dealing with miscarriage, 9months on.?

Question

I had a miscarriage end of last year and this weekend would have been my due date, i am trying very hard to forget it. I dont want keep going on about it to my family and i dont want to make my husband feel bad if he hasnt remember what date it is? How do i deal with it, or am i being silly? We are trying to get pregnant again but we have had no luck so far, my periods are still irregular....

Answer 1

hi there. i answerd a question like this yesterday..i never had a miscarriage but i lost my son 6 weeks after his birth he was born 14 weeks premature..nothin will ever heal the loss of a child and all ur feelings are normal..almost three years on i still love and miss my son so much..god knows everyday i wish i had him back..myself and my partner are tryin for another baby too for the past 18 months and only this mornin i did a pregnancy test as my period is nine days late and yet again i got a big fat negative and i am completely gutted...my advice to u is dont be scared to mention the date..u should do somethin nice together to remember ur due date whether its goin out for a nice meal on cuddlin and watchin a dvd..dont be hard on urself..its normal..dont let the date go by without doin somethin as a cou[le it may make u feel better..talk to ur partner.im sure he is fellin the same way..god bess and good luck x

Answer 2

Your husband may grieve as well but men deal different with this kind of things. You should have a talk with him bc he may remember your due date but doesn't want to talk about it with you knowing that it is so painful for you.I also had a miscarriage 2 years ago and i got pregnant last year again, happy for my pregnancy untill last week.....my baby girl's heart stoped at 30 weeks.It's still too fresh for me and hurts like hell but i will always remember our due date and the day they induced birth.
You're not silly at all, our fellings make us human, grieving is very normal and don't try to forget it....you never will....just try to heal your heart.Take your mind off of trying to get pregnant and it will happen again when you less expect it.

Answer 3

I lost a baby at 14 weeks. I was devastated. I dreamt of holding the child in my arms and grieved as if I had met them. 6 months later I was pregnant again. And although I found it very scarey I am the proud Mum of a gorgeous 1 year old. My advice to you is this; immerse yourself in something that gives you purpose. Take your mind off it. I know when I was trying to conceive the second time I lived and breathed babies. Sounds funny but the minute you take your mind off it- it happens. I saw a naturopath also. Just remember it happens to most women in their first pregnancy alot of them dont even know its happened though.

Answer 4

I don't think you are being silly at all. You are grieving for you lost child. A lot of people don't understand so I know what you mean about not wanting to go on about it to everyone. Maybe you could set aside a day to spend some time by yourself and just let go. I think if this doesn't help, you should see a grief counselor to help you deal with it.

Answer 5

Likeky he does rememer and he feels just as sad as you do, but doesn't want to acknowledge the pain for your sake, and his. You are not being silly- a tramautic event happened, and there will always be a place in your heart for that baby. I don't know what to recommend to help you deal with it, but I'm sure as time passes, your heart will heal, and you'll be able to remember this time with sadness, but you'll have happier things to focus on.

Answer 6

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Answer 7

I know it is hard.. i have had 6 miscarriages.
Stop 'trying' for a while and get on with other things.. o something to take your mind off of it... join a dance troupe, or quiz team... anything really!

Answer 8

These things just happen. Have you day of greiving, because you need this. And then turn all those negative memories into possotive thoughts of how wonderful it will be to be pregnant. Don't feel so guilty, and beat yourself up on this one. No1 is to blame.
Best of luck, I know how you are feeling. But it is going to happen x.