There seems to be a trend lately that both the woman and a man in a couple will say "we're pregnant" when referring to the pregnancy. I suppose this is the way of sharing responsibility for the pregnancy, but it sounds ridiculous to me, and degrading to both partners. Every time I hear a guy say this I want to yell at him..."you're a man, not a seahorse! You will never be pregnant!!!" Don't get me wrong, I'm the kind of dad who does dishes, changes diapers, and feel that all other aspects of parenting are a shared responsibility, but I will never actually carry a baby due to not having a uterus. I feel this statement actually lessens the importance of the woman's unique, important, and difficult role of carrying a baby. I spent countless hours rubbing her feet, but never took credit for carrying our son.
2007-05-31 06:04:53 · 10 answers · asked by Killer B 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I prefer to show my support and be a team by actually doing things...
2007-05-31 06:11:56 · update #1
I have no problem with "we are expecting..." this is actually an accurate statement.
2007-05-31 06:24:44 · update #2
I personally think that it's silly and an affectation to say such a thing. It's ok to say "We're having a baby" because that's true but the man is most certainly not pregnant so "We're pregnant" is ridiculous. However idiotic the statement might be, it's better to just offer your congratulations although I might be tempted to ask the father-to-be when he's due.
2007-05-31 06:15:41 · answer #1 · answered by Susan G 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I want to reppeat what Havannah said. When my wife and I were of child bearing years, we always said WE WE'RE PREGNANT. We are partners in life and being pregnant is part of life and to the women who is just a little bit above me who says when her husband stick his head in a toliet for 3 months and pushes the baby out he can call himself pregnant I would like you to consider this.
Who sits there in thier bed hearing you stick your head in the toliet to vomit and not just in the mornings and then doesn't say a word because he knows it will only upset you more. Who has to stay up 24 to 36 hours while you are doing all the pushing so he can accompany you into the delivery room. Who stands there and watches every word they say because they know at any moment you could bite thier head off because they said the wrong thing at the wrong time or said nothing at the wrong time. If that is not being pregnant then there is something wrong.
2007-05-31 06:42:13 · answer #2 · answered by mikeae 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're seriously taking this way too literally. Yes, it is true only a body with female reproductive organs can carry a developing child. However, one alternative definition is "about to give new life." Therefore, it does apply to both parties involved. I think you are undermining the joy a new father feels about having a child. I would expect the majority of women you poll would be happy their spouse is taking such an active view on the ensuing pregnancy, as opposed to feeling spited for taking away this "unique" trait of hers.
2007-05-31 06:24:43 · answer #3 · answered by las2507 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
hm.. it doesn't bother me. i find it funny actually. i've tried to include my husband in all aspects of my pregnancy but he still seems a little withdrawn from it. he's still maturing himself so i guess it's hard for him.. but back to your question. i think that when a man says we're pregnant, he's usually very happy and enthusiastic about having a child so it's a good thing. some guys are pretty reluctant. but then everyone's entitled to their own opinions.
oh. and don't worry. we're getting closer to the day and age when a man CAN get pregnant ^_~ don't see why he'd want to though. lol
2007-05-31 06:16:18 · answer #4 · answered by ~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I find it quite warming that a man has taken his vows of marriage to his partner, of his other half, to heart and to proudly tell the world "we are expecting". Yes your right that physically it's not so, but mentally supporting your wife as 2 on a united journey of the creation of family is very special. We all different in the way we relate to the usual stuff, it's a lovely thing to me. Cheers.
2007-05-31 06:17:04 · answer #5 · answered by Ms CMP5260 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would count my hubby as officialy pregnant too when he spends 3 months with his head in the toilet, 2 months being unable to sleep more than 20 minutes at a time (and this is BEFORE the baby arrives) and at least 9 hours pushing a watermelon out. Then he or I can say 'we're' pregnant.
2007-05-31 06:32:20 · answer #6 · answered by magy 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
i have seen this question many times.
i have to say, i love it when my husband includes himself in the pregnancy. it makes me feel like we are more of a team. we are married, we have a family, therefore we are pregnant.
he does everything i need him to, he takes care of the kids while i am sick (and in the case of this pregnancy, i am also recovering from surgery at the same time)
so nope, it doesn't bother me a bit!!!!
i would rather hear a man say "we are pregnant" than to say that it is the woman's problem because "She went and got pregnant"
2007-05-31 06:10:12 · answer #7 · answered by Havanah_A 5 · 5⤊ 1⤋
Yes! and I also hate it when I hear "we're trying to get pregnant." Mostly because both cannot get pregnant and it immediately makes me think of what they are doing to try to get pregnant, all of these thoughts go through my mind, like they're in a chemistry lab or something. I really don't want to know what you are "trying" to do. Please stop announcing it.
2007-05-31 06:11:00 · answer #8 · answered by Princess of the Realm 6 · 2⤊ 3⤋
Why does it bother you so much? If that is how the couple want to refer to their state of being, so what?
2007-05-31 06:08:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
I hate when people say this. "We're" not pregnant, she is!!!
2007-05-31 06:12:41 · answer #10 · answered by confusedinTX 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋