Does age matter in marriage!?

Question

My GF is 6yrs elder. I am 27 & she's 34. we've been goin around for 4yrs now.I love her lots & she loves me too. But whn we fight our fights are very ugly coz we both are very headstrong. Our chemistry is very strong. Our relationship has gone thru some serious ups & downs. She cheated on me once,but she apologized & i forgave her for a fresh start coz i luv her too. We've been talkin'bout marriage. Our families are against this marriage coz of the age difference & our fights. They think this marriage will not survive long. However my GF is ready to fight out everyone to settle with me. My friends & my family pressurized me to rethink & ultimately i chickened out coz now i was unsure if age diff will work & refused her for marriage. I think about her everyday & havn't been able to move on. Sometimes i feel very strongly to go against the wishes of everyone but am not able to gather the courage thinking my friends & family will laugh at me for marying a girl 6 yrs elder. What shud i do?

Answer 1

I married a women older than me, granted she is only 9 months older than me, but she is still older than me. I can tell you this. I would not trade her for anyone younger than me.

Answer 2

I am a 27 yr old with a 37 yr old black man Love does not see age or color for that matter if you truly love the person you are with and are happy that is all that matters. May be the two of you should think about going to a pre-marriage class before you jump into marriage for the simple fact of the fighting that is never healthy. I give you props for forgiving her for cheating that is a very hard thing to get over. To forgive is one thing but you need to ask yourself do you still trust?? If she were to go out one night with some of her friends would you question if she cheated again and re-open old wounds??

Answer 3

Look, age doesn't matter in a marriage since both of you are adults. Now, before getting married; you have to make sure that is what you want and then work on the arguments. If the fights gets ugly now; what would happen when you two get married? Both of you have to work on that before jumping into marriage at this moment.

Nobody can tell you who to marry or to date; that is your choice no matter what people say. Also, you have to know what you want and go after it as headstrong as you are.

P.S. Me and my fiance' is 10 years apart so age doesn't matter in marriage unless you're under 20 years old.

Answer 4

You know this where people go wrong. yes your family loves you but is it their life you living or is it yours. If you feel its right to marry her do it. Second if you want to make your marriage work never mention the cheating again it will just grow into something else you dont want. There is nothing wrong with the age differance. Your both at the age you know what you want. Dont let someone else live your life for you.

I guess the ultimate question to you is will you be happy if your family gets their way and you are alone or you live your own life you know you are an adult and if your family doesnt respect that o-well for them.

Answer 5

of course famiy will have alot to say about your relatinonship...but they are not in that relationship you and your girlfriend are...you and he are the only two who has the final say....you experience good and bad times , all couples do..it is the leasons that you learn while being with that person that makes all the difference in the world. Does she make you wanna be a better person, does she respect and love you? Is she supportive and geniuine? You have to take the good with the bad in any relationships..it is when the good out weighs the bad when you know you have something special. Dont give up just because of the age difference. Age is nothing but a number.

Answer 6

To answer your question, age doesn't really matter once you are not teenagers anymore. I am 28, and my future husband is 40. Some people have made snotty remarks (like women his own age who want him but can't have him because he's mine haha), but most people don't even care.

But your situation is a little different. I somehow get the feeling that age isn't the only concern that your friends and family have. Maybe they're concerned because she cheated or because your fights are so bad. I don't know. But a 7 year age difference isn't really significant enough to piss people off so much.

Answer 7

A. Age really doesnt matter
B. You still shouldnt get married because the fights wont stop, they will only get worse.
C. If she cheated once, she will cheat again. . She probably wouldnt forgive you if you cheated. She is in control of this relationship. Be a man, not a doormat.

Your family and friends are right...that marraige wont last. Time to move on...there are plenty of women out there who would never cheat. Go find one.

Answer 8

Only love matters in marriage not age.

My girl friend's fiance` is 13 years older than her (she is 25) and they love each other unconditionally and that is good enough for me and her family we support them a 100%.

You should not have paid so much attention to what everybody else wants you should have focused on what you wanted, and what was best for both of you. Its after all your life. now its the both of you that hurting

Answer 9

there us nothing wrong with getting married to some that is only 6 years older than u. cause u are grown and she is too. so its really up to u to decide if u want to marry this person. but really there is nothing wrong with gettting married to someone that is older than u. who cares what ur family think. u wouldnt care what people think if u really love this person. cause really thats all that matters now days is how u feel about that person. i mean nobody can get in the way on how u feel about someone unless there in ur shoe. i think u should go on with ur life and married that girl and be happy and dont worry about other people.

Answer 10

well my dad is older than my mom by 7 years .... they are both headstrong and I've only seen them fight really bad 3 times in my whole life!!! they're the best couple and they act there there is no age difference! so i think you should marry her!!

Answer 11

hello
just tell your family that if they don't approve of it the you will elope(don't actually do it, just pretend) and they will lose all contact with you. If they act like they don't care then don't contact them for a week, on the 7nth day phone(on a cell or pay phone) and tell them they missed a fantastic wedding! then tell them you love them and put the phone down. phone 2 days later and tell them you want to invite them over for dinner and if they say yes on the night that they come propose to your girlfriend and show them how much you love her and if they say no then i want you to remember that this is you're one shot at true love and that it's YOURS and only YOURS not theirs. they'll approve eventually. trust me. i trust your love.

p.s if they do take the eloping thing seriosly on your first try then invite them over and do the dinner that i told you about.