younger guy older girl syndrome?

Question

My bf is 22 and i'm 26. we've been together 10 months and he says he loves me and i adore him. i have 2 kids and he says he wants to marry me and all that jazz! He loves my kids and always wants to be with us. we have our problems but we have one common interest we love each other. well he's a cutie and i'm told alot that i look good but i'm worried that b/c i'm older he'll find somebody younger and cuter and it worries me all the time. do guys typically like older girls? i have never dated a younger guy. he says he only wants me and blah blah blah, but hey we live on the beach and there are some beautiful girls here. I always act really confident with myself (or try to) but actually i have none. He wants to get married soon but I want to wait at least another year or 2 to make sure we'll stick it out. I'm just so jealous when I see younger girls. I don't say anything to him about it but i can't help feeling this way. it sounds retarded as hell when i type it. :P

Answer 1

Well its great to know that you have a loving relationship and that he gets along with your children. The honest truth is i was in the same situation. I had dated and older woman 27 and myself being 21 at the time. It was her first time being with a younger guy and i got along perfectly with her child. However, the more and more we got closer the more her confidence went down the drain. She started to doubt her beauty because of her little stretch marks and that younger women would possibly be intrested in me. Since she became very ify about are you sure you really want to just be with me and get married, and telling me there are so many other younger women out there with out children it all added up to push me away. We were together for a year and it just got worse the more and more she doubted herself we grew apart.

I think best intrest is to either be 100 percent sure you have confidence other wise it will push the younger man away. After a little over a year being together we broke it off and i started to date another woman one that was younger (24) but still older than me. Today i am still with this woman.

But the truth of the matter is most men in relationships with an older woman with a child believe they are in love and may possibly be, like i was. However, we dont like when our girlfriend questions her beauty or why wouldnt you want to be with younger woman and so forth. Those doubts lead to distruction.

To this day my ex calls missing me and wishing i was around. I come around for her sons sake as (Uncle) but other than that what we had was lost and has really hurt her and made me feel bad. However, i am much happier now due to the lack of doubt. I wish you the best of luck, and hope this helped you out a little bit.

Answer 2

I always used to stay away from younger guys because I thought the same as you did- that they wouldn't want the same things, that they'd be on the lookout for younger, hotter girls all the time, etc. So I used to date guys who were quite a bit older than I was, and they had their own sets of problems. My boyfriend of almost 5 years is the first younger guy I ever dated, and we're happy as can be. One minor drawback is that he doesn't feel quite ready for marriage yet, and I totally am ready to get married, but other than that, we have the most awesome relationship. Just remember, if he loves you, he's not looking at anyone but YOU, no matter how much younger he is. Trust in your man, and just remember, what we "older" girls might lack in flat stomachs and naturally thin thighs, we make up for with BRAINS, EXPERIENCE, and BEING AWESOME IN BED!!! : )

Answer 3

Scary....very scary....I think I typed that in my sleep or something. But I can vouch that it's pretty normal for the attraction. An I'm sure if he says he loves you he prob does. But what I told my bf is until he hits 25 we are the way we are. I love him. But I know I would regret it for the rest of my life if I tied him down. I had a kid at 19 I wasn't ready. I don't wanna give him a 6 yr old and a 3 year old if thats not what he wants. Although I think after almost 2 years I am pretty sure it's not going to change. Good Luck.

Answer 4

"Do guys typically like older girls?"

Interesting question. In recent years, there been a media sexualizing of women w/ kids (older & younger): The "MILF" phenomenon, "soccer moms", "Stacy's Mom", "Desperate Housewives", etc...

So yeah, for every hot 40 year old, there's an army of horny 22 year old guys waiting to "get lucky".

If I were you, I'd be a *little* & worried about your younger man. 22, in most cases is def' not your average "settling down" age & if he hasn't had many g/fs in the past, he may feel inclined to sow his wild oats at some point. (depending on how serious you guys are, of course)

Been there, sort of. I was the older guy w/ the 20-something woman.

Answer 5

oh, hun, you are not old in the least, 26 six is still young (and i'm not an old lady looking back going i wish i was still that age.) i'm younger than you are but i don't think 26 is old at all. but your kind of right in waiting, not because you should find out if he will leave you for a younger gilr, but because you need to make sure your children are absolutely ready for this, and if you don't feel confident in your relationship, neither you or your children are ready for this. you have alot to work through but its absolutely normal. but don't let him make you feel old (whether he knows he is making you feel that way or not) because you still have alot to look forward to in life.

Answer 6

I know I'm interested in older women younger guys usually are. Communicate with each other so because maybe if you guys know how each other feel you'll have a since of security.

Answer 7

you should be discussing this with him!!!! no relationship can work without communication!!! as for him leaving you for younger woman, anything is possible. you just have to jump in and give it your all. but talk to him!!! tell him how you feel or you could risk losing him!