I just want to call it quits and kill myself..........?

Question

I dont know what to do anymore I am a complete failure. I cant get a gf people all know I never kissed a girl and like to bring it up in front of my friends. I live with my mom who is a complete douch that I would not like to see again nor would I mind not seeing anyone anymore. This isnt even a quarter of the **** that is goen shitty in my life.... I just want to give it all up and take the easy way out since everything is so hard frustrating. I need some good advice before I hurt myself.

Answer 1

Oh Puhleeeeeze!!!!!!!!!!

You understandably want company and want to get a reaction out of people, that's why you are writing about this in yahoo Q&A instaed of slitting your wrists in the bathroom.

Girls fall in love with guys that are protective. How on earth could you make a potential girlfriend feel safe if you are not strong enough for your own self?

Leave being the drama queen to us ladies, when the guy takes up the over-emotional role, it is a turn off because you don't have the female hormones to justify the emotional outburst.

Just clean up and go to a local Irish bar or a sports bar, buy the lonely looking girl a drink and start an interesting conversation and go from there.

But for Pete's sake don't whine!!! You are supposed to be a man, you can't play the role of damsel in distress- that doesn't even work for girls any more.

You said you have friends that you want to show off, then hang out with your friends in a social environment and you will meet girls, just don't go cable guy on them.

Good luck to you.

Answer 2

i didn't get a boyfriend until i was a senior in high school, and that was my first kiss, etc. I understand the stress you go through because of it. I wanted one sooooo bad. Finally, when I stopped obsessing over it, and just let me be myself, I now have a boyfriend of 3 years. If your friends keep bringing this up, they are not very good friends. Hurting yourself won't help solve anything. Your life is worth living for. You may disagree with me right now, but when you look back on this, you'll understand! If you are having real serious thoughts about suicide, you really should talk to a psychiatrist. I know, their title sounds scary, but they can help you with ANYTHING! Even girl problems! And no one will ever know you go to one! You'll be okay! There are so many girls out there for you! Don't give up the fight! I almost gave up too...but I was going to become a nun! haha! Take care and don't let life stress you out. And meet some new friends. Oh, and think about college. There are sooooo many new people to meet there!

Answer 3

Your results in life are based upon the choices that you make..for every action there is an equal and opposite reaction....you may be young and have only been exposed to wrong choices that lead to bad results...killing yourself may lead to reincarnation into something even more crappy,so I would definately not do that...you may be reincarnated into a freaing blind person in a third world country that believes raping babies cures aids or something...if you can walk,talk and pretty much have control of your bodily functions and are in the USA,you have it made...figure out what type of home you want to have and what type of vehicle you prefer and what part of the country you want to live in based upon what you enjy in life,and don't care what religious or "morale" objections others may have as IT IS YOUR LIFE...now once you figure out what it would take to make your life more enjoyable,figure out how much it would cost per month plus the cost of utilities,food,misc for "suprises" and just having fun (you probably don't have gf because you don't do anything where chicks hang out) anyway add 20% to the yearly figure to find the income you need and go to school (COLLEGE) to earn a degree in that field;don't forget to add in the money needed for strippers and /or a good mistress once you are married but make sure you marry a chick with a professional income and a Degree....but if not go kill yourself,nobody cares...go sstep on a bug,that is how prevcious most people consider any life to be valued at wether they admit it or not...ten out of ten people are going to die someday...but I would rather live a short happy life than a long miserable one...find what maked you happy in life and then go after it..that doesn't mean go talking some chick,but maybe go jogging and get in shape and then some chick might dig you.....

Answer 4

Well it isn't the easy way out. How about you don't worry about girlfriends right now, in fact once you stop trying you will probably find one.

You didn't say how old you were, but you need to probably write down what's shitty and try to take one shitty thing at a time. You might find your **** isn't that bad. If you want to chat, feel free to IM or email me. But don't do anything stupid...life isn't always easy, and you may not understand it, but there is a reason for everything.

I wish you well.

Answer 5

Don't be stupid by taking the cowards way out! I have been there and felt the way you feel. I understand! If your old enough to get out of your moms house go believe me that could be the best thing you ever did! Get some help talk to a doctor I had to get medication because I was very depressed and that was the best thing I ever done. Depression is something no one understands till they've been there you need to talk to someone and get help asking here will not do it call a doctor. Things will get better trust me!

Answer 6

You know what makes people really want to kill themselves? Relationships. You should count yourself lucky that you don't have a girlfriend to worry about in your current emotional state. The girl for you will eventually come along, but you'll never meet her if you're dead.

In regard to people bringing up the fact that you don't have a girlfriend, you need to stop hanging out with these morons. What's going on in their crap-stack lives that they have to bug you about something so trivial? Pricks! Stop hanging out with them; they're not good people.

In regard to your mom, you live with her, so you're just gonna have to kiss her butt. Listen to what she's harping on you about and be more helpful around the house. I mean, come on. She can't be a total douche if she's letting you live at home free and clear.

If you seriously need someone to talk to you can message me. I'm in the middle of finals (if anyone should want to end their own suffering right now it's me), but I'll get back to you as soon as possible.

Answer 7

As an older guy, I can assure you that things will get better. Try to pay attention to what you are doing when you are doing it and do the best you can. Live each day as it comes. Stop thinking "it's aways going to be like this"
Start a strenuous exercise program and keep at it.
Get a counselor if you can.
Some day you will look back on this time of your life with a smile and a shudder

Answer 8

Well Bud...I know what you are saying.Somedays I feel the exact same way.I too have had some very very rough times in my life and surely thought it would be easier if I just wasnt here! On that note...I now can look back at some things and laugh and so happy to know I got through those times.That is how I am able to write back to you.I know its easier said to say keep your chin up,but please try.Please go and see your doctor and get some help also let family and friends know just how hard life is for you right now.All the best>

Answer 9

To be successful in life, you don't need to have had a girlfriend, a first kiss, or even any romantic encounters. You are your own person, and being with another person will not necessarily make you a better person. Having a girlfriend/boyfriend is not that much of an accomplishment - you've gone out a few times with a member of the opposite/same sex, so what? People seem to put the idea of having a girlfriend or boyfriend up on a pedestal. It's not that important. Being self-reliant will probably get you further in life regardless - by being alone, you gain more experience in being independent. Do your friends think they deserve some kind of award for having had a girlfriend? I certainly hope not.

If you don't like your current living situation, you can arrange to emancipate yourself (on the grounds that your mother is abusive/unfit), or you could arrange to live with friends or relatives. There are many, many ways to get out of an uncomfortable situation. If you're under 18, seek counsel from a guidance advisor at your school, or talk to an adult who you care about and can trust - they could help you to get away from your mother.

Suicide isn't the easy way out. If you're fed up with people, and you feel as though they all want to see you fall, don't give them the satisfaction. Live your life to the fullest extent that you possibly can. Rise above them in any way you can - use their dislike and attempts to bring you down as fuel for your inner fire and to motivate you to do better than they ever will.

Also: find new friends! Those friends/acquaintances you have now don't sound like the type of people you should be surrounding yourself with. Eliminate the negative influences in your life. Surround yourself with people with similar interests to you, people who understand you, and people who would not even consider insulting/embarrassing you. Doing what your friends are doing now is a form of bullying, and you should not, by any means, be subjected to it. Give them a piece of your mind - show them who'll be the one to get ahead in life!

Many people, such as yourself, get much further in life than those who have everything spoon-fed to them. You know what hardship is like, and if you hang on, you'll be able to tolerate more in the future. You'll get farther if you find a way to motivate yourself. If you can take the negative experiences in your life and treat them as learning experiences, you'll have far more to go on than the average person. Hang in there - you're only becoming wiser through what you're going through. Though it may hurt right now, you'll be able to use your experiences to get from point A to B later in life.

Answer 10

ok, take a deep breath. have you thought this through completely? think of other options and what there IS to live for. i know you don't think its much. how old are you, is there some way to not live with your mom, if your young, find a good friend who will house you for a while, i mean if you are ready to kill yourself, you probably don't care that much about getting in trouble. and please, i know sometimes it is nice to vent your anger, if you need someone to talk to, feel free to vent to me, i care about you, i really don't want you to kill yourself. you may be wondering how a person can care about someone they don't know, but i do, and i don't know how to make you believe it.
think of something that you have always wanted to do, something that makes you happy, and makes you feel at home, and go after it. if you can't think of anyhthing, take a nice relaxing walk on the beach, it always helps to relax.
um, let's see, you could try to find some new friends if you don't like your old ones, you may find someone really special. and hey, it doesn't matter if you haven't been kissed and don't have a gf. its no good to have a gf unless she is special, and if you haven't found anyone special, then its not worth it. just wai till the right person comes. but please don't kill yourself.

its hard for me to give you great advice when i don't really know what's going on in your life, please email me so we can talk. i'd like to help you.

but for a first start, try to look at what you do have, and i know that at this point in time, that seems impossible and stupid when it doesn't seem that there is anything good left, but try, and try to do more things that make you happy, and that you enjoy, go on a bike ride, something. i wish i could help you more.

just don't hurt yourself, i will be waiting for your email. i wan tto hear that you are still alive.