ok i broke up this guy after 6 montghs of datign and he he blamed his cheating, on me is t hat right??? and then i scheduled soemthing t do with one of my firneds and i know he likes me but then i cancelled it today and hes blaming everythign on me??? like is somehting worng with me that i get balemd fro everything in my life specially like when my mom left when i was younger it was my fault cuz i was the youngest i fing hate it.
2007-05-31 11:55:53 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Relax. No one wants to take the blame so they blame the next person. Guess who that next person is? If you don't want to be blamed...don't be such a nice person and do not take the blame. Stand up for yourself if you know its right.
2007-05-31 12:00:15 · answer #1 · answered by Simpleofmind 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure what all this has to do with your mother, unless you just kind of feeling like the scapegoat of the world.
Just remember that the blaming of others has no power unless you believe it and make the blame yours.
No, all guys are not his way, but often those who cheat, are immature or who refuse to take responsibility for other things also blame all relationship problems on the female. Run, girl. Just the wrong guys.
2007-05-31 19:05:48 · answer #2 · answered by Ande 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try and figure out WHY HE CHEATED. Is there something he hopes for or wants from you that he wasn't getting??
Men don't cheat and lie because they WANT to. They cheat
and lie because women FORCE them to all the time. Guys dont ENJOY living a lie. Many times inorder to hang on to the woman he really LOVES, he has to LIE in order to do it.
And guess what.... women ask men to LIE all the time.
EXAMPLES:
- Women who withhold sex from men until he says "I love you" is a guaranteed way to BEG a man to LIE to you to get sex.
- Withholding sex until marriage is ANOTHER way for a man to wind up disappointed and unsatisfied in the marriage and hope to look elsewhere for it.
- Asking a man for "something you would rather hear" than the TRUTH is another way to BEG him to lie to you. If he finds himself lying to you all the time to be politically correct because you will freak out if he doesn't is ASKING to be lied to.
"Were you checking that girl out??". There is nothing wrong with him saying "YES I WAS... SO??". But MANY women will act as though he cheated right there and in MOST cases would rather hear a LIE. "No! No! Not at all!! You are the only woman I ever notice".
Please. Gimme a break.
- Making a man jump through all kinds of rediculous hoops for your attention and affection is VERY OFTEN not worth a man's trouble and effort. Do you put too many constraints on this?? Because he would rather not work that hard for your attention and affection when there are other women who are more eager to offer these things for far less effort.
I could keep listing examples right into next week . . .
Women need to remind themselves that a guy as AS MUCH OF A RIGHT and RESPONSIBILITY to go out into the world and get WHATEVER he wants as any woman does. It is WRONG to blame him for that. If "she" has a problem with it, the problem is HERS. She shouldn't make it HIS.
You must ALWAYS remember that because he LIED or CHEATED MAY have something to do with YOU and your expectations of him.
2007-05-31 19:07:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Men are stupid honey. Life sucks but you just take it a day at a time. Don't try to change the past, it is impossible and don't worry about the future it hasn't happened yet!
2007-05-31 18:59:38 · answer #4 · answered by katiej47 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why shouldn't he, since all women blame their cheating on the guy. He is only doing what we learned from you girls.
Think of this...maybe it is your fault?
2007-05-31 18:58:54 · answer #5 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
no depends on the guy
2007-05-31 18:59:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES!!!! 99.3% of all guys are the same...........
2007-05-31 18:58:53 · answer #7 · answered by Jenn 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋