Why is the size of the ring so important to women? Why is bigger better?

Question

I think if you turely love someone it shouldn't matter the size of the ring or how big the wedding is. I think if you are ready to get married none of these things matter. There is always time to do it right. What ever happened to tying a sting around the finger and getting married in a field?? LOL!

Answer 1

My engagement ring is made from silver (vs gold or titanium or any of those expensive metals), and it has 3 teeny tiny specks of diamonds, probably less than a carat. I know my fiancee still had to scrape money together to get it for me, which gives it even more meaning, though I had told him I'd take a plastic ring from a Cracker Jack box if it came from him! :) For my wedding ring, I already asked for a ring without any stones in it at all. I ride horses and am very active, and I like being able to wear my ring 24/7 without worrying a stone will fall off! I guess I'm more practical than most. I've always thought too many people put too much importance on the size of the "rock"-how big a diamond is or how much a ring cost is not a measure of how much you are loved. A guy can give you big bucks but it doesn't mean he'll love you the way you deserve or make you happy. I think love and happiness are far more important in a relationship than the size of a stone, and that's one of the reasons why my ring will not have any diamonds on it.
It's nice to know there are other people out there who think the same! :D

Answer 2

I've never cared that much-- not all women are looking to walk around with a giant doorknocker on their finger. And buying beyond your means is stupid-- I would think it just puts a strain on the marriage.

I think it's much more important to 1) get a *quality* ring, and 2) get something that suits the lady who's going to be wearing it. For example, I cite my parents-- my Dad certainly could've bought my Mom a much bigger rock, but he didn't. He knew she was a grade school teacher, and a fairly active person. So he bought a smaller diamond in a very plain (but not ugly) setting. However. the diamond is top quality-- competely colorless (as is desirable for diamonds), no flaws or inclusions, and well cut with a lot of 'fire'. A truly beautiful stone, and the simple white gold setting it was in showed it off perfectly.

By comparison, there's my sister. Her now husband bought her the biggest rock he could find, and took out payments on it. It's huge, and gets caught on everything-- which is particularly annoying since she plays volleyball almost every night of the week. It's completely impractical for her.

Me, I'm a bit of a nontraditionalist -- If I had my choice, I'd rather have a nice, high-quality colored stone, like a ruby or an emerald, than your standard diamond solitare.

But I can sympathise.... far too many women focus on the ring, and not what's behind it. :o(

Answer 3

I think the size and quality of a diamond is determined by her social circle. Her female social circle. A woman wears a ring to show to other women. A man would want the best ring on the fiance's hand to "scare off" any potential romance threats. Bigger is not necessarily better but I do believe on effort spent on finding a ring is essential to a woman. Wouldn't you want your wife to have the most that she could possibly get?There are a lot to think about when picking an engagement ring, if you spent enough time and money on it you will eventually come across the "one". Not necessarily the biggest one but the one that satisfy all your criteria. That's what a woman would appreciate. This means you have to do your research, what exactly is she looking and expecting. Basically try to get a ring that you could afford but make sure you pick one based on every effort you put into it. Not just based on price or size.

Answer 4

Not all women are into jewelry, or think that "bigger is better". I think, in general, the ring is kind of like the peacock's tail: it serves no other purpose besides wooing a female. To some females, the large ring says "Hey, I can buy this large expensive ring, and still pay my bills... I'm a good provider". Of course, smarter females can easily figure out whether or not he's a good provider regardless of the ring. To me, a big expensive ring would mean that he was really dumb with the money; why would I want to be married to someone like this? The ring we got when we got engaged was purely symbolic, and was around $300; it was a blue topaz ring I would have bought anyway, regardless of the engagement - but now it has a sentiment attached to it.

Answer 5

I love my engagement ring, it is 3 stones of blue topaz with rows of diamond accents between the stones and is about 2 carats altogether. We also got in on sale for 75% off. I think rings with huge stones look gaudy. I also dont understand the need for outrageously expensive weddings, but am finding out that to have even a simple wedding is going to cost us around $2000 and that doesnt include the photographer or DJ. It is very expensive to rent venues for the wedding and reception and to hire an officiant. If you rent a reception hall you usually have to use their catering services and that is very expensive too. So some of it is not so much that brides want expensive weddings, there is just sometimes no way to have a nice wedding without spending the money.

Answer 6

I dont like big rings either. I have a very vintage swirly look on my ring, so I could have cared less if it had a diamond at all, I used to joke around with my fiance that I wouldnt marry him unless he bought me a 2 carat ring (but I had gone through a divorce right before that, and I figured, this way it would take him a long time to save up for that, and He wouldnt ask right away) He waited and waited, and I have less than a 1/2 carat. I picked it out myself! lol so Bigger is just uglier in my opinion.
People who have bigger diamonds just flash it around as a symbol that they have more money than everyone else and its really snobby. I'd be happy with just a string around my finger too.

Answer 7

I think the size of the ring may denote status and affluence to some people. Some like wearing their money where it can easily be seen. Frankly I think that's a bad idea, you open yourself up to robbery for one.
Some folks just gotta have a Cadillac, I prefer a pickup truck.
Some folks gotta have a Rolex, I prefer no watch at all.
We are marketed to by some very slick folks out there and in the end run, the only thing they are concerned with is their bottom line.

Hey, I kinda like the field idea...It's like getting married at Woodstock.

Peace brother.

Answer 8

I was totally happy with the half carat emerald cut diamond we originally picked out. I was totally surprised when he proposed with .75 carat stone. I would have been totally happy with anything, as long as it came from him.

To be honest, now is not the time for us to be spending tons og money on a ring. I'd rather him get me something small and save money for a house, etc rather than take out loans for a huge rock. In the future, you can always get a bigger diamond put into your ring for an annaversary gift (when you have the money to do so).

But size really shouldnt matter as much as it does to many women.

Answer 9

Are you talking about the ring size? Or the size of the diamond/stone on it?
I agree that many women are truly superficial and only care about a giant rock on their finger and a huge expensive wedding so everyone can admire them... those women probably marry multiple times I'm thinkin.

Answer 10

I think if you're around a bunch of women more worried about how big the diamond on their finger is than how much you love them...you're with the wrong women. I agree with you 100%, if you're really in love, you won't need all the flash, the big rock, the flashy reception, etc., etc. Those things are nice, but it's not what makes a marriage.