she was mostly just teasing me, but then i started thinking about it and we've been together a long time and she's always going on and on about spending the rest of our lives together and marriage, but all the sudden i realized that god will always be more important to her than i am. that if i marry her ill have to settle for second best, second most important in her life
should i break up with her or what?
2007-05-30 12:00:51 · 68 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
She should love God more than you.
What are you jealous. Do you think you deserve more than God.
2007-05-30 12:03:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 14⤊ 8⤋
This is not a surprise. And it's a non-issue. Be glad it's God she loves more, and not some other dude! If she can love God more than you. Then she really knows what love is. You could disappoint her anytime your human. But God will never let her down. If you are not Christian why are you with a Christian girl? Better yet if she's truly Christian why is she with you if you don't even understand this much about Christianity? She has A LOT to explain to you if your asking this question, shame on her for not explaining this better, so you won't feel threatened/bad about this. This is something you should be happy about, it's actually a good thing that she doesn't make you the center of her universe, that would be making you into a god and that is a sin. Besides when a girl loves God more you'll have a healthier relationship, and the girl won't be clingy compared to a girl that loves a man more than anything. You do value your alone time right? Don't compromise your solo time by trying to make yourself her main priority. Believe me you guys always want more attention, then when you get it, you get all cranky and begin demanding some SPACE LOL Think about it!
2016-05-17 07:34:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
All Christ followers are meant to find who they are in Christ, not each other. The strongest marriages are formed around 2 people relying on God rather than each other to "complete" them.
I could never be everything my wife needs, only God can be that. We love each other dearly, but we both love God first. This commitment actually draws us closer together. Think of a triangle...
Put God at the top, each of you at the bottom at the other 2 points on the triangle. As you each move closer to God you each naturally move closer to God. This may be a poor analogy when typed out, but the visual is pretty powerful, so I apologize if this isn't helpful.
The other, tougher question to ask is "what need am I trying to meet in my own life by needing to be #1 in somebody else's life and is it healthy?". I won't try to answer that for you, but it's a good question to consider.
2007-06-03 03:24:31 · answer #3 · answered by small group guy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This life is but a vapor , she is looking at how she is going to spend eternity ! The question is how you are going to live your life to please God and her ? Are you a Christian ? Why would you want to leave a Godly woman ? If you stop and realize what you are asking , you would realize that if all women had their men in 2nd place behind God , what greater love could women possible show their men ?? I certainly would consider it the most flattering of compliments , to lose out in love to God , and finish 2nd in the heart of my love ! You`re a fortunate boy , she`s a keeper !! Of couse if you`re not a Christian , then she doesn`t need to be " Unequally Yolked ", with an unbeliever ?
2007-05-30 12:22:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No offense, but don't be such a crybaby! You're second best, so what!? She's not allowed to dedicate herself to ANYTHING more than you? That's a bit selfish, don't you think?
All kinds of people have to put other commitments first in their lives:
Politicians have to put their political aspirations, along with their duties to their jurisdiction (whether it be federal, state, or local) above their families.
Soldiers have to put their duty above EVERYTHING at the risk of paying the ultimate price--never to return
Police and firemen among many others run the same risks.
Entertainers and professional athletes have to put their trade above EVERYTHING, doing what they have to do without their families and loved ones for months, maybe years at a time.
Your girlfriend most likely falls under none of those categories. She simply has a religious commitment that she holds dear to her.
You should appreciate that she cares enough to let you in her world and be honest and upfront like that. It's not like she's gonna cheat on you with God...unless her name is Mary or something...
Grow up, dude. Or at least don't sweat it. If it is really a big deal to you, maybe you could at least try and understand her instead of worrying about your own feelings on the matter.
2007-05-30 16:11:59 · answer #5 · answered by jermaine 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All Christians MUST love God before anyone else. This is not something strange for any Christian. If you cannot accept her religion maybe you should break up with her because she probably deserves someone better than you(sorry that sounds kind of cruel). If you truly love her you should accept that she loves God more than you. It would be helpful to you to think of God as the source of all good and happiness because that is what He is.
2007-05-30 12:20:09 · answer #6 · answered by NFrancis 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
you should count yourself extremely lucky that you are with someone who puts God first. All Chrsitians love God more than there partners or parents or anyone, we are supposed to, and when you know Him and how amazing He is, it just comes naturally. dont be offended, its a good thing. And if she is putting God first, than she can love you with the love of God, she can love you more than she could ever love you if she put you first.
but you are right, God will always be more important. either you need to make the effort to see why she loves God more, to find out about God, to check out whats important to her by giving church a go, and asking her questions etc, or, you need to do the both of you a favor and break up so that you can go find someone who will put you first, and she can find someone who understands her and who will have the same prioritys.
2007-05-30 18:26:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you need to decide if you love her. I think it is wrong for you to care that she loves God more than you. How can you be jealous of God? He is not going to take her away from you! I think if you really do love her, you need to encourage her and accept how she feels. In the Bible, Jesus says in Matthew Chapter #10 Verse #37 that if you love your Father/ Mother, or even your own children more than him, then you are not worthy of him. So understand, if your girlfriend follows this statement, she is just following what the Bible teaches. Accept it, and you may end up being Blessed for it!
2007-05-30 12:16:08 · answer #8 · answered by lilmann31 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
WOW! Great girl! What you need to do is HOLD ON TO HER; BC she KNOWS her order of priorities. JESUS CHRIST is above ALL. As harsh as that sounds, it is true. We must place HIM above our spouse and our children. It is only by the grace of GOD that we have ANYTHING, and that includes ANYONE!
Since you do not understand this, you clearly have not been born again, given your life over to GOD, you do not understand. HER, on the other hand~ she SHOULD know better to not mess around with someone she is UNEQUALLY YOKED WITH; meaning: Her LOVE for GOD and the PRIORITIES THAT SIT WITH GOD will ALWAYS BE IN CONFLICT WITH WHAT YOU WANT.
And how on earth do think its wrong to give credit where credit is due? DID YOU speak a mountain into existence, the whole UNIVErSE AT THAT?! no. Did you form the very first HUMANS EVER by your hands, from the dust of the earth? Did YOU DIE ON A CROSS SO THAT YOUR GIRL could forever dwell in the blessed and HOLY PRESENCE of GOD ALMIGHTY?
You should part ways my friend; it is BEYOND PROVEN that she will either dedicate herself FULLY to you, and LEAVE GOD, or DEDICATE HERSELF FULLY TO GOD and be miserable with you; because you refuse to see that she is right in KNOWING GOD AND PLACING HIM ALONE AT THE CENTER OF HER EXISTENCE!!!!
You really need to hear the Gospel OF JESUS CHRIST, and investigate for yourself why you need HIS SALVATION. Time is very short, do not wait!!!!!! Read the BIBLE NOW!!
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2007-05-30 22:15:57 · answer #9 · answered by º§€V€Nº 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's sad that you feel threatened by your girlfriend's love for God. She loves God more, but she is not "In Love With God" These are two different types of love as far as I can see. Her love of God will solidify her commitment to you. If she in fact follows in God's goodness, you may never have to worry about her cheating, lying, etc. You can feel secure in the fact that she will always love you, bring your children up in a Christian and good way.
I personally think you should find another person who doesn't walk with God. You are too immature to grasp the importance of spiritualism in your life. As for your girlfriend, she would be better off with someone who understands the depth of religion in her life. Good luck to you both.
2007-05-30 12:11:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Steve,
I would challenge you to explore entering into a relationship with the Jesus Christ of Christianity!
If both of you love God and make Him the "center" of your life...your relationship will be the better for it.
Check out Josh McDowell's book, "More than a Carpenter." I would also encourage you to check out www.godlovestheworld.com for a great and simple presentaion of the "good news. " Read it with her...I am sure she will be pleased to see that you are interested in spiritual matters--don't forget...if you do marry...you will have to confront this issue when the children come...better to face it now.
2007-05-30 12:29:33 · answer #11 · answered by ProfLou 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋