What shall i do?

Question

In reference to my last question (am I right to go mad) what should I do? I love this guy but wanna make him see that he can't walk all over me. Hes hurt me before like this and I swallowed it, is he wrapping me round his little finger now? How can I make him see?

Guys feel free to answer too I wont bite ur head off lol. Would be useful to get a guys perspective actaully. x

Answer 1

Sit him down and talk to him and give him an ultimatum if he does not change then as much as it hurts, show him the door. You are worth more than that and deserve his respect or he can find someone else to treat like trash. Best of luck to you.

Answer 2

There is an old saying,

Hurt me once shame on you, hurt me twice shame on me.

If he truly loves you he would never hurt you, one thing is for sure we are all fully accountable for our own discisions, a lesson I learned in my last relationship, I allowed my partner to hurt me and instead of doing the correct thing I stayed and got even more hurt the next time,

So look after yourself, you will find someone who will respect you more and you will not have to worry about this kinda thing.

Answer 3

"Dump him"...Now that is an answer i hear commonly from people who dont understand what it is to feel love from your partner.

If the person is telling you what to do then it could be due to a number of reasons; one, you may be so intoxicated with a feeling of complete craziness that you fail to realise that this person is giving or trying to give advice that is really in your best interest. two, your too use to doing things your own way and rebel at the very idea of someone else trying to give advice that is indeed in your best interest. three, you dont love him enough to take his views or opinions into consideration. four, your so wrapped up into your own world that you (see point two and three....see my whole argument!) that you dont care what he feels or what he is saying to you. five, be an individual rather than a couple that share each others views and doesnt just actually listen but is actually prepared to carry some of them out, because he may "listen" to you but fails to even take into proper consideration of your feelings, if he refuses to change for you and rebels at the very mention of your ideas then leave him or try to "fix" him like you so elegant and beautiful women do.

Edit: I love the whole argument of men "trying to walk all over women" dont these people (women! )understand that these guys arent walking all over them? If two people in LOVE are having a conversation and the other guy so happens to say you look beautiful in that dress but i would say you look down right jaw-droppingly beautiful in the white one...now is that a compliment or the guy "trying to walk all over you"?? I love to hear the views of these people (with quite clearly absurd and nonsensical views).

Please, answer this; "does your man love (and is in love) with you??".

Ans. If you dont know then your yet to understand relationship problems...seek guidance from people that actually know this person your referring to and ask them whether he ever told someone to do something that was in his best interest or theirs? I think you will find if the guy your with is a decent man, and a very caring (could also believe in God and is God fearing) man. Then, you will find that he is, perhaps, just like me...he cares for your interests only, and doesnt care how he looks, for example, because he knows there is only one woman he wants to be with, so why should looking good or treating himself good matter when he has you to love.

Answer 4

Actions speak louder than words (I assume you have told him). Next time, just leave. It will take more than once for him to learn that some behavior is not acceptable.

Answer 5

tell him that he cant walk all over you. if he starts doing the same thing you know whats gonna happen so tell himn that if he doesnt start treating you right your gonna leave. i know its hard to leave someone you love but if things ant right you gotta get out!

Answer 6

Look elsewhere.