocation to Colorado from Texas. I have three kids from a previous marriage and their dad is here in Texas,he wants to stop me from taking them. He is a jerk and trying to make things hard on us. Would the judge allow us to move or what usually happens?
2007-05-31 12:15:41 · 13 answers · asked by Holly 1 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
My ex is a dead beat dad,and even when he is supposed to see the kids he doesn't....they get gifts through the mail. He wants to just make things hard on us,because we are happy. I have tried to get him to be involved,it is his loss.
2007-05-31 12:24:25 · update #1
While I sympathize with your problem...You don't seem to accept/respect that they are HIS children too. Looks like you managed to take them from him this long...why don't you let him have his role as parent now. (I won't call you a jerk...I'm sure , like him, you are simply a loving parent)
2007-05-31 12:21:46 · answer #1 · answered by gcbtrading 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I dont quite understand why you are being attacked here for asking a legitimate question.
He can try and make it hard for you. Odds are that you will be allowed to move but you will most likely have to agree on having the kids spend their summers and possibly switch off on holidays. That seems to be the usual and customary route taken when children and parents are divorced and living in different states. If you have custody of the children now and apparently you do, I do not see there being a problem with that but you will have to agree with the visitation set out by the family court judge. I don't think there is any call for making personal perspectives and judging or attacking someone for asking a real life question of concern and decisions that have to be made by divorced parents on a daily basis. It works both ways when one parent has custody of the children. The only thing I can think of that would throw a damper on it is his tying you up in court which could have some bearing on when you can legally take the children out of state with you to Coloradol I would seek advice from the family courts in regards to the matter.
2007-05-31 12:30:39 · answer #2 · answered by kathleen 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would think the judge would allow your moving -- but I'm not a lawyer. Still, such things happen all the time. Is it possible that you can find a way to get the kids and their father together on a regular basis? Or is he a bad influence on the children? Hopefully, your husband is fulfilling the father's role. It's a tough situation all around.
2007-05-31 12:23:27 · answer #3 · answered by jackbutler5555 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He can stop you, but that doesn't mean you can't fight him in court over it. I have a friend here in TX who's ex wouldn't allow her to take their child to the next county, which the house she was living in and the house she wanted to move to was maybe 15 miles apart.
I would try to have the courts take that rule out of your custody decree. When my husband got a divorce he made sure it never got into their divorce decree. He was granted custody, and we don't have to worry about what state we live in. He just told them he was military and couldn't say were he might have to move to, his ex did not complain though, so the courts had no problem with it.
2007-05-31 13:06:57 · answer #4 · answered by Just me 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My girlfriend had this same exact situation happen to her.
What happened was they both had to rework their custodial rights. Whereas he took them for a few weeks over the summer, over some holidays and she had the rest. As he was paying the child support. IF HE would have kept the kids, she would have had to pay the child support and agreed to the holiday thing. Eventually the judge worked it all out, but I do suggest you get in contact with a family attorney and have this all hammered out legally.
2007-05-31 12:26:12 · answer #5 · answered by Milmom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will have to ask a lawyer your immediate chain of command will put you on the right track, while your ex has rights how far is it your moving its not as if your leaving the country.
also by asking on here you've just opened yourself to the fathers rights crack pots, who've obviously got nothing better to do but stir it up rather than offer some constructive comments.
AJ
2007-05-31 12:25:57 · answer #6 · answered by andyjh_uk 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most likely you'll have to remain there until the custody suit is settled.
If you can prove that he isn't very involved, they may let you take them.
I went thru the same thing - TX courts. I was able to bring my child with us. But the dad had admitted to calling me excessively while driving drunk....and other things.
2007-05-31 12:40:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well...look if the kids want to saty let them stay dont take the away from the dad just because you wan to be happy and yeah....but if your kids want o go with you then there should be no problem kids go with the mom...you just have to be stable...the judge will probably give you the costudie or maybe half of the year you and summer him something like that they will split the costudie..you have to come up with a dile with your ex........good luck hun
2007-05-31 12:22:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
As long as he will still be able to see his kids, like maybe have them all summer, or something like that I don't see why the judge wouldn't allow it.
2007-05-31 12:21:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
most liklely the judge will rule in your favor, especially if he has a hisotry of not being involved intheir lives or paying child support.
2007-05-31 14:57:12 · answer #10 · answered by Mrsjvb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋