I feel completely lost within myself. Having 3 kids, working and going to school I feel that I lost myself. I want me back, but I don't know where to find me!! My husband works graveyard I work during the day we don't see eachotehr really, so I keep thinking is this it??? Will I ever be an individual again, will I ever be a lover again? as you can see I am confused and sad....
2007-05-30 18:57:26 · 5 answers · asked by chicana06815 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Yes you will, make sure to find any way possible to schedule a date night with the hubby... even if it's having the kids on playdates and you two at home. Remember school is necessary but temporary and remind your husband that he is allowing you to accomplish something for yourself (and remind yourself of this also). A degree could allow a better future for your kids. Have chores for your kids and reward them with simple things (a dessert of their choice, a sleepover, etc.). Take time for yourself as well...a manicure, or even just primping in your own bathroom. Involve your kids by having a "dress up mommy" afternoon and let them play dress up too. You will make it!
2007-05-30 19:04:30 · answer #1 · answered by heather dawn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you're heading into depression and role confusion. See your doctor for a mild antidepressant before this gets worse and sets in too deep. Also your husband may need to find a day job if you plan on saving the relationship. People with conflicting schedules like that (especially where you're caring for the kids all the time and stretched thin with school) never work out or the people in them are miserable.
2007-05-31 02:02:33 · answer #2 · answered by Mischele, RN♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's going to be hard for awhile. You need to do things to take care of yourself. Keep a journal, make a date with your husband on your days' off, take a bubble bath when the kids are asleep. It does get better. If you can't shake the sadness, see your doctor for an evaluation. And maybe think about dropping the school for a year, until your kids are older, because you sound maxed out. School can wait a bit.
2007-05-31 02:01:44 · answer #3 · answered by Katherine W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your 'self' is still in there. You've just spread yourself too thin.
Do what ever you can to ease up on the congestion in your life. Think about the priorities. Yes, it must be hard having 3 children but they are yours for the rest of your life. Spend some quality time with them and make time for yourself. It sounds like you are striving for a better life in the future but don't lose the good times along the way. I wish you well.
2007-05-31 04:09:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what you need is some "me" time to pamper yourself and say to yourself "this is my time". i would seriously suggest you try other alternative methods than antidepressants, whether mild or otherwise....do what you used to do try and involve your husband, there are 24 hours in a day, even one hour would be good.
but lady, we have all lost ourselves at some point in time..it's up to you to find you, if you have to put school on hold, do it, it may even help you focus better.
2007-05-31 10:37:56 · answer #5 · answered by chic2081 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋