Should i cry or start punching myself until i bleed?

Question

I say this because i have lost the woman i loved to another girl and i feel happy for her but i feel sad as i can be she's a lesbian now and im crying like a baby that just fell of the slide i dont know what to do i cant eat sleep all i can do is cry and punch myself i have no reason to live anymore i loved her we have been dating for 6years!!

I feel happy for her because she's happy but now i know when i go to school tomorrow i will see her with her girl friend walking throung the hall way hapy and me watching them sadly but feeling happy for them...but im still sad

Answer 1

Just cry.
I know you feel like complete **** right now, but it is only a feeling...all feelings pass.
Don't do anything you're going to regret.
If you need to let out anger punch a pillow or something soft, NOT yourself.
I am really sorry, but it will all work out. I know it will!
Hang in there.

Answer 2

I'm so sorry, love. I honestly know just how u feel. I lost my boyfriend to another girl and I was physically sick for several weeks. Hey, by all means cry, love. There's nothing wrong with a good cry. It'll eventually make u feel better. It's a good thing that u feel happy for ur ex, u'll feel better sooner. I was bitter for so long that it ate me up. Please don't let that happen to u. But that was nearly 20 years ago now and I'm well and truly over him. It took a few months, yes, only a few months, but I soon got on with my life. U can do the same. I know u feel like s*it right now, but that will pass, I promise. There are many more beautiful girls out there for a beautiful guy like u to choose from.
All my best wishes, love, and good luck. U'll feel better soon. It just takes a little time.

Answer 3

NO!!!!! Do not start hurting yourself!!!!!

While self-harm may give you a temporary "fix", you will soon feel worse than before & you will end up hurting yourself to get the rush again. It's just like a junkie with a drug.

You need to get professional help if you have thoughts of suicide or self-harm. There's nothing wrong with getting help. You may not necessarily need to take any sort of medication, but talking to a non-involved third person helps. If you feel as if you can't wait until the offices open or are unsure where to find one, please visit your local emergency room. They are used to dealing with situations like this, & will treat you with respect. No one will know why you are there except the people who are directly involved with your treatment.

You may also want to talk to your local pastor. They're also used to dealing with all sorts of affairs of the heart, & can give you much good advice & solace.

For right now, I'd suggest getting all traces of your ex-girlfriend out of your living space. Throw them away or put them into storage, as long as you don't have those reminders around to make you more miserable.

Please don't hurt yourself anymore or think about suicide. There's so much to live for, & somewhere out there is a girl that is waiting to meet you. She's going to make you so happy that you won't even remember your ex's name.

Answer 4

Just think of it this way my dear....if she wouldn't have left you for another woman, whose to say she wouldn't have had those feelings all along. If she were to just stay with you she may not have been happy. And that's what life is all about, being happy. Now you need to go out and find yourself, which is the hardest part. I promise that although life seems crappy now, it will get better, and you will move on! Just keep your head up high and remember...
"Don't cry because it's over, smile because it happened"

Answer 5

I'm sorry to hear about your loss.

I have a friend that has went through the exact same situation....but even worse he was married to the girl and she left him for THEIR best friend. My friend still isn't right after that situation happened, but he is happy with another woman now. He now just completely and passionately hates lesbians, but things do get better.

Honestly, if she has left you for a woman, then there really is nothing that you can do, but occupy your mind with something else and keep your head up. GO hang out with your friends like you will never see them again!

Answer 6

I know at this point because you hurt so bad that there really isn't anything that will make you feel better, no instant fix, but this to shall pass. I believe there's always one better then the last and so far it's been true. Take each day and try and stay busy and away from reminders of her. Who knows this could be just a phase she had to try and she might not like it as much as she thought. good luck

Answer 7

i know its tuff man. i have been dating t his guy for 5 years and....we do break up every once and a while. when we do i cry and feel like dying. believe me!. im normal and healthy but i still get super depressed. its the worst feeling. but....i get over it. just take it one day at a time. sounds stupid but its true. and keep yourself busy. if u love her like u say u do, just let her be happy. be happy for her, one day. doing that seems hard now, but in the end if your feelings were true, you'll want her to be happy no matter what. and....like i said, just keep busy, and for the love of the baby jesus dont meet girls on myspace! its the devil!! my current relationship problem is based on it. take time to heal. concentrate on yourself for a while. find other things that make u happy. dont' be emo

Answer 8

whatever kind of loss people go through, it is still loss. Crying is normal and you just need to let it out until you stop. Maybe finding another woman would be good, in time. Punching yourself, although it may feel like it, will do nothing for you.

Answer 9

You should never love someone so much that you cannot live without them...that turns that person into an idol...the only one you should love that much is God. As far as the relationship you have lost is concerned...the pain will pass...it always does. Someday she may even realize the error of her ways, but you need to live your own life without her and find new love. You can do it, we all can. Pray about it (prayer is our way to tell God we need His help, to give Him permission to "mess" with our lives for the better).

Answer 10

Man, that would be a blow to your ego. You date a woman for 6 years and she leaves you for another woman? Wow. Maybe she is confused and just experimenting. She may decide she likes men better and come back to you. But you must of had issues or she wouldn't have turned to anyone else, man or woman? Try to not dwell on it, keep busy. If it was meant to be, she will be back, and if not, move on quickly.