2007-05-30 22:03:14 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
'Always?' No. I'm no one's doormat.
2007-05-30 22:05:33 · answer #1 · answered by Alice K 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they messed up enough for you to kick them out the first time, then they come back... And you accept them.. You are telling them "its ok if you mess up, i will be angry for you for a little while. But you can eventually come back and mess up again. Then we can keep on cycling through this horrible relationship." If someone messes up, there needs to be some sort of reprocussion for their actions. Or else there is no reason for them to not repeat that action. Thats no good for you, or them. You need to look at your partners past behavior. Can you tollerate that behavior in the future? Because by you accepting them back into your life your telling them that you can work with those mistakes-even if they come up again. (you can say, 'if you ever do that again I will bla bla bla...' But look at you, your just talk. Look at what your actions are saying-you just let me back in) When people tell you they are going to change, what they are more likely telling you is "im going to figure out a better way of messing up and getting away with my actions, that way there is less tension for you and for me." The vast majority of people mistake love for co-dependancy. They need someone to fill the void in their heart. Substituting a healthy lifestyle with a destructive relationship is as bad as alcoholism or drug abuse. Resist the urge. I think you know this person isnt worth your time. Empower yourself and tell them to **** off.
2007-05-30 22:20:40 · answer #2 · answered by Adventure 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if you love somone enough there is nothing that could ever ruin that love. Trust could be lost but the love will always be there and that love could bring the trust back.
2007-05-30 22:12:20 · answer #3 · answered by Joey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A person will get away with as much as YOU let them. As long as you keep taking them back then they will continue to behave the way they do. So what are you going to do?
2007-05-30 22:09:15 · answer #4 · answered by LindaLou 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea, But if they kept straying off I would make them just be friends with me for a while before I did. That way it shows them you love them but you aren't a door mat.
2007-05-30 22:08:03 · answer #5 · answered by MissTT 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my boyfriend and i had a HUGE fight a few months ago, and in all honesty, he should've left me, and i wouldn't have blamed him. but he didn't. we worked through everything because it wasn't worth losing each other, nothing would be. it's love.
2007-05-30 22:09:01 · answer #6 · answered by :-D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
anyone who does that, has no self love or self respect. people will only do to you what you allow them to do. people will only treat you the way you allow them to.
2007-05-31 12:08:30 · answer #7 · answered by la21unica 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well.. you might want to.. but you shouldnt. then theyll keep pullin their ****... dont take them back unless they deserve it.
2007-05-30 22:06:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No don't be a door matt
2007-05-30 22:06:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It just depends on how much they chip away at your heart each time.....................
2007-05-30 22:06:02 · answer #10 · answered by vperry6 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋