I am good friends with this girl, I care for her, I listen and help her with whatever is troubling her, I always help her to think positive, I give her gifts on special occasions such as her birthday, valentines of this year, sometimes i would just show up @ her work and surprise her with a small gift and a hello w/ a big hug along with it. She once told me about 9 months ago that "Its not possible for you and me" I never understood why...Her and I hang out a lot and I make sure to comfort her when she is feeling exhausted and/or depressed. I was there for her when something happened to her father, I was there when she got a flat tire and I replaced it to her spare, I was also there for her when she was sick and I gave her a recipe on a soup that will help her get better fast. How do you make a girl who says "it'll never be" to start a relationship with you?? I need help. I really want to be with her. Help.
2007-05-31 06:25:09 · 14 answers · asked by PlayinDaGame 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ok....LISTEN UP !!!.......1st = be very sweet n do everything nice like you do....alright ? ....2nd = then suddenly ...dont meet her for somedays... just dont see her at all....but just for a few days !! ....dont tell her u didnt want to meet her n all..jus say you wernt here.....kinda say u were out of town or something .....even though she says she doesnt like u ....but wot i think is dat she is gonna miss u wen u aint dere....serious.....its happened with a friend.....n im sure its gonna be like this with you ...she will miss everything ...what all u do for her n all....she will realise everythign u did..n appreciate it....right now ..she maybe jus takes it for granted !! ...hope this helps...take my adive...please try this...dont give up now
2007-05-31 06:57:17 · answer #1 · answered by m-always-there 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No one can make another feel attraction. They are either attracted or not. Just because you may have a friendly relationship with a woman, does not dictate that she is attracted to you.
One question I have for you is, why is it so important that this one woman has a romantic relationship with you? There are plenty of other women in the world, so I wouldn't waste my time spending so much energy where there seems to be no interest.
However, one other thing I perceive is that you are just trying to hard to force the issue. Go out with other women, have a good time, don't call her, don't send her gifts, stop being a "wuss" around her, and just stop paying attention to her. Believe it or not, she may actually wonder why you suddenly have stopped showing an interest in her.
Women like a challenge too. If you make it too easy for her, maybe she doesn't feel the excitement of the challenge. If suddenly she thinks that you have other women in mind, and that you are no longer interested in her, there may be a change. On the other hand, don't get your expectations up too high. It just might be that she simply has her own set of standards about who she is attracted to, and you don't fit them.
I would again, advise you not to spend so much time obsessing over this one woman, if she doesn't appear interested. Find someone who is, and then spend your time developing a relationship that is reciprocal, versus one-sided.
2007-05-31 06:37:41 · answer #2 · answered by 1greatguy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girls don't like it when a guy keeps pursuing her after he already knows she doesn't like him. It has happened to me a few times and it is very annoying. You don't want to be mean but you don't know what to do. But if she is leading you on that is a different story. I never lead those guys on because I wanted them to leave me alone. If she has made it clear to you that she only wants to be friends, chasing after her is only going to push her away. Trust me, it gets old really fast. Maybe you shouldn't be there for her all the time and she might start missing you and realize she wants to be with you. If not don't worry about it. She is not worth your time. You should be with someone that WANTS to be with you without you begging or trying to force them to be with you.
2007-05-31 06:36:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have this guy at school who would follow me everywhere and I told him that same exact thing. When a girl says that they pretty much are saying that they like someone else. That is why I told the guy that. If you guys would have started to date it would only have lasted for a week. She just wants you as a friend.
2007-05-31 06:32:30 · answer #4 · answered by bandgeak_07 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i do no longer agree.. You in no way comprehend if the dating is going to be long term or no longer, you are able to desire for it.. yet you're in no way specific.. human beings can tell white lies, does that recommend the dating would be short? no longer inevitably.. i do no longer see a correlation with that.. Lies are consistently incorrect, honesty is the ultimate coverage.. yet whilst it involves relationships, i think of the main severe element is that the two companions choose for the dating to final.. that they the two love one yet another.. have confidence one yet another.. and communicate lots with one yet another.. beginning as solid pals builds an excellent beginning place for the destiny, besides as having some person-friendly hobbies.. although this is doubtful how long the bond will final..
2016-10-06 09:32:27 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea it was the same with me. this guy who i was realy gd friends with, was asking me to start a relationship with him. yea i thought he was ok but the thing is when your good friends with someone you dont want to loose that relationship. so she could of been thinking that if you two started dating and u had a fight and broke up that you would never talk to her again. and she might just not wanna risk the friendly relationship you both have right now. thats why i wouldnt date my guy friend.
but then again it could be that shes not attractive to you in that way. but since ure both close friends she might just not wanna hurt you by telling you that tto your face. so i dont realy kno just tell her how you feel and ask her streight why she wont date you and tell her that you wont be mad or upset with what she says and that you just wanna know the truth.
i hope this information helps you.x
2007-05-31 06:36:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever asked her why she's made that statement? Regardless, you need to respect her decision because if you continue to pursue her you may end up pushing her away. Just be patient and don't get discouraged. You sound like an amazing guy and you deserve to be with someone whose grateful for your efforts and kind gestures. Don't invest tons of time in someone who doesn't appreciate you.
2007-05-31 06:35:08 · answer #7 · answered by Kori spelled backwards is Irok 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Step one, start ignoring her.
Step one, start ignoring her.
Step one, start ignoring her.
Step one, start ignoring her.
You're not benefitting at all from your kind deeps and all you're reaping is frustration, confusion, heartache, etc.
Make yourself scarce... she'll wonder why you aren't coming around anymore and possibly realize just how important you are. She won't want to lose that.
And if she doesn't have this realization, she just enjoys milking all the kindness that you're showing her and you can move on.
Go have fun for yourself!
2007-05-31 06:31:47 · answer #8 · answered by Peter N 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont worry man, it hapened to me aswell last year with one of my best friends. she told me the same thing but i chilled and i didnt push it. it was in my mind everyday but i didnt show up i was angry or she hurt me, i continued talking to her as usual but i wasnt meeting her like before. three months ago as we were tchating on the phone it jus happened that she started stories about relationships and i asked her in a different way, if i take a close look, i didnt ask her out but she end up beeing the one asking me out man. i was like "so what did you do to me last time?" she said she wasnt ready for it and she was comfused so i was like cool then, let lol. so you chill and keep cool, keep on talking to her and tchat her up but dont show you like her that much. things chage sometimes. take care.
2007-05-31 06:37:37 · answer #9 · answered by cool... 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Youre a nice guy and its her loss for not accepting you.
After what she said,really,just let her go.
If not,your friendship would be at stake and i believe you wouldnt want that to happen.
2007-05-31 06:35:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋