I was wondering what guys think about a woman that they may have a "relationship" or "friendship" with. Do they look at her like she's cheap or a whore or like she doesnt deserve respect or is not respecting herself?
Or do they look at her as someone they have a relationship with that isnt stressful, that they feel comfortable with & free of drama, and they actually appreciate this person alot?
Is there anything wrong with having a relationship with a guy that involves sex because you have a strong sexual attraction to this person & you also like them alot but you dont really want anything serious & binding, like a "promise" or "marriage" down the road - or a commitment as if you were in a committed relationship? Does this have to mean that the guy has no respect for the woman & is just out to "have his cake & eat it too" or use the woman for sex only?
2007-05-31 03:51:59 · 15 answers · asked by LaLa 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That's a question of morality that only YOU can answer for yourself. I bet that regardless of the number of people answering this question, you're going to get so many DIFFERENT answers that it'll be more convoluted than it was before you asked.
I don't think it's possible to have a sexual relationship without "tying SOME strings". I think "strings" are an unavoidable consequence of sex.
2007-05-31 03:55:56 · answer #1 · answered by Scotty Doesnt Know 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being ok is only something you can answer. If both people are open to it, then it's ok.
Problems arise because what we plan doesn't always happen. People fall in love. Just because someone didn't plan it doesn't mean it won't happen. It does mean that if it's explicitly "no strings attached" the other person is less likely to have fallen in love too.
There is that risk.
>Does this have to mean that the guy has no respect for the woman & is just out to "have his cake & eat it too" or use the woman for sex only?
While these are possible, the same could be said for the woman. Personally, I think they are complete BS. If two people go into it with the goal of getting a satisfying physical relationship, then no one is being taken advantage of - there is no reason to expect there is less or no respect. These are concepts from back when a woman was "branded" if she had sex prior to marriage and would be very unlikely to be able to get married if not a virgin.
Getting one's cake and eating it too - a bogus phrase if I've ever heard one. Again, could be said of either party. This is only the case when deception is involved - where someone is implying commitment to get something sexual when no commitment was really intended.
I've had poly relationships - intimate, romantic, love based relationships with more than one person at a time - there was never any "getting my cake and eating it too". That implies some sort of unfair advantage. The same could be said of FWB relationships.
2007-05-31 03:58:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
yeah but sooner or later one gets jealous, then emotions set in then the friendship is ruined... I mean having a sexual relationship with someone should have strings attached... It makes people look cheap and no respect if really all they want is the sex...
I would want to have all of my partner good and bad times special times romance passion, commttment respect honor and trust thats what i am looking for not just a fling to say i had sex
2007-05-31 03:59:26 · answer #3 · answered by GA 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its called friends with benefits. However, Be careful. These can start out like this but eventually one or both of the partners will develop some type of romantic connection that will become part of the friendship.
Set the ground rules, be honest about the rules, and with each other. If you or he wants more you need to know that now, and you need to hold off until those issues are worked through.
2007-05-31 03:58:13 · answer #4 · answered by lucidity4 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is possible to have a sexual relationship with a man with no strings attached and still be respected. this why all parties are happy no one owes the other nothing.
2007-05-31 03:58:17 · answer #5 · answered by Talithea H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you have sex with someone, you brain releases horomones that make you emotionally attached to that person, whether you want to be or not. So while it could be nice to have a 'no-strings-attached' with a guy, you brain will not allow you, or him to do so. Whether either of you admit it, there will be emotions involved, and that will only complicate things.
2007-05-31 03:56:32 · answer #6 · answered by Mandi Jo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friends With Benefits, which is basically what it appears to be, almost never works. Even with the title "boyfriend" and "girlfriend" attached to it, without the emotion that holds people together, eventually it will fall apart. Either he'll "cheat" or one of you will find someone that you like for something other than sex.
2016-05-17 12:38:35 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait a minute - what you're saying is that YOU want to see someone simply for sex, but you're worried that HE will use you for sex as well?
You need to sort out what you want before you get into ANY kind of relationship, I think.
2007-05-31 03:56:56 · answer #8 · answered by Moxie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife used to do that and enjoyed it. Once at a Renaissance Faire she did five guys in two days. Another time while in Europe for three months she did ten guys. Just being friendly . . .
2007-05-31 05:23:57 · answer #9 · answered by TAUM M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
only if both parties know upfront...............and if either of you see any signs otherwise you need to bring it to the others attention and let it be known that it either ceases or you are going to have to bow out!
2007-05-31 04:03:58 · answer #10 · answered by missinmizeree 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋