This is part of a letter I wanted to send my ex who just broke up with me. Can you tell me if there is something that doens't quite make sense in my wording, esp. the 2nd sentence? I've been working on it for quite some time this evening, and I think my brain and emotions are shot. I don't have a clear perspective anymore on what I am writing. So I'm taking a break now. Could you please read what I wrote and tell me if something doesn't sound sensible to you? Thank you. Appreciate this much!
"First off, I wanted to thank you for ever getting involved with me. I consider myself richer that someone like you chose to be with me. Secondly, getting to have this experience of pain, (the pain of being dumped) is another thing I have to thank you for. You know, it sounds funny but it is actually one of those experiences I wanted first hand knowledge of at some point in my life. Weird but I kind of felt like I was missing out all this time.
2007-05-30 22:28:50 · 12 answers · asked by good luck 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Dude dont send it. If she finished with you, then you will throw away every last ounce of pride you have left by making her think she has hurt you. Just leave her to it. If she thinks you dont care and dont need her, then youll be the better person because you just walked away. Also, that'll give her time to realise how much she misses having you around. If you just keep feeding her with memories of you, she wont miss you, and she wont feel any pain, probably if she's twisted enough, she'll just like the fact that she thinks she's twisting the knife.
2007-05-30 22:38:59 · answer #1 · answered by Rachel H 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'd sit a few weeks on the whole thing before sending it off. The whole text seems to imply you are some needy, inadequate little peon that is grateful this demigod deemed to spend time with you. You may feel like that now, but you'll get over this, and one day realize how grateful HE should be that you spent time with him.
Really, if you send this letter off as is, or any letter, for that matter, it will be a cause from tremendous embarrassment. Not only will you look back and realize you were caught up in emotion and saying things that you would eventually realize you do not mean, but how PRIVATE is this letter to be? I don't know this guy, but there's significant risk your letter will not be kept for his eyes only.
What is your objective? To make him see how hurt and sad you are, and how weak without him? How much of a glutton for punishment you are?
However, if you don't mind your angst being made public, and having folks potentially jeer at you for putting your very private feelings in the public arena, by all means, send it.
Sleep on it a few weeks.
2007-05-30 23:00:35 · answer #2 · answered by equesniger 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could use a couple of commas, and some slightly shorter sentences. All in all, it is fine.
Why did you ever want to be dumped? I could think of a million things I would rather experience before I would ever think of that!!
Good luck. You sound like you are trying to hide the pain. Just let it out. Releasing it will be good for the soul. It will help bring about closure.
2007-05-30 22:41:13 · answer #3 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it's commendable that you want to sum up the relationship by thanking your ex for enriching your life. Having said that, it's one of my life rules to NOT make contact with an ex in any way once it's over. So, once you have written your letter, put it in a drawer for a week or so, before you decide to send it off. Ask yourself in the meantime, what exactly are you hoping to accomplish by reaching out in this way to someone who has broken up with you? If you can completely truthfully say that you are not trying in some way to re-establish your connection with that person (which I seriously doubt you will be able to do), go ahead and send it. But don't expect a reply, or if you get one, don't continue the correspondence if you hope to move past this relationship.
2007-05-30 22:40:08 · answer #4 · answered by surlygurl 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
it sounds pathetic! just move on with your life and forget about your ex. or put the letter aside for your own purposes. maybe it felt good for you that you wrote it and let it out, expressed your feelings about it and let everything go. keep a daily journal, for your own purposes, and direct it to your ex without giving it to that person. it could be therapeutic for you on a daily basis until you are ready to move on with your life. you dont owe anyone a thank you or any explanation about why that person dumped you or why your marriage failed. divorces or breakups happen every day. many people are with the wrong person for a reason to teach them that such people are not right for them. some people have to learn the hard way through actual experience, than through thinking it out, reading and making the right decisions before it happens. so, it happened, accept it, you learned something from it, and you are a stronger and better person. now, just move one and look for that right person that you were meant to be with.
2007-06-03 22:28:23 · answer #5 · answered by Fiona 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't write a letter at all. Maybe the excercize is theraputic, but I certainly wouldn't actually send it.
Such a letter will be entirely lopsided in terms of emotions and energy spent. You will have spent hours writing it and wrenching your emotions in the process. The receiver of the letter will spend merely seconds to skim the letter (at best) and move on with her/his life smugly.
There really is no benefit, just as there would be no benefit for you if your boss fired you and you spent time writing him a letter afterwards.
Just my opinion.
2007-05-30 22:46:08 · answer #6 · answered by PH 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Personally I don't think you should thank someone for dumping you. Thank them for the time you spent together , wish them the best in life and that's it. Keep it short and sweet!
I'd also not send it until you feel like you have your emotions in check, you may not feel like this in a few days. The end of a relationship is a process (like a grieving process) so hold off on sending the tear stained note!
2007-05-30 22:36:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Ditch that letter entirely. You make it seem like he was going you a favor or that you were lucky to be with him. Don't you have enough respect for yourself to know he was just as lucky to be with you? Aren't you worth putting yourself first? Is he worth you writing this letter. The biggest way you can get a point across to him is to not write any letter at all and never contact him again, don't even pine away for him. Move on.
2007-05-31 00:01:34 · answer #8 · answered by QueenLori 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Damn, hold off on that idea. I wouldn't thank a woman for dumping me. You just need to get your head cleared out first. You're letting your emotions over take your thinking right now. So take some time out, so your mind will be more rational of what you're really doing.
2007-05-30 22:42:42 · answer #9 · answered by anarchy0029 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, writing a letter when you are disillusioned after a break-up is great therapy for you, but please don't ever give it to him! I understand you are grateful for the time you two spent together, but thanking him for the pain of a break-up is just a little demeaning. Write it all down, get it out of your system, then set a match to it and move on!
I wish you well!
2007-05-30 22:56:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋