Postpone again...?

Question

There's this girl that I asked out on a date 3 weeks ago. That week, she wasn't going to be able to go because she was studying for a big test. The next week, I called her up and she said she could go, but her (single) mom requires her to go in a group or on a double. So I called around and couldn't get a group together, so I postponed it for this Friday. I had it all planned out with this other guy. Then yesterday he called me and said that his girl can't do it this week, but she can next week. I decided to find another group to go with. All since that time, I've been calling around and everyone else I call isn't available for this Friday, and I can't do it Saturday. So should I postpone it AGAIN or what?

What would you do in this instance?

I've already hung out at this girl's house before. I've been there many times. But in the Mormon culture in Utah, it is recommended that boys and girls date in groups until they turn 18. My parents trust me and don't feel this rule is necessary. So when a girl I want to date is required to do a double I accomodate their needs. For more clarification, it is not uncommon for some boys' parents to require him to double until he is 18 too.

I'm 17 and so is she.

Answer 1

I suspect that your question is really, should I give up on this girl and look for someone else? It partially depends on how much you like this girl. The circumstances you describe don't sound as if this girl doesn't want to go out with you.

If I had a crush on this girl I would continue to try to make arrangements to go out with her. Most of the good things in life require effort and perseverance to acquire.

On the other hand, it certainly would be less of a problem for you if you looked for a girlfriend that could go out on dates with just you. It would be easier for you to establish a relationship with her and get to know her more quickly.

I don't know how old you are but it sounds like the girl is around 13 to 14 y/o so I expect that you are about that old. At your age, the purpose of dating is not to look for a wife or to find "true love".

I know that you have you own personal reasons for wanting a g/f but in the larger scheme of things your task is to get to learn about girls and how to relate to them.

Also you need to experience having a number of different g/fs so that when you get older and are looking for a wife, you'll know what to look for in a woman that is best suited to be compatible with your personality and to meet your individual needs.

My best wishes to you, I hope that something I have written has helped.

Answer 2

Listen, this girl has problems..Read your question as if someone else wrote it....Her mom wishes her to double? What kind of family is this if you meant double date with her mom? Anyways real issue at hand if I am mistaken is that her mom does not wish you to go out with her daugher alone. If this is the case, that is a good thing but you are working too hard if this is the truth. You should ask the girl if you can talk to the mom. Ask the mom if you could hang out at the house or something her mom can trust and get comfortable with you with her daughtetr. Explain how you are trying to arrange this. If the girl likes you and is not making excuses, she is probably close with her mom and she has told her mom about you and this situation. If you can't reach the daughter because of the mom then maybe you should forget it and if your paths cross in a couple of years then ask her out when she is older...Good luck

Answer 3

go for another girl
there are tons of them
and sooner or later you find one who does not come with a single mother
why limit yourself

the single mother is right
as she knows the odds of her daughter having sex and getting pregnant and becoming single like her is very high

Answer 4

no i think u should just give it up cause evidently she does not want to go and she dodging it and is to childest to tell you