I'm always real with him and I know he's always real with me. I thought clingy always meant that you never shared the other person, even though I do, some say that I am. I don't care when his friends or anyone else hugs him because I don't need to. When people say that I'm clingy I don't know what they mean since I'm not selfish or anything with him. So what does it mean?!
2007-05-31 08:59:12 · 19 answers · asked by ali 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He never said I was clingy, other people did. I don't hang out with him 24/7 that's why I was so surprised when people said I was clingy. I honestly don't mind that other girls hug him because he's such a flirt and I, actually, love that about him.
2007-05-31 09:09:54 · update #1
I do not know what they mean either. If you are not always with him and not always calling him or asking him questions. I do not know why they would say your are clingy Maybe you should ask the people who said you were.
2007-05-31 09:12:30 · answer #1 · answered by Matthew 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Clingy is an ambiguous term, and usually one partner or another is always at least slightly clingy in a relationship.
A person is "clingy" when they want more involvement with a person in a relationship than the other wants. A healthy relationship does not mean 24/7 involvement.
In most cases though, it's only used on extreme cases, like if a guy is upset with you for wanting to go out with the girls for once instead of spending another evening with him, he's being clingy.
2007-05-31 09:04:01 · answer #2 · answered by smashcruiserarc 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Friends may see you as clingy if you don't want to do the things you used to before the boyfriend came along. They think you can't do anything on your own any more and you have to be with "him" instead of them. Or maybe you won't make decisions until you consult him. That's all seen as clingy by other people. Do what feels right for you. How much do you want him and how much do you want the other friends. It's a balancing act. Sometimes you have to give one or the other up - if only for a while.
2007-05-31 09:07:31 · answer #3 · answered by coffee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its when you feel you got to call us 20X in the same day and demand to hang out with us every spare moment we have. When you call us at work and at the very moment we wake up each day. Insisting on knowing our exact schedule so you can calculate how often you can be with us and repeatedly calling us even as we're on our way to seeing you like you think we're full of it. That is what us guys mean by clingy. If you REALLY liked us you'd know to ease off at least a little bit of the time and let us catch our breath, you know?
2007-05-31 09:04:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being clingy means always wanting to be with him, always calling, and needing him constantly...this is a problem with many women, guys are much more self-sufficient. Basically he means he wants a little space without you being right there on top of him all the time. Just try relying on him a little less.
2007-05-31 09:04:29 · answer #5 · answered by colorguy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes clingy means that you are with him 24/7
2007-05-31 09:02:12 · answer #6 · answered by kissbutnevertell 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Examples are easier to understand I think in this situation.
If you do this in the example you are clingy.
Your boyfriend sits down on a couch at some party. You sit down next to him. You then scoop up and rest against him. Nothing wrong with that, your a couple. He decides to get you two drinks. You say you will go with him to get the drinks. No problem, your just spending time with each other. You get to the kitchen to get some beer from the keg. You follow him side by side all the way to the keg holding on to him. ie: arm around his or over his shoulder. He see's a good friend from long ago and goes up to see what is going on. You go up of course because you want to meet his friend. You are introduced and you boyfriend then begins talking with his bud. You stand there with him holding his hand or touching somewhere. Pretty much all the time. You see a friend of yours across the way. You want to chat with her but your boyfriend is still talking with his bud. So you decided to just hand out here and talk with his friend. Later you break the conversation up and drag your boyfriend over to chat with your friend. He decides to walk away and get with his friend again to catch up. You reluctantly follow your boyfriend back across the room to chat with his bud. Later he gets tired and wants to leave. You at the same time decide that it is time for you to leave also even though the party is only just starting. You have plenty of friends there and he is not coming over to your house he is just going home because he is tired.
If your life is even slightly like this then you are clingy. You have to be with him to do anything. You don't do things when he is not around and you just don't see things as something that should be done alone anymore. This example is extreme and just because you act like this one day doesn't mean you are like it all the time. Your friends are probably just teasing you.
2007-06-08 00:09:41 · answer #7 · answered by Rumin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
*Clingy basically means:
-You need that person's constant attention
-You always need that person around
-You always have to talk to that person
-You are jealous of their friends
-You have to know where they're going and with who
-You need constant reassurance about things
-You get insecure when they're around other girls
*I don't know everyone defines it different, but those are just some of the things I think of when I hear clingy.*
2007-05-31 09:05:39 · answer #8 · answered by Shut your mouth when u tlk to me 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In general, clingy means you are more emotionally attached to a person than they want you to be with them; for example, if you have dated a guy once or twice and are acting like he is supposed to marry you! It is all relative tohow much the other person wants you to be attached to them; if they love you very much and want to be close to you, that kind of behavior wouldn't matter. If they just met you, are just getting to know you, or are not interested in going any further with you, that behavior will bug them.
2007-05-31 09:04:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Clingy means exactly what it sounds like. You want to cling on to your man, but not in a physical way. I mean, tell me you wouldn't want to tell the other girls that hug your guy to buzz off.
2007-05-31 09:03:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋