another guy who is known to have abused his girl?
Other day we were at his family get together, one of his couisn who use to be very abuse toward his formergirlfriend. His cousin tried to talk to me, but my boyfriend step in and told him to not talk to me, to keep his distance from me, and if my bf caught him lone in room with me, my bf will give him the same treatment he gave to to the girl he was with.
That guy end up spend whole day outside.
Is he wrong for doing that?
2007-05-30 21:39:02 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
My bf have never theartened me. Hell, he haven't even raised his voice to me in whole 7 months we've been together.
He only theartened his cousin who was abusive toward a couple of girls he dated.
2007-05-30 21:45:36 · update #1
I liken it to a dog peeing on a fire hydrant. He is marking what he considers his and telling all the other dogs to back off and mind their manners.
2007-05-30 22:46:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
As you are his gf, not the cousin's, you were not in any danger of being beaten by the cousin. Your bf had to know that, so I would question what his real motive was in saying all of the to the cousin, especially in front of you. Was he trying to let you know that he is against partner abuse, was he mad at the cousin and that was a good excuse to tell him off, or was he trying to control who you could and couldn't talk to. To me it sounds like he was having a jealousy issue and didn't trust that you wouldn't be charmed away from him by his cousin. His actions let you know how abusive the cousin was so you wouldn't be tempted away. Either way I think the behavior was inappropriate, and I would be leary of him if I were you.
2007-05-30 23:20:16 · answer #2 · answered by wendy08010 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't say he was wrong, nor right. He was putting a man in place, because of his past. However, he may have jumped the gun the moment his cousin talked to you. Unless his cousin raised his voice at you or more, he could've approached him differently. Well sure, his cousin has a reputation of being abusive. But to make your boyfriend not look totally wrong, he could have waited for his cousin to approach you with his unecessary behavior.
2007-05-30 22:18:20 · answer #3 · answered by anarchy0029 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you have a problem? As a man, if I knew that my cousin had a history of beating girls, I would have too intervened. I would have also beat his *** for trying to talk to my girl. For you to ask such a question shows me that you must want to get your *** beat. How is a man wrong from trying to protect a woman from something that might hurt her or possible kill her. Maybe your boyfriend should have let you talk to his cousin and let you experience his violence firsthand.
2007-06-03 12:36:32 · answer #4 · answered by Trojan 1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd tread with care... this is the classic reaction of a guy that has jealously issues.
It shows a lack of trust of You. It wouldn't have been an issue if he trusted you and knew that you would come to him if there were any issues with his cousin.
If you want to read way too much into it... then one could suggest that it's not that he doesn't trust you, but himself. Some guys have jealously/trust issues when they themselves have cheated on a partner or often think about it.
2007-05-30 21:53:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sawman it right.
But I would also suggest that his behaviour is a red flag. Keep an eye open. Attempting to isolate someone is a symptom of abuse as well. Be wary.
2007-05-30 23:05:52 · answer #6 · answered by Goddess of Laundry 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in my view i've got faith that all and sundry who harms yet another guy or woman offensively (no longer for protective purposes) isn't a solid person. until this person seeks help/therapy they are in probability of do it returned. If somebody gets offended sufficient to break yet another guy or woman, then that person is able to get offended returned and do it returned. i do no longer think of it replaced into sensible of your boyfriend to get interior the direction of it although. My opinion could have been to returned off and stay out of conflict with the abusive person. If he tries to combat you with, neutralize the situation and walk away!
2016-11-23 20:53:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats a tricky one. He could have told the cousin in a more tactful way to leave you alone. If he really feels concerned for your well-being around his cousin, he shouldnt bring you around the cousin.
2007-05-30 21:44:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not wrong at all. That is a family matter, and he wanted to protect you from someone he knows is abusive towards women.
2007-05-30 21:42:39 · answer #9 · answered by recklessdreamer 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps it would have been better for your bf to have just told the guy to stay away from you without actually threaten him. However it is his cousin and he knows him; maybe he thought this is what it would take to make sure his cousin stayed away from you.
2007-05-30 21:47:09 · answer #10 · answered by Patti C 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋