Ok, there is this guy and we have been "dating-friends with benefits" for over a year and a half on and off. Are kids are really good friends. I keep his and he keeps mine. We have had family movie night etc. Of course I want more than what he wants everytime he even feels that we are getting to the point where we have THE TALK. I dont hear from him for a couple of weeks and then he always comes back. I need to let him go. The only thing is he will always be there we have the same friends and are kids are together all the time. I want him so bad how can I get him or let him go.
2007-05-30 12:16:41 · 5 answers · asked by Confused 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds like you really need "the talk" - even if it's to find out where you both stand when it comes to the relationship. 18 months on and off? Does he really commit to the time you spend together? Is he attentive to your needs or is it all about him and his kids? Communication is the key here, and until you guys put it out there in the open, its hard to say where to go next. If he's ready to make a permanent commmittment, obviously go for it. If not, make sure he understands its friends only - for the kids' sake. Continue seeing him for them and their friendships, but clearly define the limit of the relationship b/n you.
You may become his comfort and he'll just come back to you each time he needs to connect, not because he wants to be a permanent part of your life.
Good luck !!
2007-05-30 12:26:44 · answer #1 · answered by mamabear_45 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have to agree with the person above. You need to date someone else and just keep him a friend. No sex. Why should he commit if he is already has a family with benefits. So long he has that he'll keep it that way.
Move on. Or live the way things are.
Good luck.
2007-05-30 12:32:47 · answer #2 · answered by June Bug 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him it is time to make a commitment or leave. Tell him he has two weeks to think about it.
After that, start dating someone new when he will see you. Maybe he'll get jealous. However, I doubt he will still marry you.
There is still nothing wrong with taking care of each other's kids and going out to movies, etc. Just treat him like he was a girlfriend with kids. (No hugs/kisses/sex.)
2007-05-30 12:24:49 · answer #3 · answered by Tina Goody-Two-Shoes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Geesh thats a tough one. I think maybe you should just start dating around and maybe, just maybe, you might meet someone who can help you NOT think so much about this "friend with benefits" guy. Dont sleep with him anymore if you are. And why dont u try the disappearing act like he does to u and see what happens. Wish I had a better answer. love stinks! I swear.
2007-05-30 12:27:46 · answer #4 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to let him know that its bothering you and then give him some time if he leaves again when he comes back after his couple of weeks let him know that you were serious if he doesn't change then you need to. the way to start changing is to not resume the "benefits " part of your relationship then give it more time. he may decide to start talking about your future together or end it. which will be hard but stand your ground.
2007-05-30 12:32:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋