Am I in Love? I seek Godly counsil on this?

Question

I am a young man in the Assembly of God org. I met a girl in my new church, and I have been hurt before. I am almost 17, shes almost 16....anyway we have been dating for some time now and this doesnt feel like anything Ive so callislcly called love before, All I care about is her being happy, and what she gets out of the relationship as opposed to what I get, She is the most beautiful girl in the world inside and out. I prayed to God and I never seem to have doubt about us or feel its against Gods approval for us to be together. I havent dropped the L word yet, for some reason Im more nervous around her than any other girl before and I always pray for her soul to be uplifted, we have a similar calling on our life and we ALWAYS try to keep God first. I just knew the moment I met her I want her to be mine forever and I wanna give myself to her to make her the best she can be for God, and I aint obsessed with her like every other girl I dated, this isnt lust, but is it love?

Answer 1

Sweet stuff if you are both godly. You keep a comfortable distance.......stand the test of time...........and when your old enough.........you marry!

Answer 2

I grew up in a Pentecostal Assemblies of the World church. The social pressure to marry or pair up is an extreme part of the organization. My experience led me to believe that singles are practically outcasts; having neither their opinions or values taken very seriously. Everything seemed to be directed at the married people and singles were an after thought; even when there were singles groups activities. Everything was geared toward getting you to marry in order not to burn!

You are young yet. Enjoy the experience of caring about another person. Don't worry about love or marriage. As many of these marriages fail, are loveless and/or end in divorce (or should) as any others in our society; possibly more. Don't allow yourself to be rushed. Both of you need to complete high school and go on to college and more.

Continue to pray for her soul to be uplifted, as well as your own. Do not neglect being a youth! You are only young once and should not be overly concerned about matters that older people need attend to; such as love and marriage. It should suffice, for now, that you just enjoy each other.

You seem to be rather anxious about this, and that is a sign that it is not really love. Check your bible. 1 Corinthians chapter 13 gives a description of love that is universal in all relationships. It is a proper Christian measurment of any kind of love. It is described as "charity," in the King James version of the bible, but the word is translated as "love" in later amplified versions. In fact, verses 4 through 7 are often used in marriage ceremonies.
Relax. Be young.

Study to show yourself approved of the "callings" you have. Leave romantic love for later. Keep enjoying your friend and trust in God. Do NOTHING until you DEFINITIVELY hear from him. He won't tell someone else what he wants you to hear about this, he will tell YOU. That is why the veil in the temple was rent in two when Jesus gave up the ghost. So that we can have a personal relationship with him. Read vs. 8 of the same chapter of 1Corinthians and you'll see what I mean by this. Read the entire chapter and you'll gain much understanding.
God bless you.

Answer 3

Could be love. It DOES sound like my pastor's story. But you could also be fooling yourself. Especially if you've had the lessons and know what you're 'supposed' to say/ do/ feel. Just remember this: Love is more than anything a DECISION. Pheremones will lead you astray every time. If you choose to marry her in another 5-10 years, do it knowing that there WILL be hard times ahead. So don't cry when you get tired of her and want a fresh start. Marriage is a commitment, and requires real work. So don't fool yourself. EYES OPEN!

Answer 4

This sounds like love. You are both quite young and there is no need to rush into anything. Enjoy the time together, treasure the moment and grow. In a few years both of you will better know where you stand and then you can look at marriage.

Answer 5

LOVE?
Sonnet CXVI
Let me not to the marriage of true minds Admit impediments. Love is not love Which alters when it alteration finds, Or bends with the remover to remove: O no! it is an ever-fixed mark That looks on tempests and is never shaken; It is the star to every wandering bark, Whose worth's unknown, although his height be taken. Love's not Time's fool, though rosy lips and cheeks Within his bending sickle's compass come: Love alters not with his brief hours and weeks, But bears it out even to the edge of doom. If this be error and upon me proved, I never writ, nor no man ever loved.

My love is like a red, red rose That’s newly sprung in June : My love is like the melody That’s sweetly played in tune. As fair art thou, my bonnie lass, So deep in love am I : And I will love thee still, my dear, Till a’ the seas gang dry. Till a’ the seas gang dry, my dear, And the rocks melt wi’ the sun : And I will love thee still, my dear, While the sands o’ life shall run. And fare thee weel, my only love, And fare thee weel a while ! And I will come again, my love, Thou’ it were ten thousand mile.

That's LOVE. Any more questions?

Answer 6

Love comes in all forms for different people. It should be mutual for her too. I think this is something and someone you should hang on to and don't rush into a relationship too fast.Enjoy being young and enjoy the feelings of love you can share. You have your whole life to live, and you still need to plan your futures. (College, job, money, living expenses. etc.)
Other words there isn't wrong with loving someone as long as you don't give up your dreams for them! Talk to your parents...but there's no rush.

Answer 7

Honestly, and I say this with all due respect, you're really too young to understand what true love is. I thought I knew when I was 15 and had my first boyfriend, but by the time I was 18 and we were still together my understanding of what love was changed drastically and we ended up not being suited for each other. Shortly after that I found the one God intended for me. If you like her and think you love her, get to know her, and when you're older if it is love, ask her to marry you.

Blessings,

Sharli

Answer 8

If you have prayed about it and you keep feeling no doubt about it from God, then you don't need our opinion or approval. I'm happy for you both. Keep your eyes on the Lord first and everything will fall into place in the the way He desires it too. God bless you!

Answer 9

You are 16 and she is 15. No.

Answer 10

Sounds more like lust then love. And lust is a sin, since you want godly advice

Answer 11

I'm glad you found someone you like. I think you should ask your pastor and your youth pastor's advise. They have alot of wisdom in these matters and know you better than people on the computer. It sounds to me like a great opportunity to get to know her better. Don't seclude yourself from others though. Wait to get serous until you are old enough to get married.