He finished with me six weeks ago and i was absolutely devestated, he ended it because it was too full on for him as he's 22 and i'm 24 and he didn't think we wanted the same things and he felt he was too young to get in a relationship. We were together for 18mths and lived together. I moved out and rented a studio on my own (where i am now) and went on a few dates to distract myself but nothing serious. i met a nice guy who has overwhelmed me with his interest and i can see serious potential but i met my ex last night and he's now saying he doesn't know what he wants anymore he thinks he wants me back. i'm so in limbo, how do i make a decision on what to do???
2007-05-31 05:52:58 · 24 answers · asked by Laura B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Your ex made his bed now he has to sleep in it. If hes unsure still which you said youself then hes not ready. Go after the other guy and ditch your ex.
"He thinks he wants me back"... That means he couldn't find anyone better and hes crawling back to you.
2007-05-31 05:56:40 · answer #1 · answered by beast9156 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with your ex on you both being too young to be in a serious relationship, but the heart always wins over reason. You should continue to date this new guy and in the mean time tell your ex that until he is sure of what he wants then you might consider talking things over with him. Otherwise, if you take him back at this time when he still appears to be unsure you run the risk of him breaking up with you again.
2007-05-31 12:59:39 · answer #2 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you mention to your ex that you went on a few dates? If so he may only be telling you that to keep you in limbo so you dont move on. He may not know what he wants but he needs to make up his mind or your going to move on to someone who is ready to be with you..
I dont know why but guy/girls hate to see their ex's with someone else even if their ex is not the one for them. It just works that way. How could he change his mind in a week? Now he is all grown up and ready. If you go back to him then you lose out on a potential guy that may be more interested in being serious with you..
You really just need to follow your heart but make the right decision...
2007-05-31 12:58:41 · answer #3 · answered by MonaLisa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell your ex that it's too late and you've already met someone new who knows that he wants to be with you. Tell him you don't want to play his little games and that if he really wanted you back then he would've thought things through a little bit more instead of making such a rash decision. Let him know that his decision to leave you forced you to move out of your place and to date other men when you didnt' even really want to. So him saying that he MIGHT want to get back together isn't enough.
Make him suffer a little bit. If he really wants you back then he'll make extra effort to do so.
2007-05-31 12:58:47 · answer #4 · answered by Niko 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The truth's you're two years older than he is and this naturally places you on a disadvantaged position.We all know what they say "age is nothing but a number" this is in theory and it only applies to men and boys alone..they'll be nothing wrong if a forty year old man falls in love with a twenty year old girl;but everything'll go wrong if a twenty year old girl falls in love with a nineteen year old boy.So girl,once beaten's twice shy and if you're beaten twice??? He would'nt have been back if you did'nt meet this nice guy and now he wants you back out of sheer jealousy. I love girls that smart atleast you knew how to handle rejection; and now all you need is a guy who truelly deserves you! All you have to do is show him the door and carry on with your new found beau! don't allow him to sway you but...always watch your back!.Goodluck!!!
2007-05-31 13:22:10 · answer #5 · answered by Cleopatra 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i think you should keep on going out with the guy that has serious potential for a couple of weeks and if nothing hits off then you should tell the potential guy that this might not work out and tell the other guy that you will go on one date with him and if something magical happens then stick with him but if he dumps you again for the same reason or another reason then let him go and live your life without him!!!
2007-05-31 12:58:08 · answer #6 · answered by Kristin S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you do is leave your f u c k i n ex alone cause he's a loser and he's the one that left you. DO NOT take him back. Move on with your life and pursue something with the other guy you met. Taking your ex back will just convey to him that he can finish with you whenever he wants to and you will keep taking him back like a fool. Move on with your life!
2007-05-31 12:58:01 · answer #7 · answered by Jamacaray 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it sounds like you guys loved each other and so you should do what best suits you and maybe you dont have to have a boyfriend because you will be the person who you are right there inside you and you only have to say can we just be friends? and then ask if that is OK, maybe after ask him if he wants a drink or something, you know. then ask the other guy if that is ok too. then we will have a world of laughter and fun.
2007-05-31 13:00:16 · answer #8 · answered by ~* PEACE *~ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The old boyfriend needs to make a decision or leave you alone.
Step lightly with the new friend. You are vunerable.
Your old boyfriend is not mature enough to be anything but a distraction for you. Dump him and make him cry.
2007-05-31 12:56:48 · answer #9 · answered by campojoe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He can't make up his mind. He is still a little boy. Let him go for a good long time if you meet up in a few years great if not then you didn't waste your time on something that just hurt you.
2007-05-31 13:00:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋