my boyfriend is ina gang and that's really hurting our relationship. he never spends time wit me any more and he persuades me to join the gang all the time.. what shall i do?
2007-05-31 08:13:19 · 43 answers · asked by kluseanna 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
no,as long as u love him.
2007-05-31 08:17:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 5⤋
Not only is it bad its dangerous!!
Are you kidding me? Leave that loser alone before you end up another statistic on the 11:00 News.
If you join that gang you'll be a bigger idiot than he is. Because you see what its about and whaa? Some guy is going to force you?
Do you know how girls are initiated in a gang? You're either gang-raped in, or you're gonna be beat down by the other members. Is that the new definition of 'showing some love'.
Well, you can hate me now!! Don't do it, and leave that little jerk of a loser!
2007-05-31 08:17:06 · answer #2 · answered by Bathroom Graffiti 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dont get involved in that crap. Nothing ever good comes from being in a gang. Not only does this guy hardly spend any time with you, he wants you to join a gang. Move on.
2007-05-31 08:16:40 · answer #3 · answered by Widgi 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Please leave him. You do not want to end up a victim of gang warfare. He may say he will protect you but he can't. If the other gangs find out he is involved with you they might kill you for revenge.
You will also be involved with someone who is breaking the law, and you could go to jail. It happens all the time. He is probably on drugs or selling drugs, he could slip a few rocks in your pocket when the cops pull him over, you go to jail for 15 years.
Or he could just lead you down the wrong path.
If you are a Christian remember what Christ said about how we be "equally yoked". This means if someone who you are friends with is "weaker" than you are in the sense of making immoral decisions and you are "chained" to them; you will be forced to go the same path. Picture yourself being attacjed to your boyfriend by a rope around your waist. It is easier for him to pull you both down hill than for you to struggle to pull the both of you uphill. That is how it will be. You need friends who are committed to making good decisions, that way you can work together to make it up the hill together. If he insists on making poor decisions you have to cut the rope.
2007-05-31 08:35:20 · answer #4 · answered by Lashenova 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd leave him. I'm sad that he felt the need to join a gang. However, you're putting yourself at risk by dating him. Get out of the relationship while you're still safe and before any commitments are made.
I hope he will be able to get out of the gang when he realizes that it is not a healthy lifestyle.
2007-05-31 08:17:44 · answer #5 · answered by K. F 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dump him right away. There are only a few ways to get out of a gang, a long prison term or death. Eventually you will be drawn into the gang's affairs, do you really want that in your life?
2007-05-31 08:18:00 · answer #6 · answered by ©2009 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Move on while you can. Gangs aren't charitable organizations that go around doing good for the world sugar. As long as he's in a gang, he doesn't have much of a future.
Care about yourself enough to want more for you...and ease on down the road.
2007-05-31 08:15:56 · answer #7 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave him alone he's ignorant and doesn't care to much for if he wants to put you in that type of eviorment. Plus gangs are old tell him to grow up its either you or his boys. Boys who 9 times out of 10 want be there if something really pop off. Real talk I know so don't even mess around with him where young and no matter if we have made some bad choices in our past that fact that were still breathing says that God loved us so much he gave us another chance to get it right. I encourage you to take advantage of it boo!
2007-05-31 08:17:24 · answer #8 · answered by lovely_ms_t 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would leave him, if hes in a gang the gang is going to be close. Guys like this are almost always going to choose their mates over a girl, and i cant imagine a date with his gang is much fun babe!
2007-05-31 08:17:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say if you want to lead a life running from the law, becoming an accomplice in a crime, and throwing your life away by all means do it. You need to look deep inside yourself and say I am worthy of loving myself and if my man loved me he would not want to bring me down with him. I was once in your situation when I was about 19/20 and now I am 23. I dated a drug dealer and I supported him and he did NOTHING for me. Back then I had low sel esteem and was looking for that fariry tale love so desperately that I unconsciously stopped loving myself. He is not worth. You have to look at the future and be smart enough to know that for every action there is a reaction. Just a little food for thought and I wish you the best. God loves you!
2007-05-31 08:21:02 · answer #10 · answered by qnikkigoodez 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a bad move, particularly if there are rival gangs involved. I've heard of girls being killed just for dating a member of a rival gang, and that was the only involvement.
NOT a good idea.
2007-05-31 08:15:52 · answer #11 · answered by smashcruiserarc 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋