well a few days ago I was driving around for no reason and i caught my daughter kissing a guy, I went in to check it out and the guy she was kissing wasnt her boyfriend!!! well my daughter's boyfriend is abusive and if he found out about this he would probably beat her, i only allow her to date him because he is quaterback of the football team, fame is in his blood, I was just thinking that he should know about this, I know i am wrong to allow him to date her but he is way bigger than me and would probably hit me or something, besides whenever I tell on my daughter to him he gives me a cookie, not just any cookie a ben and jerry cookie, those cookies are huge if you didnt know... anyways should i tell on her? I think that he has the right to know, oh yeah she is 15 so I think that she will learn her lesson this time...
2007-05-31 04:42:39 · 83 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Stay out of it trust me it will only bring more drama
And your a big bitchy gold digger for only allowing her to date him because he is a quarterback...great parenting there
2007-05-31 04:44:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 11⤊ 0⤋
Ok, first of all, stop being an overbearing parent - unless she's doing something illegal or something you specifically told her for good reason not to do, it's really none of your business. Not only will she NOT learn anything if you "tell on her" - she'll be resentful and won't trust you.
At the end of the day, at her age you can't expect her to commit to an adult relationship. What's more is that you have no way of knowing whether or not her boyfriend has cheated or is cheating on HER - so why get involved? Eventually she'll either tire of her boyfriend or the other guy, or both - teenagers at that age are notoriously fickle.
If you absolutely MUST stick your nose in where it doesn't belong, at most you can sit her down, tell her what you saw and ask her why she's doing it and how she'd feel if she was the one being cheated on. Other than that, stay out of their relationship - how would you feel if your teenage daughter told YOU how to act in your relationship(s)??
2007-05-31 04:47:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No!! you are her parent you have to protect your daughter instead of snitching (to get a cookie) you should make sure you daughter breaks up with him.....just because someone is famous doesn't make a world for a girl what is more important is true love and I am sure you don't know what it is because if you would you would not let your daughter be in this situation yeah i know you may be mad that she should cheat but this time she has the Right not even her parent is in her side
2007-05-31 04:50:26 · answer #3 · answered by Hummm... 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dude. Get out of her business. Do not interject in her relationships. I feel you would not want her talking to the other party in your relationship.
If you see trouble coming, as a father, as family member you must warn her. But do not jump and in take over her life or her relationships.
Share stories. Have you ever cheated. Tell her what happened. Have you ever been cheated on or no of some one who has. How did it feel? Tell her about it.
Tell the possible consequences of playing with peoples hearts. of what can happen when you shop around while still some one you were once close to still think that you are being true.
Don't take away her right to **** up, make mistakes or learn. But help her see the storms that may be ahead. Share experiences. and be there for her mistakes, problems and achievements.
2007-05-31 04:50:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Oh my lord - there's so much wrong with this situation I'm not even sure where to BEGIN!!! First of all, you KNOW her current bf has the tendency to be abusive and you still let her date him BECAUSE HE'S A FBALL PLAYER?! How shallow are you? He has fame in his blood? Does that matter if he will one day have your daughter's blood on his hands from beating her? You can try to make all the excuses you want, but it's YOUR fault if she ends up beaten to death by this guy one day. I'm sure Nicole Brown Simpson's family thought their daughter had married well when she married OJ Simpson - yeah, he had "fame" in his blood too and look where that got her. Shame on you for caring more about fame and a big f'n cookie than the safety and emotional state of your daughter.
Secondly, no you shouldn't tell the guy -it's not up to you but it's up to HER. All you can do is sit her down and talk to heart to heart about the importance of honesty in a r'ship.
2007-05-31 04:49:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
LOL...you are the worst father ever!!! No you shouldn't tell him, you should lock your daughter in the house and protect her from the boyfriend--and as far as the other guy you should tell her that she's too young to be slutting around cheating on anyone--son't allow her to see anyone. Even if you have to move to a different state or country. And if you know that her b/f hits her and you allow it to happen because he's popular then you are a horrible man. Wake up Smarten up and take care of yourself and your family.
2007-05-31 04:50:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Looks like your daughter is smarter than you are. She knows that her current boyfriend is abusive to her and she is looking for a way out. You should be ashamed of yourself. You know he is abusive and you look the other way. He does not need to know any thing. You need to get mental help before you lose your daughter by death of an abusive man or because The State has decided that you are an unfit parent. Remember you are to put her life first before your selfish ideas. I am a mom of two and would never stand for this kind of crap.
2007-05-31 04:53:11 · answer #7 · answered by In need of Enlightenment 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well first off, I was in an abusive relationship from the ages of 15 to 17 and got out of it a month after I turned 17. It was the worst thing I have experienced in my life. I couldnt do anything, I hardly seen my friends, and I didnt want to be in the realationship. Your daughter might not want to be with him and the way he treats her may make her do the things she does. Its not easy to get out of the realationship. The worst thing you can do is tell him. That is stupid. Do you want your daughter hurt? If he is abusive then dont let her be with him. Fame or not. Do something about it. Not only is he a harm to her but to your family.
2007-05-31 04:49:50 · answer #8 · answered by ~*~LiL Hectic~*~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you shouldn't tell him, if he is abusive. On the other hand what does him being a quarterback have to do with him dating her. You are just telling your daughter that it is okay to get abused, as long as he has enough fame and fortune to take care of you. In the end you child will grow up with low self esteem, and a gold diggers attitude. Get your daughter away from this a**hole before he kills her.
2007-05-31 04:47:41 · answer #9 · answered by eagleman 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
NO hon, i know you mean well by asking this question, I'm a Mother to, But sometimes we have to draw the lines & let them learn the hard way, Look back when you were that age, LOL i know i woulnt want my mom telling on me, We want our kids to love us, & not turn away, the best thing is, Its hard to, but stay out of it . Let her make her own judging, Boyfriends, Sexual perfence, She Only can Change, You cant change her, Ill Pray for her & wishing you & her Both the best, Good luck & Take care,
2007-05-31 04:49:11 · answer #10 · answered by HELPING LADY 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
correct me if i'm wrong, but i think you're the adult here..but you don't seem to be acting like it. what kind of parent allows their daughter to date someone abusive just because they're the quarterback of the football team? unless you want to go to your own childs funeral in about 5-10 years, if not sooner, then you better put an end to that and pray she goes to the guy she was cheating with. and why are you telling on her if he is abusive????? you're not a very good parent. -that's my advice to that question.. now let's move on.
i think you're full of it..and you just asked this for attention to see what kind of answers you would get. so my smartazz reply back to this would be..share the cookie after he gives it to you :)
2007-05-31 04:49:36 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋