Will a relationship 'break' work?

Question

My boyfriend and I are taking a 'break'. I'm heartbroken, but I understand why he wants this break, and genuinely hope that by taking a break we will be able to start on a new slate, and improve our relationship.

We have been together for a bit over a year, and I truly think he is the one. I'm working hard to give him his space, but I miss him, and I want to talk it out instead of not talking at all. To make matters worse, his dog died the same day after he said he wanted a break, and now he has to handle the stress of the break and of his loss.

Has anyone had a break that ended up benefitting the relationship? Please no negative or cruel answers, I really don't need that right now.

Should I just try and talk to him?

Answer 1

My boyfriend of 6 months and I took a break, at his request. We are both adults, he is 50 and I am 35. He has a lot of stress with work (he is an attorney) and he just got overwhelmed. We did not speak at all for (a very long) week and when we did it was better. He realized how much he missed me and that he couldn't just walk away from me. He realized how deeply he loves me and we are still together. We are moving forward slowly, so as to not "overwhelm" him again. I want him to feel comfortable and to know that I am not pressuring him. He is a wonderful man and I am very lucky. I wish you the best of luck too. It can work out for the better if it is meant to be.

Answer 2

A break does not allow you to come back together with a clean slate. There is no such thing. Its hard to say if your break will work because you didnt specify why you two are taking a break..

From experience, some breaks do work. It gives the guy time to realize that he really loves you and needs and wants you in his life.. Now I've never had a break where the guy just didn't want to talk to me at all. That is kind of strange.. If he cared about you enough he would at least want to hear your voice. Just give it some time to see what happens. If you still feel terrible over it in a week, call him and have a heart to heart with him and let him know how you feel.

Answer 3

heres the thing about a break. First off a break is a test for both of you. Too see if you both miss each other and if you do then you 2 might be meant to be together. It works sometimes. Like if you 2 both, you both have to feel the same way and always want to be together for it to work you know. It only makes sense that way.

Well the thing you can do right now though is to support him and be there for him esp since his dog died you know. Maybe if you support him and stuff then he will look at you like, "Wow she really does care for me" then you will have him back into your arms. Just a thought though. Anything can happen you just need to let time do all the work from here.

Hope i was some help.

Answer 4

i had the same break only a few months back when my bf and i decided to give each other space. he didn't take it too well, considering i wanted to go out with another guy and get to know my other options. everything pretty much went to hell during that break what with friends and his new routines that he took/made, but in the end we both missed each other too much to let go, so we started talking more and more and it all led up to us seeing each other like we were bf/gf again. i couldn't handle not being with him so i took the initiative to ask him back out and we haven't been seperated since. i loved him before we broke up, during our "break", and now i love him so much that i would do anything for him. but always make sure that you have your "bf's" trust, friendship, and respect and nothing can go wrong. as for the dog thing, comfort him and make him something nice or just offer kind words. he's hurting a lot, so just let him know that you're there for him for anything. but keep up your confidence and you'll do fine.

~Good Luck~

Answer 5

My current boyfriend and I had a break about two years ago. Things were not working, he spent more time with his friends than me, and I felt under appreciated, and that I was in a one sided love.

We didn't have any contact with each other for about 4 months, and the day that we ran into each other at the mall was like magic. He now appreciates being around me, and makes sure that I know how important I am to him.

We've been together and happy ever since...

Good luck, if it's meant to work, it'll work.

Answer 6

ya sometimes they do. we took a month and a half off, even left it on bad terms, then one night we just got back together and its actually BETTER than it was before.
just give him some space, a break doesnt work by calling him every day so give it a rest. try 1 month, if he still needs a break then its prob over for good, any break more than like 3 is way too long

Answer 7

I have seen it work once. My friend took a few months break from his girlfriend. Then he realized he was being an idiot and asked her to marry him. now they are happy and have 2 kids. Not sure if they would have gotten married if they didn't have the break. But the break didn't cause the end of the relationship.

Answer 8

When a man says he needs a break, what he means is it's over! He didn't want to talk it over; he will not want to start things over. It's time to move on.

Answer 9

Unfortunately when someone asks you for a break they usually mean they want to break up and are just to cowardly to tell you. In my jaded experience if he doesn't want to communicate with you leave him be, move on and enjoy life.

Answer 10

i hate break ups because usually it means in a nice way i don't want to be with you anymore and i want to just be friends. as for now i say you date other people or just start going out with friends and having fun for now. but as far as i know breaks usually don't work out.