He told her they cannot not do a DITY move or get reimbursed becasue they weren't married when he got stationed there. They just got married this week and his superiors will not let him off to get her an ID or sign up for onpost housing and other benefits that he should get because they are married. She is staying at a friends house there but needs to come back here to get her things and find a place to live down there. She is only 18 and it is hard to convince her how costly this will be. She has almost exausted all her savings to go down there and marry him and he only gets a small check this week. Hardly enough to get an apartment. I know they are young and foolish for doing what they have done but what's done is done and I hate to see her come home and depend on mom for gosh knows how long becasue this guy if feeding a line of you know what.
Is it true that the ARmy will not allow him to move his wife to be with him jsut becasue they weren't married when he was starioned .
2007-05-30 14:22:55 · 6 answers · asked by JENNLUPE 4 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
she is allowed to go there. His superiors will not let him off to help her get an ID or get the paperwork done so she can move. It seems they could give him a couple of hours to do this, she does not know how to do ti herself or if she can.
2007-05-30 14:44:11 · update #1
Your sister & her husband qualify for BAH (basic allowance for housing) which is based on your where you are stationed. If your sister decides to stay apart from her new husband they can qualify for Separation pay $250.00 a month. Your sister can go online to http://onestop.army.mil to check out the post, family housing, waiting list etc. For your sister to get an ID card her husband will have to fill out the paperwork for her, but doesn't have to be with her when she gets her card. They can also get an advance of pay to help with the move.
The only reason I can think that an NCO or CO wouldn't allow her husband to go and talk to the finance or ID office is that he is in training. Is he at AIT?
2007-05-30 14:45:14 · answer #1 · answered by ~~~*~~~*~~~ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I doubt he's feeding her a line, though if he's as young as she, he probably doesn't have all the answers and very well may have gone about the request the wrong way.
As someone previously said, if he is TDY or in training, he probably isn't authorized to have "dependents" (i.e. a wife) there. They won't authorize housing nor time off in such a situation. Likely though, they would point him in the right way for an ID card for her.
If he is permanently stationed there, getting his family affairs in order would be something they would endorse, if not require. Don't think they'd ship her household goods there (unless he's a recent transfer when he might be able to get them shipped.) Getting her an ID card and setting up housing is something they'd *most likely* give him time to do (though maybe not as much as he'd like).
At 18, how many things does she have and need? Would it be possible to mail them (at least the essentials)? This could be a cheaper short term answer. It may take a month or two to get the BAH or longer for on post housing. Once she gets in the system and especially if she gets a job as well, they'll do ok. The military does take care of it's families though they can be slow to do it. (Military families don't necessarily think they do it as well as they should, but health care, housing and food allowances certainly are better than most civilian employers offer.)
If he *is* in training or TDY, then the housing and household goods will be at the permanent station he goes to, not his temporary assignment.
2007-05-30 19:18:58 · answer #2 · answered by John T 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no, the military will NOT reimburse them for any expenses incurred. since his orders Read Sinlge/Unacompanied, he does NOT qualify for a Household Goods Move. and no, his Chain of Command does not have to give him time off to take care of personal business especially if he is in School. and even if he has reached the real military, his duties come first.
so no, her new husband is most likely NOT feeding her a line. and BTW, he may not be allowed to live off base base, even if he is married.. and she cannot live with him in the Barracks. if he is in school, that is the most likely scenario. Also, he could get denied BAH as well.
If they did all of this without keeping his Chain of Command informed of what their plans were, they can and will make his life miserable for doing things in this manner.
2007-05-31 00:26:34 · answer #3 · answered by Mrsjvb 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your sister is entitled to a part of his income.. And I don't believe his superiors won't let him get a Military ID for her, although she may have to go to a local base to get it. I alsodon't believe she cannot be moved closer to where he is stationed. However, if he is On Orders to be Deployed to Overseas, WARZONE, it could possibly be possible.
2007-05-30 14:32:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not true that they will not let him move his wife. We have a guy in my unit that just went thru the same thing, and the Army paid to move his wife and her crap here. The first thing he should be doing is setting up command sponsorship for his family, I believe he has to see S1 for that.
2007-05-30 15:29:44 · answer #5 · answered by bouv442 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He can file paperwork to be seen as someone who is married but all this wont be in effect until after he temporary duty assignment is over.
2007-05-30 14:27:01 · answer #6 · answered by Law Student 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋