Sad to say but it sure doesn't seem like it. I've done just about everything I can and can't seem to find any available girls worth having a relationship with.
Nice, personable and just all around quality girls all seem to be dating, married or far too attractive to be in my "average Joe" league.
All that I can ever find left seem to value riches, status and model looks and put everything else in an "unimportant" category. Most will lie and be cruel, essentially spitting on a man's feelings.
I wish I was wrong. But so far, this is what life has taught me.
If any ladies out there have the heart or ability to change this crazy cycle and perhaps change my mind, please email me.
2007-05-30 15:12:58 · 26 answers · asked by onlyget1shot 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sure, I married one.
2007-05-30 15:15:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
The older a women gets the more likely she'll want to settle down with a nice guy, but when she's young she wants excitement and thrill that most average Joe's can't provide, so either wait or find an older woman.
2007-05-30 15:16:42 · answer #2 · answered by Blythe 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hate to say it but that does seem to be true.There are girls out there who dont care about a mans looks or money, but they are hard to find. There is a problem with some of the really hot girls not getting dates. In high school I was HOT. I didn't think so then, I didn't think I was fugly but not real hot. Anyway, I'm 25 now and looking back I really looked hot (not to sound stuck up, I'm sure I do, please forgive me) but in high school I had a total of 2 boyfriends. 1 thought he was gods gift and treated me like crap. the second one was not that cute. People did not understand why I would date him, but he was so nice and so sweet and treated me like a princess. Things didn't work out so after that I only looked for sweet nice guys. Good luck women are out there, never stop looking til you find your princess then treat her like one
2007-05-30 15:20:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
never give up on stuff lyke dis because this is what keeps a human living right...i mean can you say reproduction...lol..but yea dats not wat im tryin to say.. i think being an average joe is good because when a girl goes for a rich person or anything other than the average they mite get their heart broken and they will go to the average joes..i kno it sounds wrong butt that is really all you can do which is wait.....never seem desperate and never low rate yourself. it is better to have a lot of confidence rathar than a low amount..
2007-05-30 15:19:12 · answer #4 · answered by Junnida s 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
In my opinion, I don't get why other girls don't care for nice guys. I mean... you want someone to be mean to you? Or do you just want them for their good looks? I like personality, not looks. Looks are important, but they're not everything. They're just the only thing that matters, so to speak for those girls who like mean guys. I LOVE NICE GUYS! I'm not sure how to change this stupid cycle, and I'm sure know one will be able to, unless the girls get some brains and protect themselves from the men that hurt them.
2007-05-30 15:18:59 · answer #5 · answered by Maria M 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it usually takes you dating a few guys that are very attractive but not nice to realize that it`s worth dating a guy who`s nice.
my boyfriend is the nicest guy, ever.
when i first met him i was interested in alot of other guys and was dating around but when he was the only guy who had been there for me when all the other guys turned out to be jerks, it made me see that nice guys are alot better. he`s alot sweeter too! nice guys are usually the ones who make you feel like a princess and go out of their way to do things for you.
so in the long run, at first you don`t give nice guys a chance but nice guys don`t always finish last. :]
there`s hope! don`t give up.
but if you believe in true love, then love will find you`*
2007-05-30 15:21:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you think that girls won't like you, then most of them won't like you.
Girls can usually sense a lack of self-confidence in a guy, and it is a turn-off to them. If you believe that you are sexy and lovable, then you give off a happy, positive vibe that attracts (most) people. If you think that you are ugly and unlovable, then you give off a desperate & needy vibe that scares most people away.
You have to learn to like yourself, and be comfortable in your own skin, if you expect other people to like you.
Most bad boys act as if they do not care what other people think of them, and it comes across as confidence. Bad boys know that everyone wants them, so they act as if they had other options besides her; women like a challenge, not a desperate, needy loser who has no other hobbies, no other friends, and no other goal in life but to chaise after her.
Bad boys are also unpredictable, and women like mystery and surprises. Next time you ask a girl out, don’t tell her where she is going. Just tell her to dress casual or fancy, and surprise her with where you are going.
Besides, it sounds like you are trying too hard to be liked, by trying to be TOO nice. The kind of behavior that that guys think of as kindness, women often seem to interpret either as manipulation, desperation, or weakness. It is OK to be a little selfish sometimes. After all, you have legitimate wants and needs too, and shouldn't be afraid to speak up for yourself if you want a healthy two way relationship.
Balance is the key here; don't be a totally selfish jerk, but don't be a pushover, either.
You probably don't want to come across as someone who is so desperate for a friend that you would let anyone do anything to you in order to be liked. Like I said, I noticed that most women do not seem to be attracted to a guy with no self-confidence and no self-respect.
And develop a sense of humor. It has been scientifically proven that girls are attracted to funny guys (just don't try so hard to be funny that you come across as goofy & immature).
But don't just take my word for it:
2007-05-30 15:34:10 · answer #7 · answered by Randy G 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe it's just the people you know. But yes, I hear this same thing from a lot of my friends who are guys. And unfortunately, it can be true. Girls can be just plain nasty sometimes. And we never fight fair. Believe me, I know. After all, I'm a girl myself. But I'm fairly certain that someday you will meet someone worth your time. I just hope it's soon. Good luck!
2007-05-30 15:18:58 · answer #8 · answered by Lacey 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i used to be one of those girls, married the most wanted guy in town, and learned my lesson. some day you will find a girl who looks beneath the surface to see what is really important. She will see you for your loyalty,bravery, intelligence, pure heart, and the way you love her unconditionally. Until then, don't become too jaded with girls seeking a ken doll!
2007-05-30 15:19:28 · answer #9 · answered by gipseedancer 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's funny becuase I'm totally not that kind of girl, and yet the girls you describe remind me of the guys that are left for me. I wish I could answer your question, but all I can do is relate.
2007-05-30 15:18:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all, there is not such thing as "average Joe" when it comes to relationships. I have seen really hot chicks with really ugly guys.
Don't give up. Keep trying.
2007-05-30 15:19:48 · answer #11 · answered by Mafia 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋