Okay so i wrote before about my BF that wouldnt tell his mom to leave our house after living there for 9 months! well he finally told her we want our own life without her breathing down our necks like we are little kids! by the way im 24 he is 28. so you see what i mean by me wanting our own life with out her there. its not that i hate or disrespect her its just shes been there long enough and is completley capable of taking care of herself! well anyways back to the reason im writing this... my bf told her he wanted her to try to find her own place she agreed. well since my bf is a little irresponsible he got a d.u.i. after a few drinks. now he cant come up with money to pay for a lawyer so he is letting his MOTHER baby him and pay for the lawyer herself which is 1,200 so instead of telling her to save her $ & he will come up with the $ himself. he is letting her pay... to be continued
2007-05-31 10:19:00 · 5 answers · asked by M.J. 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
He is pretty much setting my feelings aside and not giving a **** about what i want just so his mom can pay for the lawyer..okay this may not make sense but what im getting at is if his mom pays for a lawyer she will have spent all her money saved up for an apartment and i would have to wait another couple months for her to move out. he is willing to sacrifice my happiness so his mother can pay for his fuckups! man im so close to leaving him but i love him so much! i feel even though im younger he is so irresponsible and im starting to think he is a momma boy which is changing the way i feel about a future! what can i do if anything? or atleast tell me what you think please! and i promise im the first to admit im wrong but in this case i have done nothing but be a supportive respectful girlfriend! i even keep a smile on my face when i walk away from my cooking and she starts adding her own spices! or even when she walked in on us having sex because she didnt knock!
2007-05-31 10:23:52 · update #1
sorry this is so long i just cant deal with her being there for almost a year! she too over bearing and controlling!!! AWWW! should i just move out?
2007-05-31 10:25:39 · update #2
she is getting what shje wants by staying! she would do anything to live off of people and never have to have real responsibilites! she doesnt want to sign a lease she would rather pay her son money for the rest of her life and live with us with no legal obligations to pay anyone! does that make sense?
2007-05-31 10:30:56 · update #3
Moving out would show him how serious you are about it. He isnt going to listen to your words so you need to show some action.
2007-05-31 10:56:44 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are not even his wife and you are embroiled in all his drama and family mess, and since you're not even his wife, you have no power. A fine predicament.
At 28, a man should be...a man! He shouldn't be crying to his mama about $1000...$1000 should be chump change to him, if he was an adult! Also, who gets DUIs? IDIOTS. Everyone knows you don't drink and drive unless you want to kill people. Is this the person you want to have little fuc*ktard children with in the future?
Drop him, move on with your life! Find a real man!
2007-05-31 17:42:50 · answer #2 · answered by pola 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should just move out if you can. Then it is up to him; if he wants to get his mom out of there and get back with you, then he can. It is hard living with other people but she is just being ridiculous. If you are cooking, she should stay out of it. And walking in on you two? That woman doesn't have the the brain power of a gnat.
2007-05-31 17:30:38 · answer #3 · answered by Patti C 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Girl, will you please move out? just think peace and happiness. She's not even your mother, not your problem. This will not end, HE is sabotaging your future happiness. Just go-- if he makes her leave--you may consider going back, but hey there's lots of fish in the sea. Over a year with you? she is one evil person. That is too abnormal. 24 is young!
2007-05-31 17:32:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I got to the part about the DUI and stopped. Why are you wasting time with this boy? Look at how things are now with him and his mother - is this what you want the rest of your life to be like????????????
2007-05-31 17:43:05 · answer #5 · answered by NONAME 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋