Its for my friend's father. It is 90 minutes away from where I live. Do I need to show up for the whole thing, or can I just go for part of the time?
Its been years since I've had to go to a wake.
2007-05-31 09:18:57 · 11 answers · asked by 2007_Shelby_GT500 7 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
No you do not have to stay. Show your respect and leave. Your friend will not care.
2007-05-31 09:21:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
A wake is not ceremony. It is just a prolonged viewing. So no, you don't have to stay the entire time. A 30 minute minimum is proper. You might want to stay at least an hour. Be sure you say a prayer at the side of the casket. Greet the immediate family and express how much the life of this man ment to you. Stay a while and chat with the guests. If you are travelling 90 minutes each way to this wake, the family will understand that. They will be glad you made the effort to come. Be sure to say good bye to all on your way out. It wouldn't hurt to remind them of your long drive. Most likely when they hear that they courteously will tell you to be on your way anyway - out of respect to the sacrifice you have made.
2007-05-31 16:34:55 · answer #2 · answered by Think.for.your.self 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Is it a Wake or visitation at the funeral home?
90 minutes one way is a long way to go. Personally, for a friend's father, I would pass on visitation and go to the funeral instead. If it is a wake, you don't have to stay for the whole thing. If it is visitation you don't have to stay for the whole thing either. If the man was well known, you may be in line for the two hours. Think it through.
2007-05-31 16:31:09 · answer #3 · answered by bin there dun that 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Of course not. You can go anytime the wake is on and leave after 15 to 30 minutes if you so wish.
2007-06-01 04:14:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Showing up is enough. I had a really good friend that I couldn't even go to the funeral of when he died. I helped cater the get together back at the house instead. I know my friend wouldn't have minded, and I paid my respects. People just have a different way of dealing with death, and they shouldn't be judged how they choose to deal with it.
2007-05-31 16:27:36 · answer #5 · answered by Penny K 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Pay your respects stick around for 30 minutes and leave. Been there lots of times.
2007-05-31 16:27:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Once you get there, you will probably find it goes by fast because you'll be making conversation, and maybe there will be short ceremonies if he belonged to any fraternal organizations.
If you really don't want to stay the whole time, then show up late. Don't leave early.
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2007-05-31 16:27:38 · answer #7 · answered by Kacky 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You dont have to do anything but considering the deceased is ur friends father cant u try to make an effort? your friend will remember always.. think on that.
2007-05-31 17:08:55 · answer #8 · answered by donalore_43 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well its a good friend of yours and iam sure that at least an hour or so would be ok, and if your friend knows your comming from a distance tell her in advance that way she knows and you just don't suprise her by just leaving. iam sure she will understand.
2007-05-31 16:28:51 · answer #9 · answered by goody2shu323 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
going shows that u care ⥠u shud go if this friend is special to u
2007-05-31 16:33:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋