My cousin has hated every guy I've ever dated. The funny thing is, she's only met two of them. My boyfriend is everything to me and treats me like a princess (I return his affection so I'm not a spoiled brat or anything). He's been nothing but nice to my cousin (and the rest of my family) but she still tells me she doesn't like him. I've always said I would want my cousin as my MOH when I got married as we grew up together, but I wouldn't want her holding that honor or responsibility if she doesn't even like the guy. My boyfriend and I have been dating for over a year and are pretty serious and have talked about marriage.
What should I do in this situation? My cousin means a lot to me so I can I get her to see that my boyfriend is actually a great guy?
Also, as a matter of clarification: the rest of my family (including my parents) love my boyfriend.
My cousin is 26 (currently sleeping around with a 2-year-old daughter and another baby on the way), my boyfriend is 23, and I'm 21.
2007-05-31 05:53:16 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It sounds like jealousy but just to be sure pull her aside and let her know that you two will still be cousins but you love him and have no plans on breaking up with him no time soon. Also let her know that if she ever needs you will be there for her because she might think that as soon as you two marry you might put her out of the picture but let her know that blood is thicker then water and that you love them both and want them both in your life.
2007-05-31 06:21:14 · answer #1 · answered by jamaicaladydread 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know you love your cousin and all but it seems to me like she might be jealous that you have a good thing going on and she doesn't. i know its hard to believe that this could be cause she is your cousin and all be trust me this could be why i have a cousin that's a Best Friend to me and i had this same situation with her and it turned out she was jealous the only way to resolve this is to talk to her and have her tell you why exactly she doesn't like your b/f. you guys need to take some time just the two of you and straighting out this situation. one way or another if your b/f is a nice guy and treats you right then then your cousin will have to understand that and get over whatever it is that holds her back from not liking him. if she loves you then she will be by your side no matter what decision you make or what guy you like bottom line. well i hope everything goes well,good luck.
2007-05-31 06:43:52 · answer #2 · answered by Adina B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First thing I dont think its very nice to put your cousin's business out there on blast like that. Second if you are happy and your parents like him why are you so worried aobut what she likes? She is your cousin but you have to be happy. If you want to marry this man and want her to stand up with you, she should because you ask her, not because she likes the guy. If there is no real reason to her not liking him just tell her that it doesnt concern her, she isnt the one dating him or talking about marriage with him. Sometimes people, even family, get jealous of other situations. She may feel jealous of you if she cant seem to find a good man or settle down, you are much younger than she is and you seem to be happy and ready for marriage, you seem much more grounded than her, it could be that she is just jealous of that. Maybe you just need to talk to her and see what the problem is. God bless and good luck!
2016-05-17 21:37:00 · answer #3 · answered by kiara 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell your cousin exactly what you're asking us. Be honest with her and let her know how much you value her friendship - but at the same time gently tell her that she's hurting your feelings. If you truly love this man, than she should be supportive of you. Perhaps she's over-protective, perhaps she may be jealous of you for finding someone special and she feels she can't ? Either way, the truth has to come out, and there is nothing better than telling her exactly how you feel, and go from there. Best of luck.
2007-05-31 06:04:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your cousin is making a mess out of her life. If you go and get married before you have kids then it makes her look that much more like a failure. The only thing I can say is that she sounds like one of those toxic people that every family seems to have. They want to bring everyone down to their level.
2007-05-31 06:55:34 · answer #5 · answered by J D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Given her personal boyfriend history and the fact other family and friends like the guy I would not let it hold to much value. It could be she is just flat jealous that she can't find such a nice guy.
2007-05-31 07:39:42 · answer #6 · answered by SoccerClipCincy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why don't you try asking her to sit down with you and your boyfriend and ask her to lay everything out on the table....all her concerns, what she likes and/or dislikes.....communication is the only way to fix the problem....let her know how much he means to you and if she can't respect that then you don't want her to hold the responsibility of MOH......what matters at the end of the day is what makes you happy.....don't let anyone take that away from you
2007-05-31 06:00:55 · answer #7 · answered by sxyitlngrl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds jealous perhaps of the time you spend with him. If you do decide to marry I would not ask someone who hates your man to be your MOH.
2007-05-31 06:18:57 · answer #8 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look its not what your cousin says its your heart she cant choose who makes u happy . maybe your cousin is JEALOUS !!!! sometimes u can have close friends and family and they say they love u but in the inside they are jealous that they couldn't be as happy as u are now .......trust me that happen to me maybe she wish she had it like u
2007-05-31 06:09:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your cousin needs to get out of you personal life
2007-05-31 07:04:17 · answer #10 · answered by <3 :-* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋