My reception site only holds 600 and at the moment we have a 700 person guest list. My father hasn't even added his list to the master list and I am beginning to freak out. I have some time before the wedding, but I have no idea where to begin cutting. Any ideas?
2007-05-31 11:01:26 · 15 answers · asked by SMLB78 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
We both come from huge families, which account for close to 450 of the invitees. The rest are close friends. So, not 700 close friends.
2007-05-31 11:24:06 · update #1
Also, my parents are paying for everything. Can I ask them to make the cuts on their lists?
2007-05-31 11:25:52 · update #2
not sure who's included on the list. relatives (even some of the distant ones) are going to be hard to cut because your parents probably want them there. i would cut guests who are business associates or colleagues. that should eliminate a lot of people.
2007-05-31 11:20:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start with the bottom of the list and work your way up. You can go with the few that you haven't, or don't see very often You can also account for about 10% of the people invited or attending the wedding not to be able to make it or will skip the reception all together.
I don't think if they are paying for it you should ask them to cut their list. But if you let them know that you have a capacity of 600 and your guest list already exceeds that they may be more stringent on their guest list.
2007-05-31 11:45:25 · answer #2 · answered by vancie121 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is no way that anyone has 700 close friends. What are you doing, inviting everyone that you ever came into contact with? Why? Look at your list and ask yourself if you know the names of each person's dog, and if you don't, you don't know them well enough to invite them to your wedding--cross them off. Bet you can cut your list in 1/3 by this method.
2007-05-31 11:21:08 · answer #3 · answered by kk 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you really have 250 close friends? That seems outrageous. My mom is one of ten and she only had 400 people total at her wedding. Don't send out "and Guest" invites. By that I mean don't just label the invite and guest if the person isn't married or engaged or in a long term relationship, they don't get a guest. That should cut out some people.
2007-05-31 15:50:42 · answer #4 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We had the same issue...just write down all the names and start scratching them off. Friends you haven't seen in over a year or two can go. Relatives you haven't seen in a few years or longer may also be cut off. Rule of thumb however is for people to over-invite because many people won't be able to come, so you may be ok. Also, what we chose to do was to figure out who our MAIN people were and make them our A list, then B list, etc. Send out your A list invites early and wait until you get some responses back...for all of the NO RSVPs you can send out more from B list, etc. Good luck. :)
2007-05-31 11:09:47 · answer #5 · answered by its about time 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Start by eliminating children from distant relatives. You don't need to have your second cousin's four year old there - unless they're members of the wedding party.
Then start cutting people you have little to no relationship with. If you haven't seen your childhood babysitter in 25 years, send an announcement instead of an invite. Ditto for your fourth cousin's next door neighbor whose dog you walked once or twice.
People to keep: immediate family, close friends, and coworkers. Work it outwards from there.
Also - I know people who keep a "B list" - in case they get some nos from their A-list, they can send out the invite.
2007-05-31 12:18:20 · answer #6 · answered by zippythejessi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
how far in advance are you letting people know if the date? Do you have a date? We invited 400 anyway (after having a 325 limit), since not all of them came. (we also had our wedding on a Friday evening so I'm sure that was part of the reason for less attendance). Don't worry about feeling bad if you don't invite someone, because you're bound to be surprised with some of the no's!
2007-05-31 11:12:38 · answer #7 · answered by alk02g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! big wedding. Well the way that i cut down i had 500 and now have 250:) what i did is i gave my parents like 20 people a pices to invite-thats all... and then i gave the same option to my inlaws. After all there people were in then we choose our closest friends and worked down from there
2007-05-31 11:28:45 · answer #8 · answered by jessica g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i come from a huge family too. parents both divorced and remarrried with new kids and close relives really close and my guest list was 200. how do you know 700 people?? i am a mazed your parents must be loaded!! just for food thats a 70,000$ wedding.!
2007-05-31 12:30:27 · answer #9 · answered by ericams85 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are there people you can afford to drop? EX:Maybe you dont need the mailman or your long lost friend in Utah. Also not all you invite will show up, but to be on the safe side I would ask yourself, your boyfriend, your father etc to cut down thier list also.
2007-05-31 11:10:58 · answer #10 · answered by sunandsand 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋