If she needs to borrow money or anything to chapstick she goes through my purse, doesnt even ask! She goes in my room and borrows makeup, which is fine but she doesn't put it back right and she doesnt ask!
I always ask before i borrow something.
I've confronted her about this before and her and my dad thinks im being stupid about. I think they think im hiding something.... Anybody know any ideas to make her STOP!
2007-05-31 07:44:34 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Nope I'm not hiding nothing, i just don't like her not asking. I don't care if she borrows the stuff cause she does pay for it..
2007-05-31 09:47:38 · update #1
You are in her house, she can do what she wants.
2007-05-31 07:47:58 · answer #1 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Her house or not, she's not respecting your privacy. Otherwise you'd be living with a cop and be having a strip-search daily. Unless you have a reason for her not trusting you or anything, why is she having to "borrow" your money and your makeup? Is she behind some bills or why does she have to borrow her kid's makeup?
It may sound stupid, but get someone neutral, like another grown-up you and your mother trust to deal with (grandmother, uncle, family friend) why is this happening. Do not point the finger at each other until you have talked about this. If not, hide your stuff in a place your mother doesn't know or with another person.
2007-05-31 07:56:38 · answer #2 · answered by Quonx. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She gets to make the rules under her roof. When you get your roof you can make your own rules. That doesnt mean that I agree with what she does. I feel that as a parent she should respect you and your space only because that is the best way to teach you to respect others.
At any rate, you could surprise her and leave condoms or something crazy laying around. That will freak her out. Or you could go through her things and leave a mess of it so that she can see how it feels. Or you could clean up and adopt a minimalist environment by storing everything away. She will have no choice but to leave things in order once she's done rummaging. And for things you'd like to keep private--invest in a chest that has a lock & you could store it under your bed.
With that said, there should be nothing that you keep from your mother. She's you BEST friend and she'll always be there. You should be able to share most things with her.
2007-05-31 07:58:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't know your age, but as long as you are still in the care of your parents,what belongs to you belongs to them. They are paying your rent, feeding you, clothing you and paying your medical bills. She has every right to rifle through your belongings and most good parents will check their child's room and purses for illegal substances. That's what parents do to keep their child safe and look for warning signs of self destruction. It means she cares.
That said.... It's a respect thing. You should calmly ask her to not use your stuff without asking first. You can try sitting down with her and talking woman to woman with her. Offer to allow not to ever throw a fit when she does a room search or purse search if she agrees to not use your items. Explain that it is unsanitary to use other peoples make up and chapstick and that you don't want to be catching colds or other illnesses from her. Also explain that you don't mind, but would like to be treated with a little respect.
2007-05-31 08:00:31 · answer #4 · answered by wormbutt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mother obviously doesn't respect your personal space. Keep your purse with you at all times and put a note in a place where she's sure to see it repeating what you've already asked her to stop going through your things, have respect for my privacy and ask just like I respect you! Please and thank-you!
2007-05-31 08:00:33 · answer #5 · answered by smackthat27 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
mouse traps, in the right places,,, lipstick with chili powder mixed in,,make up that is sabotaged.. Your mother has no respect for you,, if she can not see that,,,then maybe ask frinds or realtives, to tellher,,or,,do the same to her,, she will catch the hint, when the shoe is on the other foot
2007-05-31 07:58:52 · answer #6 · answered by Steve C 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you're under 18 then there really isn't anything you can do about it. When I was under 18 and my mom would do that I would go take her stuff without asking - yeah she stopped taking my stuff real quick.
2007-05-31 08:02:58 · answer #7 · answered by OohLaLa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
flow out. you're sufficiently old to stay on your man or woman. it truly is the only thank you to make her provide up treating you like a teenager. as long as you're decrease than her roof, she has the remarkable to analyze you out. She is responsible for you. yet once you will flow out, she would have the ability to no longer have that ability anymore.
2016-10-09 05:04:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
And.....?? ARE you trying to hide something? What's in your purse that you don't want her to find? My son rummages through my purse all the time looking for pens, change, etc., and I don't care.
2007-05-31 08:05:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would never think to do something like that to my children. I respect their personal things and they respect mine. Buy a box with a lock on it.
2007-05-31 08:41:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that it would be nice to have a little respect for your things.and if she could start asking first before going through your things.
2007-05-31 08:26:55 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋