any Christians in here to help me with my depression?

Question

i'm a christian and i'm 14 years-old but i've been depressed ever since 2005 and i think it is getting worse. I took this test in a book and it ask question like," how much do you sleep?" and you answer by rating it from 1-5, 1 being the less. When i've finished taking the test, my score was rated Worst Stage in Depression. I really need help, I've been thinking about taking drugs or drink heavily with beer because i've heard that it takes away the pain for a while, but still i believe that it will ruin my health. I'm tired of crying every night while in the day i hide underneath a mask that fools everybody and it makes them think that i'm always happy. I feel like i want to die. i can't tell anyone in here because nobody believes me.
My parents doesn't believe me until i show a proof, i have no real friends, everybody just use me as a spare, and i'm sick and tired of hearing someone else problems and in return those people that i've helped, didn't even appreciate it.

i'm home schooled, by the way, and i live in Malaysia so i don't think that the function here is the same as it is in there. Christians aren't perfect either, although christians believe that Jesus is th Son of God brought down here on earth to go to the cross to suffer, die, and ressurect so that humanity may have salvation and redemption by just believing that He died in the cross, through faith you can be saved. Christians are still human and humans have a nature of sinning.
I also forgot to tell that the reasons why i'm depressed is because i was backstabbed by the bestest friends i have and they turned out to be the worse. I can't tell my parents because i've tried telling my older sister and brother about my situation but they told me that i am weak and i should just snap out of it. I tried asking my mom with question like,"what do you think of a person who is depressed?" and my mom replied saying that they are the people who take things too seriously.

the reason why i hide my face in a mask during daytime is because i'm a christian and i know that i should live my life free not in a bondage of depression.

Answer 1

You may email me at [e-mail] if you'd like to have a adult to talk to . I am a mother of 2 sons, ages 7 and 9.
You need to find someone that cares about you and won't judge you. My door is open to listen, if you chose that!

Answer 2

I can't stress enough how important it is to talk with someone about this, preferably someone trained in these matters. You have to do that before you can start to fix it. I can guarantee you that drugs and alcohol will not help, they will make things worse. Alcohol and some drugs are depressants and when you add those to an already depressed nervous system, you get into a downward spiral. I have experience with that. Depression is a real problem, but thankfully it is an illness, and can be treated and cured. I won't lie, treating it can be frustrating...oftentimes it may take several different tries at therapy and medication, but it is so worth the trouble. Your life is valuable, and dealing with the problems are so worth getting rid of the negative feelings. If I hadn't dealt with it, I would either be dead, or leading a totally useless life. Talking with someone is the best step you can take when dealing with depression, whether its your parents, a trained psychologist, or a pastor. Personally, I got a lot better after going to therapy and taking medication....but I didn't get totally well until I asked God to help me (which I didn't do the entire time I was dealing with it), I asked him to bear the burden of some of the things I was still feeling and heal my pains...I only tell you that because you asked for Christian help. Good luck, and I hope you get better....

Answer 3

the easy answers are to seek professional help and perhaps start taking antidepressants. And that may be what you should do. But the hard answer is that there are reasons why people get depressed, it's not a malfunction of some glands. This world is unreal, people are unreal and don't even know it. They are just going along with whatever conditioning they have boughten into and have never seriously examined their own minds to see if what they think is real. So people do and say all sorts of things without really knowing why or if it has any value whatsoever or if they are just talking to get attention from other people or just giving someone else attention because the other person craves it. The world is competitive and aggressive and that is hard on us delicate spiritual beings. So what I am saying to you is to realize there is a reason why you are depressed - the world is depressing. But you are the master of your own destiny. You can understand that YOUR actions can make the world a better place and that you can decide to not have negative reactions to things (which is really the cause of depression).

Answer 4

Well first of all.Drugs and drinking don't make your problems or your pain go away.As a matter of fact it makes you feel worse after the numbness from the acohol and drugs have worn off.It doesn't take away your problem.The problem will always be there as long as you let it.It only adds to your problems.Not to mention Drugs an drinking will Ruin your physically health as well as your emotional and mental health.
And you said you put on a mask to hide your pain.So how do you expect your parents to believe you if you put up a front?Be truthful and honest with them.I went through it when I was 17.And I came out and said "Look I need to talk to a professional and get some help."And my parent understood and took me.You can talk to your parents,but if your problem is bigger than they can handle don't feel bad about asking for a professional to help you.And if your parents don't want to believe you or listen go to a school counselor and tell them whats going on and that you are depressed.
I don't know if medication is right for you.Especially being so young.It seems like more and more young people are being medicated these days,but if its needed its needed and if its going to give you peace of mind then do whatever you need to do to educate yourself about your problem and the medication you might be on.They also have natural herbs you can take.St.John's wort is good and so is EASE!
But first try talking and figuring out your problem with someone who will listen and will be professional.Try your parents like I said.Then try a counselor.You're only 14 years old.You have your whole life ahead of you.I know it's hard to see the light at the end of the tunnel from a black cave,but don't give up.And Put your faith in God and pray about it.Pour your heart out to him.He does listen.

Answer 5

Dear Unknown
You are going through a very hard and difficult time.
As I can see your problem it brings some points into my mind, lets take them one at the time.
1. At first is to find out if your problem comes from within or without. If it comes from within it could be
a medical or genetic problem and a doctor should be contacted.
2. If it comes from without like watching movies, video games and other influences, and the amount of
time spend with it. It would be a self examination.
3. Alcohol and drugs will only cover the problem, like having a thumptack in your leg and without
removing it placing a bandaid on top of it.
4.True friends are hard to find, as a Christian I am sure that God one day will place a nice person into
your life. Your nicest friend should be Jesus Christ remember the song
"What a friend we have in Jesus"
5. The next point is properly the most important find a hobby and stay very active. You are young
think about your future on how you will earn your own living.
Think about a career and prepair for it.
Another point to remember as a Christian is,

Take my yoke upon you, and learn of me; for I am meek and lowly in heart: and ye shall find rest unto your souls.
For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.
Matthew 11:30,31

Delight thyself also in the LORD;
and he shall give thee the desires of thine heart.
Psalms 37:4

Do not forget to study God's Word and memorize your favorite verses.
If you in need of any future help do not hesitate to contact me. [e-mail]

Answer 6

I was very depressed when I was 14, but 10th grade was much better, and by the time I got to college life was completely different. So there is hope. But for now, you really do need both prayers and to see a dr. Maybe your guidance counselor at school can help you find one if your parents don't take this seriously. Are your parents christians? Maybe you could get them to take you for prayer at a healing room if there is one in your area, I think that would help. Look here: http://www.healingrooms.com//index.php?src=location

I just said a prayer for you. Remember, there is light at the end of the tunnel, this is a painful but very small part of your life. It will get better.

Answer 7

You may be made to feel that because you are not involved in the things which many in your peer group are involved in, that your life is insignificant. That is a lie and it could be a blessing for you in disguise. Maybe someone has given you the impression that life is supposed to consist of daily entertainment and that you need someone else to come and make you happy. The truth is there is only one way to achieve happiness and that is to be creative, productive and helpful to people who do show us some appreciation. When we help others who are deserving, we, ourselves begin to feel needed. Drugs and alcohol are only temporary substitutes that make us numb and dull our abilities to feel, hence to enjoy our lives. As you live daily, try to involve yourself in some activities that your can enjoy and that will help to keep your body healthy and strong. Eat good food and get adequate rest and sleep at night. Avoid comparing yourself to other people because no one is perfect and no two people (including identical twins) were born to be the same in personality, disposition and/or appearance. You will meet other people who will share their experiences with you and some of them will appreciate your help and your company.
Your real friends will not concentrate on problems that make you more depressed and if you develop your social skills and an acceptance of your own unique looks and abilities,
you will not try to satisfy the unrealistic expectations you may currently have for yourself--based on the looks and abilities of others. You must learn to appreciate your own unique beauty and talents and be a friend to yourself. Everyone has troubles but some learn to look at them from a different perspective: When life gives you lemons, make lemonade. Best wishes to you.

Answer 8

Depression is a situation which can be helped by doctors. Alcohol is itself a depressant, and alcohol never helps solve any problems. Street drugs also add to the original problem and do not solve it. Talk to the school nurse or counselor immediately and get involved in a vigorous exercise program. I've heard that some psychiatrists treat patients with depression while jogging with them.

Answer 9

My depression started six years ago. I had tried every antidepressant out there. Finally after six years I found Prozac to be helpful. You should go to a good doctor, tell him your symptoms and discuss all options. On the commercials they say that anyone under 18 it can make the symptoms worse. Depression is very hard to treat but you should try to ask your doctor what the best option is for you.

Answer 10

Precious one - please know first of all that alcohol is a DEPRESSANT - and will make you much worse. So will many street drugs. So do not go that route.

Prolonged depressions at your age may have a reason for starting - but not for continuing for months and years.

Seek a doctors help right away. You need to have hormone levels checked and explain to the doctor the extent of your depression. It is dangerous to go on anti-depressants when you are so young. Anti-depressants plus the hormone fluxes of youth can lead to violent rages. I would hope that if the doctor had to break your depressive cycle with medications - it would be very low doses for very short periods.

You need to tell your parents how you feel - over and over if necessary.

Ask your Minister at church to counsel you. Be honest with him how you feel. Over and over if necessary.

I know from my own life - there IS a demon of depression and it has to be prayed off of your life. Never let it triumph. The Devil knows you can be a power for Jesus if he doesn't stop you - so it is imparative you resist him.

Please meditate on God's word, dear one.
I belong to a prayer group at Yahoo - and on our group page - to the left is a menu that lists "Files" - under files are Bible Studies I've shared with the group - and one is on Depression, Suicidal feelings, and Comfort.

The link to the page is:
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/AnswersPrayerFellowship/

Please get the verses so you have something to help strengthen you against this pervasive depression.

See if you can get your Pastor to help you be joined with another strong Christian at your church so you can have a mentor and prayer partner to help you in your daily struggle.

Try to focus on Galatians 5:22-23 and 1st Corinthians 13:4-8a, and trying to take each of those spiritual fruits and seeking ways to be those things everyday.

Pick one word at a time - and ask God to show you how to be that word during the day. (Don't go for patience until you are stronger. Usually asking God to teach you patience means being put in a ton of exasperating situations.)

Please cling to God, dear one.
I pray you find the help you so desperately search for.
Peace.

Answer 11

Clinical depression is diagnosed by meeting several criteria. (If I remember correctly, there are 9 criteria to apply. Meet 7 out of 9, and your are diagnosed as clinically depressed.)

If you are a Christian, where is your faith? Even in depression, there is hope (!)
"Blessed are the poor in Spirit for theirs is the Kingdom of Heaven." (Matt. 5's Beatitudes)

Drinking and drugging just numb the senses, and do nothing to address the causes of depression. So, that's not the answer.

"If a man has friends, he must show himself friendly." If you want friends, find things you can share in common with others, and get involved. Reach out and help others, and you'll find purpose, and then motivation. Practice getting out of yourself, and you'll be raised out of your depression.

Even exercise and fresh air can help depression. Get active...
Be pro-active when you are fighting depression.