Here are some questions i have about it
- do you think that it is a good idea or no?
- what do you think that me most a person should do while in the fwb situation?
- what do you think is too young to be in this situation?
- do you think it would work out?
- have you ever been in a fwb relationship?
- If so did it work?
- Do you think someone usually ends up liking the partner?
-Do you think they can turn into relationships?
2007-05-30 12:05:14 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Friends with benefits can be useful for boosting your self esteem when dates are a bit thin on the ground, but it is fraught with problems.
Generally, two friends hook up because one has secretly fancied the other, probably for years, and the other one is drunk/depressed/desperate and looking for reassurance. End result: one gets his/her jollies and wakes up the next day thinking nothing has changed, the other thinks that the two of them are going to live happily ever after. Or put it another way, at least one person gets used and hurt.
It's not like that for everyone, esp if both people are honest about what they are doing and why. I think it is easier for older people to be honest with themselves and others. It probably works best for people in their mid-twenties or older.
Will it work out? Do you mean will you live happily ever after? No, it won't. Like I said above, one person gets their fun, and the other gets hurt.
I have twice been in an fwb "situation". The first time I got hurt over and over again, and it's worse when they're a friend cos you can't ignore them and move on.
The second time was good. We were only mates of mates as we both knew what we wanted. I was a lot older as well. (He and his partner now live next door to me and my hubby!)
It's worth a go if you are just looking for fun, but if you're nursing a crush - just don't do it. And it goes without saying: USE PROTECTION.
2007-05-30 12:20:21 · answer #1 · answered by Fifi L'amour 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My view on this situation is:
If you like each other enough to be friends, and are attracted to each other enough to have sex, why aren't you bf/gf?
It isn't a good idea! Too much room for jealousy, std's, etc
This situation should not be undertaken by anyone but especially not under 18. Emotions are too hard to keep straight!
I have never been in a fwb situation.
It would be VERY easy to develop feelings for your "partner". There is a thin line between love and sex.
It could turn into a relationship but since it started with such low expectations, I don't think it will turn into a lasting relationship.
2007-05-30 19:12:34 · answer #2 · answered by Matt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all.. yes I have been in the fwb situation and it has NEVER worked out... and here is my theory.. if two people really like each other and are truly interested in each other... then they would just date and be together... and not be fwb... make sense? Lets say you and some guy both totally like each other.. you two will most likely NOT be fwb, you will most likely be a couple!! Now, if someone only wants to be fwb.. its because they want to have sex and they don't value you as "girlfriend" material... in that case... you might give in, might not.. depending if you like the guy... and if you give in... you will most likely get hurt once it hits you that they only want your body... its happened to me many times and I won't let it happen again.. if you are truly seeking a relationship, it probably won't turn out of a fwb situation.... sorry to say it :( I know it sucks.. but its the truth.. from my experiences..
2007-05-30 19:09:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think fwb is such a bad idea if you like that person you should date and try it then not just fwb. People just use that so that can bounce around from person to person. Of course we all know no of them work out someone always gets hurt. Ive never been in a fwb relationship because they re wrong but i have friends that been in them and i sat their with them while they cried. If that tells you anything.
2007-05-30 19:15:40 · answer #4 · answered by country_girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
- Yes, I think it is a good idea providing things dont get too complex.
- The second point is a tough one. One that I cannot answer.
- I'de say 16 is the minimum age (for me, anyway).
- I think it depends on the people. In the right situation, with the right people, it can work out.
- I've sort of been in a FWB relationship.
- It's worked so far!
- Yes, definetly.
- Definetly!
2007-05-30 19:10:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
For this to work you both really have to be clear on the terms of the relationship. If one person thinks that it means that it is some sort of relationship while the other person doesn’t then it can ruin the friendship. Sometimes I think if two friends try an agreement such as this and it can turn out being more than just sex. Sometimes sex can turn a relationship into more than just sex and I think both people have to be very clear with each other about how they feel so that no one gets hurt.
2007-05-30 19:10:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think this is a bad ideal. Fwb is two people afraid of commitment. It is also most likely the guy(I am a guy) that just wants your body. Not your mind, emotions, or your love. That is no way to treat anybody. This is the worst relationship type out there. I am old fashioned the old saying "If you give the milk away for free the person will never pay for it" (or something like that) comes to mind. Treat your body like a temple, you wouldn't let just anybody in it or would you. You should reserve yourself for marriage, yes I believe in waiting till marriage for sex. It's the only way to truly know if some one really LOVES YOU. If they can wait to have you till then, then they are in love with you and not just your body.
2007-05-30 19:22:49 · answer #7 · answered by coolaid 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think friends with benefits is a wonderful relationship. It just depends on how open minded you are. Predicting whether or not it will work out, is hard to say. Enjoy the moment together and let things fall into place.
larry
2007-05-30 19:08:57 · answer #8 · answered by Larry T 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The Thing with this is someone Is eventually going to end up developing stronger feelings for that person and If that person just wants to stay friends then yeah there will be problems but If neither develop feelings then hey I guess It can last for a while.
2007-05-30 19:09:52 · answer #9 · answered by I_Need_Luv 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes i think its a good idea IF both people are mature enuff..i think some1 in this situation should be VERY open..21 or younger too young..it wont work out to anything serious..yes i have been in this situation BUT we were both very mature & open about it-it didnt work to a mature relationship..and yes some1 usually does end up being involved & hurt..
2007-05-30 19:13:11 · answer #10 · answered by resolucion 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋