My cats (one male and one female) like it when I pet on them while they are on my lap but when I hug them or kiss them (on thier cheeks) they seem to hate it. Do they understand that is affectionate or do they think I'm going to toruture them or something?
Also if you have any advice on how to pet cats or show affection towards them it would be greatly appreciated since I am failing to bond with my new female cat (she has been living with me for 6 weeks and has just turned 1yo)
2007-05-30 12:27:06 · 17 answers · asked by Lailah 1 in Pets ➔ Cats
cats dont really like to be fondled and such with hugs and kisses, they dont communicate that way. to give your cat the affection and attention, pet them and scratch them under the chin. they also like treats, but not in the sense that dogs do where you give them a kibble bone or fish or something. go to the store and supplement your cats food with some of the soft expensive stuff, like fancy feast. my cat will bother me all morning until i give her 1 of those. she gets 1 a day, and loves it! also some toys, like the fishing pole with a fuzzy toy on the end of it will work too.
2007-05-30 12:35:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if they pull away then yes they don't likeit. but every cat is different. i have two male kittens. one loves to be kissed and hugged, and snuggled against. the other doesn't he likes to be stroked from behind the ears to his tail. as far as the female goes it's possible that if you had the male first for a while, he may the reason your female cat won't get close. sometimes when you bring a new animal in the mix, one that 's been there a while might feel threatened. all you can do is pet her, try to play with her, and she will warm up to you. give it time. and treat both cats equally. good luck
2007-05-30 12:35:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hugs - it depends on the cat. I have one cat, Spiffy, that is so used to it that he just goes along with it. Of course, he's 13 and has been with my family for 12 year. My brother was 5 when we adopted Spiffy. Spiffy got used to being handled by people...even when the person picking him up was as big as he was. Now, Princess and hugs are another thing. It really depends on her mood. Sometimes she likes it and sometimes she hates it.
Showing affection - Spend some one on one time with the newest kitty...just play with her, groom her, talk to her, etc. Besides that, just giving her a safe home, a warm place to sleep, food, and water. In time, she will know that you love her.
2007-05-30 13:06:56 · answer #3 · answered by fieldworking 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a pet doesn't like what you are doing, stop. You might be hugging them too tight. Some cats may not want to be hugged. It doesn't mean they dislike you. It simply means they prefer affection to be shown in other ways.
Be gentle with the cats. Speak softly and move slowly. Respect your cats. And, they in turn, will respect you.
2007-05-30 12:35:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anna Lynn 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My cat Tony relatively jumps into my arms! he's the friendliest cat I ever had. He has a general chair that he sits on and when I come into the room and that i confer with him, he jumps and we could me seize him! Now that's totally trusting. I in no way had a cat that did that until now. people think of cats are opposite yet all of them have their diverse personalities.
2016-12-18 09:05:11 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cats are individual as people. I have two. One loves to be cuddled in all manner of ways but the other squeals like a banshee if you try to cuddle her. (Then she comes back 5 minutes later to jump into your lap.) I tend to kiss my kitties on top of the head as it dosen't freak them out. Imagine if a creature with a head 10 x the size of yours all of a sudden got in your face and you didn't know why. You'd probably freak out a little too.
A warm, loving home with plenty of food, toys, and affection is all you need. As you have your new kitty longer you will learn what she likes. You may find it is exactly the opposite of what the other likes. My youngest cat we adopted as a stray. It took several months for her to become used to us and for us to find out what her likes and dislikes were. Now she sleeps beside me every night, curled up against my back.
2007-05-30 17:41:43 · answer #6 · answered by Betsy Jayne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some cats do not like to be held.
It may be uncomfortable to them.
Scratching around and just outside the ears seems to be universal with all cats.
Every cat has preferences on how they like to be petted.
You will eventualy figure out what works.
(I had one cat that LOVED to head butt!)
2007-05-30 12:37:03 · answer #7 · answered by No Chance Without Bernoulli 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I actually sometimes hold mine like a baby and they love it...and try singing to the new cat and one other thing that I have found that is good for bonding is brushing the cat they love it
2007-05-30 12:31:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some cats will never like hugs. I have one who does enjoy occasional brief hugs- but more than that, and he will protest.
Give your kitties time, but in the meanwhile don't press the issue. Who knows? Some day they might sit in your lap and ask you to hug them!
2007-05-30 12:35:14 · answer #9 · answered by Tigger 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Cats really dont like to be hugged.
One of my cats likes it when I stick my nose close to his for an 'eskimo' kiss. Cats just like to be the ones in charge.
2007-05-30 12:38:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋