Girls: Ruined Life?

Question

At the age of 17-18, how would you feel if the person you truly, deeply love, the love of your life, accidentally gets you pregnant? He will always be there for you forever, no matter what.

1. Would you keep the child?

2. Would you feel like your life is ruined?

Answer 1

Explain how someone accidentally gets pregnant...

Answer 2

I would maybe say you confront her on the whole situation. Mention how she is acting very immature by spreading false rumors and acting more of a self-centered brat. The reason she makes such wild accusations and decides to ruin other people's life is because she is self conscious about herself. Though I doubt this would the the smartest thing to say even at the age of 13. To actually ruin their life, I would ask first whether you know her and her boyfriend actively engage in sex. Though they could be too young (then again I am unsure since it was 8 years ago), find out if they use any contraceptives (condom or pregnancy pills). Try and either put a hole in the condom or replacing her pills with a placebo that is identical. This then would make her get pregnant. Of course this would be considered very dark in my opinion, but it would guarantee that her life would be ruined. It would not matter if she decided to abort or have the child, the rumors will easily spread about her and evidently will make enemies. Her parents as well will not be too pleased. In conclusion, I would say you think very closely whether you decide to try and ruin this girl's life. Karma always comes back to harm you so you better think about what would happen to you later in life if you were to commit something atrocious. Remember you girls are only 13. There are plenty of other things to worry about when you get older rather than someone who is very immature.

Answer 3

"how would you feel if the person you truly, deeply love, the love of your life, accidentally gets you pregnant?"

I feel some resentment here, like a feeling of betrayal. Let me get this straight, again. It takes 2 to make a baby. People don't get accidentally pregnant, they get foolishly pregnant, which is totally different. No amount of argument can top that. In todays world, unless you live in a very rural area, one of those places that has no water or electricity nor education, someone who get's pregnant and doesn't want to is an idiot. Buying birth control is not as tabboo as it was years ago, in fact, they give birth control for free. So many methods of birth control, and even if someone gets so drunk they are not even aware of what happened, there is always the morning after pill, which, BTW, can be taken up to 72 hours later. There is NO WAY a person can get "accidentally" pregnant.

Now that I got this out of my chest, birth control is responsibility of both parties, and if one does not want to wear a condom, the other party should a) say no to sex, b) take birth control into his/her own hands. In fact, sex is taken so lightly nowadays, sex should only be performed when both parties are mature enough to face the possible consequences that may arise from sex, consecuences as a pregnancy, or hormones fliping out due to birth control pills, getting caught...

To answer your questions, yes, I would definetly keep my child (and more if this child is concieved with the "love of my life", and I would feel my life is about to change very drastically, but never ruined.

Answer 4

I wouldn't feel like my life is ruined. I would feel that this is a very big road block. I would however not keep the child. I know that that baby deserves a much better life than I right now can provide. I need to go to college to get a good education, to get a good well paying job, so that in the future when I do have kids I can provide for them and send them to college. But I wouldnt get an abortion. I personally could not live with myself. I would give the child up for adoption. I believe it is one of the most selfless things you can do. and that baby is the greatest gift you can give to an infertile couple. They actually have agencies where you get to pick the parents. That way you know where your child is going, and you can choose who they are raised with.

I've also discovered that he man you love at 18, the one you know will be with you forever, he says he will be there forever, one day dissapears. despite the no matter what. I've seen it happen time and time again. This is what happened to my mother.

Answer 5

I wouldn't keep the child now, just because i remember how much i was in love at 18 and then realizes how much i didn't care a year later.

Not too young to have a child, if you can possibly give the baby a substencial financial support, but too young to consider that this guy is the love of your life, to me. Your life, your passions and opinions will change. So, in a way, yes you'll probably ruin your life if you decide to have the baby now. And, you know that you will have time to make another baby with this guy if he is truly the love of your life.
Take time to think about it, this decision is certainly the biggest you have to take.
Take care of yourself !

Answer 6

Step back a sec... He accidentally gets you pregnant? How about you take some responsibility for what happened?

1. I would not keep the child. (I am pro-choice, but I think adoption can be a wonderful alternative to keeping a child.) I also would not be so naive as to believe he would always be there.

2. My life would not be ruined because there are choices I could make.

Answer 7

I would keep the child. Abortion is murder. I would also want to get married to the father. I wouldn't feel like my life was ruined. A child is a blessing. At that young of an age, raising a child can be difficult, but it is more than possible. You need to make sure this guy will really be w/ you forever. That is why you should see if he will marry you. That will show his true committment towards you. Please don't abort the baby. If you can't support it, then have it and give it up for adoption. Atleast that way the child could live and have a nice life with a family who will love and care for him/her.

Answer 8

My friend kept the child. She is a very strong person and doesn't let anything get in her way. She's not with the guy anymore but she still has classes at SDSU with me.

She doesn't think her life is ruined because she knows she has a future and a life she is responsible for.

When your parents had you, I'm pretty sure their life was ruined because they couldn't go on vacations or anything til you were 18. That's 18 years of baby sitting and taking care of you!

Answer 9

keep the child.if hes gonna be there 4 u there should be no problem with the baby.bc u dont keep the child and u get an obortion than that baby wont even get a chance in life.if u dont think that the 2 of u are doing a very good job at taking care of the baby then ask fam 2 help if that doesnt work then put the baby up 4 adoption it may seem hard but which lifestyle would be better 4 the baby?

Answer 10

I personally would keep the child. I got married when I was 18, and still had three years of college left. I had worked my entire academic life to get into that school. People were afraid that being married would make me lose sight of my education. It didn't. I stayed with it and finished on time. A "surprise" pregnancy is an inconvenience, but in no way does it mean your life is over.

Answer 11

Yes I would probably have felt that my life were ruined, but it wouldn't have been. I don't know if I would keep the child, to be honest. Good luck. You can still have a good life and be successful in a career having a child at that age, IF you are willing to work your as* off and make sacrifices.