What do I do at my wedding when the Groom's mom and dad HATE eachother?

Question

They each will appear at the wedding and be involved. They each are in seperate relationships but they cant stand eachother. Where do I put them? How do I deal with that?

Answer 1

Seat them at separate tables (preferably on opposites sides of the main table or the room, if possible).
Before the wedding, tactfully remind them that this is a big day for your fiance, and you know his happiness means a lot to them, as it does to you, so you're trusting them to make every effort to restrain their dislike of their ex, and keep the day pleasant and positive for everyone.

Answer 2

Hopefully, they can both act like adults and not children. If there's any concern, have your fiance speak to them beforehand and ask that they save their differences until after your wedding.

My mother-in-law hates her former brother-in-law and his family, so I was a little concerned that they'd get in some big argument, but they both wanted to at least "appear" mature at the wedding, and they just blatantly ignored one another the whole time. Your groom's parents will probably not want to make fools of themselves at the wedding, so as long as you seat them at opposite ends of the aisle at the church and maybe let them sit and different tables, you should be ok.

Good luck, and congratulations!

Answer 3

I agree that it is your day...but you do have to deal with it. especially when it comes to seating. If you are having a church wedding...put the grooms mom and partner on the traditional parent row and then place the groom's dad and his partner behind her. You cna always put the appropriate grandparents and/or relatives on the rows with them as well.

As for the reception...have 2 separate tables for his family. one for mom's side and one for dad's side. You will find doing all of this ahead of time will eliminate some of the stress, but make sure your fiancee talks to his parents and tells them his expectations for their behavior on ya'lls wedding day.

Good Luck and Best Wishes!!

Answer 4

I had the came kind of situation at my wedding it was just a couple of days ago ... but what i did was my husband sat his mom and dad down and told them If they really love and cared for him that they would behave and if they did he would throw them out on there butts and never speak to them again ... and guess what the talk really help ....we all had a blast

Answer 5

Put them at separate tables for the reception, along with their current mates. Have your fiance talk with them--he needs to get their cooperation that they will be polite and civil to each other for the wedding day. You stay out of it--they don't need you around for this...let him handle his family. But they need to be adults here, realize that at one point in their lives they obviously loved each other enough to produce the man you're going to marry, and if they can't be mature enough and civil enough to each other for 1 day, then they may not be welcome at the festivities--or will be asked to leave. I'm sure most reasonable adults will be fine with that request.

Answer 6

You put them were it is appropriate for them to be in the wedding party. You should not have to be a babysitter for adults. They are adults and they should be expected to act like one. If they can't behave like an adult you can have the best-man and MOH ask them to leave and to take their issues with them. It is your day (bride AND groom) and their issues have no importance on your day.

Answer 7

You just sit them far away from each other and let them act adult at their son's wedding. I had the same thing happen at my wedding. My husband's parents cant stand each other and at our wedding they just kept their distance. Even though his dad was more immature about it and everytime he would pass near his mom he would say "F*ck*n..." He doesnt speak english, but according to him, he was cussing her out. Immature. Dont worry, they should be able to act like adults.

Answer 8

Your groom needs to sit them down and have a heart to heart. Tell them that you want both of them to share your special day but will not tolerate it if they start bickering. Tell them to put up with the other's presence for a few hours for the both of you.

Answer 9

My mom and dad are divorced and both are remarried. They both hated each other when i got married. But, i wanted them all at my wedding. So, what we did was:

Ceremony:
One of the groomsmen walked my step-mom down the aisle....She sat in the second row at the church.
My step-father walked my mom down the aisle...they sat in the first row at the church.
My dad walked me down the aisle, he then sat with his wife.

Pictures:
We did family pictures with my mom/step-dad, dad/step-mom, and with my husband's family.

Reception:
My mom and her family sat on one side of the reception hall and my dad and his family sat on the other with my husband's family (my dad and my husband both have smaller families so it worked out)......we made sure that my mom and dad were separated by the dance floor and that there was a bar on both sides of the reception hall.

***My parents both behaved very well for my wedding. They didn't speak to each other, but didn't make any scenes either. They both love me and were able to put their differences aside for the one day......

*****One of the things my parents always fought about was money.....so i REFUSED to discus money with them......each of them had approached my husband and i and offered some financial help with the wedding. I would not (and still have not) told my mom how much my dad gave us, and vice versa.

Answer 10

Thank you for posting this, I will be going through the same problem in a year with my own parents being the 2 at war. On behalf of all of us in the same situation, thank you and good luck.

I like the idea of separating them, and reminding them that this is you and your fiance's day NOT theirs.