I am 47, twice divorced, and have tried Internet dating for a couple of years with not much luck; the farthest I ever got was a coffee date or something like that. So I gave up. I am not even looking for dates now...I am just enjoying my life being single, working at my two careers, etc. I am an Evangelical Christian and a Conservative Republican. Is it wrong for me to not be interested in dating for awhile? I am twice divorced. And how old should the women be that I date?
2007-05-31 11:44:45 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No, it's not wrong for you not to be interested in dating. Sometimes when we aren't looking for something, that's when we find it. By being twice divorced you should be wise , as to who you date. You don't want to be thrice divorced, or in a miserable relationship. Enjoy you.
2007-05-31 11:50:52 · answer #1 · answered by eagleman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before you even think about dating again, you will have to look into your heart and your very soul to find out more about yourself. Being divorced not once,but twice,, tells me that the shoe is pinching someplace and you would be wise to get into some form of counseling to help you unravel your part in not being able to remain in a stable relationship. I am not, in any way trying to put the blame on you or your ex wives. I known nothing about you, your wants, needs, aspirations etc. and any attempt at giving you any kind of advice would be inappropriate to say the least. I have been the route of Internet dating and found it to be a big rip off. I was looking in the wrong place and for the wrong reason. Finally, , with the help of a wonderful therapist I was able to put the past in perspective, and take responsibility for the role I played in my marriage. I am happily married again, and wish you the best.
2007-05-31 19:04:37 · answer #2 · answered by Alfie333 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're still hurting from your past relationships then it's okay and even advisable to stay off the dating scene for a while.
You're staying busy and not moping about so this is good. Spending some time concentrating on you will be good for you. And they always say that you meet the right person when you're not even looking.
As for what age woman to go for, who can say. You'll have less in common with people the further you go from your age group, but that's not always a bad thing.
Just do what makes you happy.
2007-05-31 18:56:47 · answer #3 · answered by Fifi L'amour 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with not dating, especially if you've had two unsuccessful marriages by the age of 45. It sounds like you need to do some reflecting upon those past experiences and learn what you did to contribute to their failure so you can hopefully not make the same mistakes when you do meet another person you want to start a relationship with.
2007-05-31 18:49:57 · answer #4 · answered by HearKat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can date a woman of any age it doesn't matter, my partner is ten years older than me....
No it is not wrong for you not be interested in dating for as long as you like, women probaly will find you more attractive if your not out looking for love and just relaxing with mates and enjoying life.
Good luck and dont stress.
2007-05-31 18:49:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong with taking a break from dating. That's what I'm doing...I'm more focused on getting a job. I can't tell you how old the women you are dating should be. That's for you to decide. Just try not to make them young enough so they could be your daughter...that is gross.
2007-05-31 18:50:39 · answer #6 · answered by Lorraine_us 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just enjoy the quiet, get a hobby and chill. I'd have thought you'd learnt your lesson by now. :) Go take some dancing lessons, dancing works wonders.
AJ
2007-05-31 18:51:25 · answer #7 · answered by andyjh_uk 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No there is absolutely nothing wrong with not wanting to date....you had unsuccessful relationships in the past...but that has nothing to do with today....Just continue to live your life and the right person will come along when you least expect it....Take care of yourself....Live you life....love yourself and do what makes you happy and when its meant for you to be in a realtionship itll happen....Dont look for it, let it happen....exude positivity and it will come back ten fold....Believe that...
2007-05-31 18:50:32 · answer #8 · answered by Holly J 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
first off become an atheist and join the nazi party.......dude,just pick broads up and one night `em. Enjoy. Juust kiddin`
2007-05-31 19:06:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your not too old. but dont go for someone thats WAY younger than you. just find someone around your age that you really like.
2007-05-31 18:48:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋