i was in a relationship with a guy for two years.He was my online frnd.When he proposed i told him,i dont look gud,he said he likes m y nature and he is not concerned abt other things.Just after our first meet,he started ignoring me.Why does a guy never thin kbefore getting into relationship,even after knowing the fact.How can they break the heart and forget all the days that had spent earlier before meeting
2007-05-30 23:41:15 · 13 answers · asked by whitu 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This is why I'm not a big fan of online relationships, & I believe this may have been as much your mistake as his. Things were allowed to get way too serious before the two of you actually met. I may be old-fashioned, but I believe you have to have all elements of a relationship for it to progress in a healthy manner, & that includes a physical element. No, I don't just mean sex. I mean you need to be in the physical presence of the other person & spend time together. Dating should consist of more than typing messages to one another for hours on a computer, or talking on the phone. You need to find out things like if he smacks when he eats, if you can stand going on road trips with him & put up with his road raging, or even what he's like around his family. I know it's easy to just blame the guy & ask why he can't think before getting into a relationship, but it sounds like you didn't think either. You should have thought about what you were both getting into when you hadn't even met, & if things were getting too serious too soon.
On a side note, it sounds like you need to work on your self-esteem, date a better class of guy who isn't so image conscious, & if there are aspects of your appearance you wish to change & have the power to change, take the steps necessary to make those changes. Best of luck on finding a man who will accept you for you, & on better accepting yourself in the future.
2007-05-30 23:50:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you define relationship?
Did you have sex with him?
It is the oldest trick in the book for a guy to cozy up to a girl to have sex with her; playing with her emotions by saying he loves her or something like that. It is simply the oldest damned trick in the book for guys who are on the make without true intentions.
You say he started ignoring you after your first meeting....I would say this guy has flown and it is time for you to move on. A lesson learned.
But then again, if you only met him once, you don't have much of a relationship to lose to begin with. So don't worry about it. Most of it was in your head, you know, and he was probably playing with your head anyway, to get next to you.
So when you are online, post your photos and give thorough information about who you are and what you are about. This will help prevent this kind of thing in the future.
2007-05-31 06:47:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
All boys are same.
Its true they never thought anything or any fact while entering into any relation.
they only want to have fun.that's it.
Never trust any guy, all are liers. I have seen that almost 99% boys cheats, plays with girls or with their wife's and only 1% guy is good.
So dont feel bad as he is not capable of anyone.
The person who dont understand inner beauty is simply a foolish person.
So cheer up and enjoy life. As it is said by most of the boys that they are not made for anyone not even for wife or parents.
Dont spoil your time , enjoy your life and do what you want to do but always be on the right way.
2007-05-31 06:51:02 · answer #3 · answered by YUSHI 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems that he wasn't physically attracted to you. A relationship thrives if there is both a physical and emotional attraction. He simply wasn't attracted to you physically...what he said about liking your nature is a lie. Guys are very aesthetic and do place a value in physical attraction. Learn from that and move on and find someone else, there is somebody for everyone out there.
2007-05-31 06:47:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is partly your fault. You should have sent him a recent picture, so that he could have an idea of what you look like. and could have made up his mind based on this It is so sad that relationships depend so much on a person's appearance, rather than the strength of their character.
No wonder so many marriages end up in the divorce court, because physical charms fade fast.
2007-05-31 06:49:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anthony F 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is why u dont date online stupid really a guy will tell you wzat you wanna hear online pls go out and find a oak
now on better thing's i am sorry this happend no one deseves that once again so so sorry
2007-05-31 06:46:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its how this society teaches young people. good is pretty, bad is ugly. because of your nature, you SOUNDED good therefore you sounded pretty. even though you warned him about your looks, he still thought you should be attractive physically.its not your fault that his expectations were wrong. his maturity is not developed enough to see that beauty is in the soul more than the body.
2007-05-31 06:55:50 · answer #7 · answered by oldguy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi please dont feel upset.dont feel bad about yourself.guys often go on looks.in an online relationship u become very vulnerable as far as possible dont get into one.try to cultivate friendship with the people around you.
2007-05-31 06:49:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The eye is more important for a man.
2007-05-31 06:44:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop meeting people online
2007-05-31 06:44:59 · answer #10 · answered by superval13 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋