Basically I got a mixer from one of my friends - a good friend. When I opened the actual box to remove the mixer, there was a wedding card from someone else addressed to her -- As if she put the card inside the box to remember who gave her the gift.
Basically she regifted a gift.
Do I say anything? Or do I just let it go?
2007-05-31 08:27:16 · 36 answers · asked by producergirl347 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
just let it go. she may not need it and thought u may like it.
2007-05-31 08:35:03 · answer #1 · answered by Miki 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This happened to my husband and I for Christmas one year. We were given a toaster from Target from his sister. In the box was a gift receipt. Since we already had a toaster we liked, we went to return it for something else. The customer service agent told us that we could not return it because the gift receipt was over 90 days old...about the time they got married.
It would not really serve a purpose to say anything except to embarrass your friend. If you like the mixer, then keep it. If not, sell it on eBay (like we did with the toaster!). Traditionally, re-gifting is tacky. Usually, if you give away an item that you received as a gift, you tell the intended receiver that you have no use for it (or whatever) and you thought of them. You do not give it as a gift.
But consider the higher costs of living nowadays. Maybe the person really wanted to give you something and just didn't have the money to do it.
My advice, send a thank you note! (you could always re-use the card you found in the box! LOL...j/k)
2007-05-31 08:40:53 · answer #2 · answered by Kathy H 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Think of it this way- She got a gift that she did not need. She could have returned it to the store, gotten the cash or store credit, used the same cash or credit to buy your gift, and given you a new gift. So really, she jsut cut out the middle man. As long as you didn't buy her the mixer in the first place, you really shouldn't take offense.
So it really is up to you whether you say anythng, but she's jsut going to be super embarrassed if you mention it. She knows it's tacky, you don't have to call her out on it.
I'm sure you know by now that no one follows the gift registries properly and you end up with a million of one item and none of something else.
2007-05-31 09:23:49 · answer #3 · answered by ShavenLlama 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let it go. Keep the mixer if you like it or pass it on to a friend who may like the mixer. I'm not saying re gift it, ask around to see who might need it, or give it to good will. I received three crock pots for my wedding, kept two, and gave my neighbor the third one because I know she needed one.
2007-06-01 22:26:27 · answer #4 · answered by Lov'n IT! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her the card and say "oh, I thought you might need this" without any emotions, just na'chelant.
She gave you a mixer for a WEDDING gift? How awful is that? I hope you meant shower gift.
2007-05-31 20:19:47 · answer #5 · answered by Genie♥Angel 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't have a problem with "re-gifting". Would it make more sense to sell the original mixer then take the money and buy a new mixer to give? No. Re-gifting is fine...
I would give her the card back though...
2007-05-31 08:54:48 · answer #6 · answered by Brett M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let it go. Thank her for the mixer and don't mention the card. She got a present that she didn't have any use for and gave it to you, that's all. She should have taken the card out, of course, but that was her only transgression. It's not a big deal.
2007-05-31 08:30:05 · answer #7 · answered by leaptad 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Yes, she clearly regifted. But if you needed that gift, who cares?
I just say forget you ever saw the other card inside and take the gift for what it is.
2007-05-31 08:42:50 · answer #8 · answered by gopher646 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you like the mixer? If you do, keep it. I know it's a little hmmm, embarrassing, but maybe the person who gave it to you had financial problems and ..well...did the regifted thing. Or maybe they had 2 or more mixers and though they don't need them all.
It's embarrassing, though...But don't mind it!
2007-05-31 08:41:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If it's a good friend, I would probably tease her about it by giving her the box with the card from her to you and the original card in it for her birthday. But that's kind of mean. If you like the mixer, send her a thank you note and go on!
2007-05-31 08:38:19 · answer #10 · answered by Becca418 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
My opinion, that is tacky, tacky, tacky. I mean is your "good" friend too cheap to buy a present of her own choice? I would let it go w/o saying anything. She could've at least had the decency to remove the card out of the box. If it offended you in any way, maybe you can jokingly thank her for the mixer and include that you also found her wedding card included in the box.
2007-05-31 09:30:38 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋