need serious help with son may save his life?

Question

ok short version my son is about to be 15, he is pretty mature for his age and had a relationship with a girl for 8 months. in that time she cheated on him and twisted his head until he fell into a huge depression, threatened to commit suicide and ran away. when i could not find him , i called the police to help me look, i was scared he did something to himself and didnt want to find him that way. anyway he recieved help and months later met another girl , whom i like very much , yesterday she was supossed to come over ,. when we arrived to pick her up she had left with her sister. that was at 10 am, later that day around 2ish she was still off and called and said her sister and her were fishing...long story short we went to town and when we passed her house she was with another guy, my son talked to her she assured him the guy was with her sister and come 10 thirty at night she is alone with this guy and at his house watching movies.she cried said sorry and he is ready to .....

to firgive her, so i told him to ask outside of me to see how many peole agree to move on and forget this nonsense. ami right or wrong? is she playing games with an already emotional kid?

i should have said, my son has had a job for two years, capt of the football team , runs, track , honer student. and takes hip hop classes, he has many guy friends, and is in counciling

Answer 1

Your son sounds like a wonderful person who shouldn't be treated that way. Funny how girls complain because the guys are usually superficial, and yet emotional guys take the worst beatings in life...

IMHO, it is best to end this nonesense, and for him to continue going to counceling, it is very important he doesn't quit his therapy, not to deal with the cheating and doubts, but his issues as to why he reacts so emotionally and why he is so willing to put up with crap in the first place.

Good luck.

Answer 2

The first thing I think he needs to do is stay away from this girl, because it sounds like she is just like the last one. Then he needs to work on feeling better about himself and realizing that this stuff happens. It's normal, and it's part of life.

If you can afford some therapy for him, it might be a good idea. I wish my parents' had done that for me when I was 15, because I could have used the help.

On that note, you as a parent cannot change your son's situation. All you can do is be there for him as much as possible, and if you really think there's a possibility that he's going to hurt himself, get help somewhere.

Good luck.

Answer 3

I am agreeing with some of other answers inthat your son should really find something besides a girl right now to keep him busy. I think he needs some time to get to know himself hes only 15.

This should be the best time in his life and so far girls are just making it bad Tell him to take a break and hang out with the guys or even just have girls that are friends not seriuos relationships young folks today aren't really ready to commit anyway

GOOD LUCK

Answer 4

i think you should talk to this girl as a mother and let her know what he has been through and be straight out with her and tell her "i dont want u making him go through the same thing over again so if u really want to be with my son okay but if ur going to **** up and play him like a fool then u brake up with him and let him know why." Or explain to ur son that girls like that are not worth dying for. But u as a mother have to know that things happen for a reason maybe he's suppose to go through this so at the end sometime in the future he ends up with a better respectfull smart unique female.

Answer 5

Please explain to your son that a tiger never changes its stripes. It is obvious that your son only knows how to love and the girl only is in it for the good times.
The girl will continue to do the same thing and your son will start to feel more depressed each time it happens.
There are certain people out there that can't just like someone or just casually date. They are the ones that fall in love instantly. Although it might sound romantic, it usually means that they do not have much control of the situation. It might sound strange, but he needs to find more people that are like him.
These types of people don't just fall in love with people, they become obsessed to be the best in everything that they do. You have heard of people that wear their emotions on their sleeve, will your son is one of those.

Answer 6

Blow her out and move on as you noticed it wasn't that difficult to find another girl they come along usually at the most inopportune moments, but it saves worrying about it, Maybe you should take a leaf from her book and take up fishing rather than worry over the whole thing, chill and wait for the next one and just take it easy.
If you want to find em quick take up dancing, you will not believe how easy it is if you can dance.



AJ

Answer 7

I think you should talk to the girl and see what she's all about i feel sorry for your son and the hurt he's been through, just make sure this girl won't play him around and let him know you're there for him, explain to him how much of his life he has ahead of him, he may not want his mom around when things like these happen now but he will. :) hope i helped x

Answer 8

My suggestion is that he just wait it out and see how things go. If they are meant to be together, she will come to him. He needs to step back and decide for himself if he wants to forgive her and give her another chance. You Mom, need to back away and leave his life up to him. Yes, I understand that you don't want him to commit suicide or whatever....but he is a big boy and you cannot smother him for the rest of his life. You can only be there for him when bad things happen, but let him make his own decisions. He, on the other hand, needs to learn to cowboy up and learn how to handle things without threatening to oust himself. There is not a girl (or guy) on this earth that is worth killing yourself over!! No relationship carries a guarantee. If he is willing to give her another chance; then that is his business. If she screws him over again, and he continues giving her more chances; then shame on him. Burn him once..shame on her...burn him twice...shame on him.
Maybe this is the girl for him and maybe she will realize now that he really does love her and care for her and that she will be better off with him than this other guy.
Why were you stalking her with your son late into the night anyway? You need some professional help Mom! Let the boy grow up !!!!

Answer 9

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Answer 10

I say she is playing games. They're just kids. My suggestion is...get his mind off of girls. Ask him what he enjoys...I took Karate through intermediate and most of high school and that kept my mind occupied. He's just too young to be worrying about girls and relationships. How many of us really knew who we were or what we actually wanted at that age? None of us...no matter how mature we might have been. Get him involved in something more constructive. Good luck!