They are married, have only one daughter and the wife just quit her job
2007-05-31 10:02:49 · 23 answers · asked by Kristen L 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
no, its not customary. I dont think that a single mom is going to be able to fork out much for a wedding. Its customary for the bride's parents to pay for it, but it depends. If no-one can afford to foot the bill by themselves (parents-wise) then the bride and groom are going to have to save some money before they get married if they want a big wedding. Its not all up to the parents anymore. You cant expect someone else to completely pay for your wedding anymore. sometimes parents cant afford anything. Im getting married in a month and my parents arent forking over a dime, why? cuz they dont have it. Its something we have to deal with on our own, and we are. Thats just how it is.
If the grooms mom cant afford anything, no one has any right to get upset with her.
2007-05-31 10:08:34 · answer #1 · answered by mannasox 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not customary, but it's always nice for the groom's family to offer if they can afford it. I paid half for one son's wedding, all for another son's wedding because the bride's parents refused to support the marriage because of religious differences, and will pay all for my daughter's upcoming wedding, including travel costs for the groom's family because they can't afford plane tickets. It comes down to the fact that these are your kids, and everybody should work together to help them get the kind of wedding they want.
If they've asked you, then maybe they don't have the money either--who knows why the wife quit her job, maybe she's got a terminal illness or something that you don't know about--doubtful, but I'm giving them the benefit of the doubt. Just tell them that you can't afford it if you can't, and offer to help with decorations or clean-up or something instead. If you can afford it, then be grateful that you can and do what you can to make your son's wedding a great day for him. You love him, don't you???
2007-05-31 11:36:03 · answer #2 · answered by kk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it isn't appropriate. If the groom's mother offers to pay for any part of the wedding, then it's OK to accept the offer, but it is not OK to ask. If the groom's family is not paying anything, then the bride/her family should design the wedding around the budget they can afford.
It is customary for the parents of the groom to pay for the rehearsal dinner the night before the wedding. The rehearsal dinner guests include anyone in the wedding, their spouse/guest, and any out of town guests who are not familiar with the area and don't have anything else to do.
2007-05-31 10:13:25 · answer #3 · answered by stseukn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-09 05:15:55 · answer #4 · answered by drago 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The grooms family is not responsible for half the wedding. The groom should only pay for the food at the luncheon. I know that doesn't seem fair.... I think it would take nerve to ask a single mother to pay for half.
Now days, the bride and groom save money and pay for it together with maybe a little help from the families but definitely not half and half.
2007-05-31 10:14:17 · answer #5 · answered by Jessica 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's becoming more standard practice as the costs of having a wedding become more and more prohibitable, to have not only the brides family, but the groom's family and often the couple themselves contribute to wedding expenses. However, every couple needs to realize that parents aren't obligated to pay for anything--if you're old enough to get married, then you're adults. You should have jobs and be able to support yourselves, and that includes hosting a wedding. By all means, ask the parents to help, but don't expect it.
2007-05-31 10:36:23 · answer #6 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The thing to do is sit all parents down with the bride and groom and discuss openly what each half will be responsible for paying.
Traditionally, the bride's family pays for the wedding, and the groom's family pays for the rehearsal dinner.
2007-06-04 08:34:34 · answer #7 · answered by Kirky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is now customary for the bride and groom to pay for their own wedding. Anything else that is given by parents on either side is a blessing!
2007-05-31 15:34:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wasn't aware the grooms family was expected to pay any part of the wedding. Things must have changed since I last got married...traditionally the bride's parents paid for the wedding, the grooms paid for the rehersal dinner.
If the couple can swing it, they should pay themselves...or at least a chunk. It's long stopped being a case of her family paying for someone to take her off their hands. She (bride) can support herself nowdays, not like in times where women didn't work.
2007-05-31 10:06:42 · answer #9 · answered by . 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I was about to say, I don't know of anyone who's family pays for the wedding these days...unless of course the family is wealthy. Traditionally, the bride's family paid for the entire wedding and the groom and/or parents pay for the rehersal dinner and honeymoon. But this day in age, where marriage isn't necessarily top priority anymore...couples usually pay for their own ceremonies.
2007-05-31 10:13:09 · answer #10 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋